And he's back!

[Amber.ly]

I sense some smiley rudeness" from you. I'm sorry but I did watch the video and that is my opinion. We are free to have differing opinions, it's ok. It doesn't make me less of a person or a Christian to not have the "right" opinion about this video. What he is saying is "good" but if it came from an older person that HAD been married for many years I would trust it more and it would resonate more with me.

I think Jennie's response was simple- you could watch the video to find the answer to your question.

Don't look for offense where none was given or implied.

 

[Elliewaves]

ok, everyone should follow that then. No offense from me should have been implied where I gave none as well. I was merely stating my opinion of the video not the OP- before I watched it and afterward which I stated and my opinion was the same before and after. I had the question before and I still held the same opinion afterwards; which she quoted from me so she knew that I had watched it and that made her response come off as snarky/personal toward me and then posted again to pick apart my opinion. What was I supposed to think about her response; when I clearly stated that I had watched the video. Are we not allowed to have a different opinion than the OP? It's ok to have differing opinions; it makes the world go round...... But, I'm surely not going to attack people or be mean to them for their opinions on this video. If you think it's wonderful, then good! But don't OPENLY ask for opinions and then be upset when they don't match your own and treat the holder of that opinion as someone who is stupid and wrong. That's just meanness.

 

[Hadassah_]

Okay...don't ask me to watch anymore videos while I'm at work! Took over an hour to load...ugh!

Okay...I did have to watch this though because I like him and I enjoy the topic.

He's right...a lot of people are deluded into the perfect, happy, loving marriage that we see portrayed on TV and movies and even celebrities. How many times do we see in the news that another celebrity is divorcing because, "I'm just not happy". How many times do we see this in life?

However...I don't think people are well prepared for what constitutes as "work" in a marriage. I don't think I even understand and I've been married before. Something to come back to.

I do agree that we don't only honour our vows to our spouse, but we honour them to God. I am not only making those vows to him, but God as well and that's important. When the chips are down and I just want to keep flushing the toilet when he's in the shower, I need to remember, I told God I would love this man for the rest of my life and respect him as the head of our house and it's probably not a wise choice.

Sadly people marry for themselves and not for God..."I want the perfect man to make me happy!" "I'll only be happy if I have this!" "I'll be miserable if I don't have that!" it's a selfish, but human desire.

When the church quits preaching about how to cater to your spouse and focus on how to show God's love through your love for your spouse, we'll probably see some changes. However, that is a very tough subject to hit sometimes so I don't know how many are willing or even able to tackle it. *shrug*

 

[Saucy]

I really loved what he had to say about being friends before spouses. I totally want to be my future wife's best friend before we got married and I'd never jump into a relationship with someone I don't know.

I know i joke around a lot and stuff, but i'm very serious about my personal relationships

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Im sorry for the misunderstanding, Im not even sure what I did that is a problem, I'll have to read back. Anything I said was meant in all serious and I wasn't being snarky or rude in any way. Everyone is welcome to their own opinion and Im sorry if you felt I meant otherwise. I dont think you're a terrible person and Im not sure how you got that from my post (or if you meant me) but Im sorry about that.

I stated in the OP that I'd like for everyone to watch the video before making a quick judgement and all I meant in replying to your post was that you should watch the video. Not rude - I was serious and meant what I said - kindly. When I use smilies, it;s only meant to mean that I'm being kind in my post, and to let you know to read with a smile.

Again sorry for the misunderstanding.


Edited to add: I never said anything out of meanness.. Im not that kind of person, nor was I upset with any of your responses. I was just reminding you to look at the video before making a quick judgement of what you think he'd say. I posted I said before I realized you had edited your post stating that you had watched it. And I agreed with what you said afterward. I didnt say anything bad about what you said, i agreed with you.

 

[Elliewaves]

thank you for explaining; I really really appreciate that. I'm sorry for any misunderstanding on my part.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

thank you for explaining; I really really appreciate that. I'm sorry for any misunderstanding on my part.

You're welcome, and you're forgiven.

 

[Socktastic]

He makes the same, simple points regarding marriage that many people have made before, and shall continue to make in the future. But nicely done, I like the video.

I like the fact that on the video page he points out this was inspired by something written by the Driscolls - in fact he has a video about the inspiration;
Inspiration behind "Sex, Marriage, & Fairytales" || Spoken Word - YouTube

 

[sidewalk keeper]

He makes the same, simple points regarding marriage that many people have made before, and shall continue to make in the future. But nicely done, I like the video.

I like the fact that on the video page he points out this was inspired by something written by the Driscolls - in fact he has a video about the inspiration;

Not sure I like the fact that he states he wants to "push" people towards a resource. I don't see anything wrong with suggesting though.
I guess I just don't like the word push.

 

[Socktastic]

Not sure I like the fact that he states he wants to "push" people towards a resource. I don't see anything wrong with suggesting though.
I guess I just don't like the word push.

It's blatant advertising.
But for people unwilling to click on the video link and see that this is a poem inspired by a book and his own experiences it does the job.

 

[Thunder Peel]

I haven't seen the video but marriage, like any relationship, should be based around loving someone and putting their wants and needs ahead of your own. It's tough sometimes but when we love others the way Christ does we find joy in meeting their needs instead of them meeting ours.

If I'm blessed enough to be a husband someday I relish the thought of being able to serve my wife in that capacity. Yes, it takes work and sacrifice, but it should be a labor of love and joy.

 

[Touma]

I liked this one a lot more than his other video. I give it props!

 

[Im_A]

I watched a brief part of the video...
All I can say is I am reminded why I cannot stand spoken word.

The message I didn't listen to the rest and probably won't cause I will talk about my details of marriage and making it work etc, when I am actually married.

 

[chuck77]

i didnt watch the video but...

 

[anewday]

I think he made good points, especially coming from someone who has never been married (right ). The main message I got was that marriage is work. And I not only got this here but I've heard that from my parents, family members and friends who are married so......bottom line...marriage is work . I hope to marry someone where I even enjoy the working part of it with him .

 

[chuck77]

I don't what this dude even was talking about. The minute I realized he was rapping/rhyming the message I was just concentrated on seeing if he could actually ryhme the entire thing without missing a verse.

 

[Stravinsk]

The one thing he gets right is that marriage is work, and further, our foundation needs to be in God first.

But then - a lot more yeast to mix in with the dough:

2:59-3:00

"...you've been, made new. You're spotless you're blameless there's no sin, in you..."

Interesting he says this, because his whole premise is that

"we've exchanged God for a lie",

and "we've elevated our spouse to god"

..."yet guys continually offer marriage on the alter of sex and lust"..

So, then it's about "Jesus" (which one does he follow??) making us holy...ok...but wait - if you're already a believer " "...you've been, made new. You're spotless you're blameless there's no sin, in you..."

So my response is:

Iron Maiden-Can I Play With Madness (lyrics in description) 1988 - YouTube

He's the "prophet" in the song.

 

[Ryu2000]

Sex, Marriage, & Fairytales || Spoken Word - YouTube

 

[Sieben]

I haven't watched either video yet

4 minutes is so long for a message.. can't he do a tldr video

 

[Sieben]

lol