Anger Issues

[Andrew Ryan]

So, I'm really angry at the moment, I have trouble controling my anger, how does one properly deal with anger, wrath and vegeance?

 

[Andrew Ryan]

Bump.

 

[HisHomeMaker]

What does your anger look like? Obviously you don't like feeling this way. Do you have someone you can talk to about it? Does talking help? What about writing? Are you anxious, also? Are you working with a doctor? Sometimes anxiety will result in angry outbursts; counseling and/or anti-anxiety medication may help if these feelings are chronic. Tell us more about your situation.

My husband has a brain injury, anxiety and depression. He needs regular medication or his feelings overwhelm him. I do not have a mental health issue, but I do have feelings of anger sometimes, as everyone does. My strategy is to use that energy to do something positive; I will do vigorous housework, take the dog for a run or lift weights and I always feel better after. I think I might need medication for stress if not for exercise.

 

[Andrew Ryan]

What does your anger look like?

Yelling, cursing, being in a highly irritable state for a long while, shaking.

Do you have someone you can talk to about it? Does talking help?

Talking usually does help, usually my fiancée can calm me down through talking to me but sometimes, for whatever reason, I just won't calm down or be reasonable whereas usually I am pretty cold and logical and rational much like Spock from the Star Trek series.

What about writing? Are you anxious, also? Are you working with a doctor?

No to all three of these.

Sometimes anxiety will result in angry outbursts; counseling and/or anti-anxiety medication may help if these feelings are chronic.

The Navy will not permit me to be on such medication assuming I would even need it.

Tell us more about your situation.

I just often get into an uncontrolable rage even when I don't know all of the facts and there very well may not be any reason to be mad. I don't really know why but I just get angry and furious alot. Usually lifting weights helps.

 

[HisHomeMaker]

Yelling, cursing, being in a highly irritable state for a long while, shaking.

I just often get into an uncontrolable rage even when I don't know all of the facts and there very well may not be any reason to be mad. I don't really know why but I just get angry and furious alot.

I can't imagine that this feels good. Do you know what triggers your irritability? Have others noticed it? Does it affect your work, relationships or sleep? Have you ruled out a medical reason for this? Head injury? Abnormal thyroid or other hormone levels? Have you talked to a counselor or minister? What help have you asked for with this, so far? How long has this gone on? Are you a danger to yourself or others?

 

[SinkingShip]

You mentioned that you're usually cool and rational about things with regards to the anger. How would you describe your mood during times when you're not angry? Also, what are the circumstances around the instances where you become enraged? Do those instances always involve a specific person or topic?

 

[HisHomeMaker]

Andrew, I hope your Christmas was a good one.

 

[GenericTaoMaster]

So, I'm really angry at the moment, I have trouble controling my anger, how does one properly deal with anger, wrath and vegeance?

Andrew. You should examine the intent behind your anger. Excessive anger directed at an external object might stem from dissatisfaction with one's self. Maybe you are insecure with something within yourself, but in an attempt to shield your insecurity you take it out on something or someone else. Sometimes anger can be justified to a certain degree-- and sometimes it is used as a release of emotions that you have bottled up.

 

[MARKedByChrist]

I've been angry a lot lately myself, and more so this past week, but I eased off quite a bit since being here. It's true. But usually when I get angry I just walk it off, listen to some music and eventually I relax. I hate always having to take Ativan or an extra dose of meds, but sometimes that is needed too. I will pray for you Andrew hoping that your anger will subside soon.

-Mark

 

[Andrew Ryan]

I have been making huge progress but I have had some speed bumps here and there, to give everyone a better idea of how I am when I am angry, see the below vid, I do not like this comparison but this is a pretty good example of what I am like, when mad:

YouTube - Hitler's Downfall Original Subtitles

I am not proud of it, I am actually embarassed, I just wish I could get over this once and for all. Everytime I feel I am doing well, it seems like, as soon as I feel I am beating this sin of wrath, I hit a speed bump. I only post this to get help. I wish I could just be cold and rationale like I normally am but sometimes I just get so furious I can't help but explode.

 

[HisHomeMaker]

Being Christian is simple yet so difficult. We try to be good. We try and we try and we hope it is good enough, but we are still ambitious with earthly goals for ourselves. We cannot be Godly and be ambitious. We will become exhausted and angry. Give your all to God. Give him all of your desires, big and little, and you will be reborn in Him.

 

[LifebyChrist]

Being Christian is simple yet so difficult. We try to be good. We try and we try and we hope it is good enough, but we are still ambitious with earthly goals for ourselves. We cannot be Godly and be ambitious. We will become exhausted and angry. Give your all to God. Give him all of your desires, big and little, and you will be reborn in Him.

Matthew 6:24 "No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money."

Matthew 16:25 "For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it."

Luke 9:23 "Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me."

Lamentations 3:38 "Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that both calamities and good things come?"

Lamentations 3:39 "Why should any living man complain when punished for his sins?"

Lamenatations 3:40 "Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD."

 

[LifebyChrist]

So, I'm really angry at the moment, I have trouble controling my anger, how does one properly deal with anger, wrath and vegeance?

Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Selah"

Ephesians 4:26-27 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."

When you are angry try to remain calm.

If you are unable to remain calm them find some form of self expression to help you calm down.

Pray to God for help controlling your anger.

Some forms of self expression could be

Weightlifting and exercise can help calm you down
Swimming
Drawing
Poetry
Singing
Running
Creating something
Cleaning
Read the Bible

Or you could have another hobbie as long as it does not cause you to sin and helps you calm down.

If you are mad at another person

Matthew 5:44 "But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,"

Matthew 5:24 "leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift."

Try to reconcile with the person for mutual benefit.

Luke 12:58 "As you are going with your adversary to the magistrate, try hard to be reconciled to him on the way, or he may drag you off to the judge, and the judge turn you over to the officer, and the officer throw you into prison."

Proverbs 25:21-22 "If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you."

Proverbs 19:19 "A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do it again."

If you are upset about circumstances and not a paticular human then pray to God.

1 Peter 5:7 "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you."

Good luck in managing your anger,

Proverbs 16:32 "Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city."

Romans 12:21 "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

 

[HisHomeMaker]

Amen. Thank you for posting the scriptures.

 

[Julian of York]

I didn't know other Christians had problems with anger!
(just kidding!)
God has made a great and,I guess, semi-permanent change in my anger. Today I was reading this site during lunch break in our hospital public area where we have public computers. A young man came in,sat down,and pulled up some rap or hip-hop music,loud. I lost it,got real close to him ,and said his music was obnoxious and would he please turn it down. Well,high words ensued, but he turned it down. I thanked him. But I had to sit still for a while 1)my adrenilin was WAY up 2)I realized I (Christian grandfather,age 55) almost went over the computer after this guy,and not in Cherristian love 3)Like Cain or any other hot head in the Bible, I could have killed in that moment.
I HATE disrespect, especially disrespect of me(just being honest).

I'm working on it.
Julian of York

 

[Andrew Ryan]

That's where I'm at, by my very nature I'm an adrenaline junkie, I love adrenaline. Love it. I however hate being furious but I think perhaps on some subconscious level I think may actually enjoy it on some weird and almost sick level but in my mind (even while writing this) I know I don't. I hate being angry, I hate losing it. But I also hate disrespect. I can't stand it. I know I shouldn't but I feel people should adhere to a certain standard of conduct and when that isn't the case I snap. I know exactly where you're coming from. Exactly. It does give me some comfort to know that I am not the only one struggling with this. I try to keep myself in line but it's hard. I try to squeeze my fists, grit my teeth and bare it but there seems to be something, always something, that is the final nail in the coffin and I just go off and yell like in the video I posted. I try reading the Bible, working out but I just stay mad because I am not the type to were distractions help because I know the problem I am mad about is still there. I don't know, I pray to God to help me, I work so hard to change but it's just hard.

 

[HisHomeMaker]

...I feel people should adhere to a certain standard of conduct and when that isn't the case I snap.

When I am angry it helps me to remember that my job is to be like Jesus, to love everyone. God is the only judge. Sometimes I will repeat the words "I love you, I love you, I love you," in my head because its difficult to snap when you are thinking about love.

 

[stevesmith856]

HI,
Here are some tips which will help you to control your anger:

1 Do some physically exerting activities like a walk, swim, etc,
2 Try to work out solutions with the person who made you angry.
3 Try to defuse your anger by using humor.
4 Take a timeout.

 

[kitrrnkoyr]

Anger is the emotional expression of displeasure towards an individual or an event. [FONT=Verdana,Arial,Sans] Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up.[/FONT]

 

[cranberries]

Forgiving the people with God's help may help.