Am I Wrong in This?

I'm sorry if this just seems like a complaint thread, but my best friend and I have been having a difference in opinion about something for a while now, and her latest accusations have really upset me.

Since we were teenage girls she was the social extrovert that always had something going on. I was the artistic introvert that was always content to do things on my own.

As we grew into adulthood things changed, life happened, but we were always able to get together and hang out. At some points in our lives we were in each others pockets, working at the same job, hanging out with the same people, and going to the same church. Since she doesn't drive, I basically took her everywhere she needed to go.

Then she met a guy, and, of course, she started doing everything with him. By time they got married, I had already dealt with my feelings of abandonment and I started doing things on my own. Naturally, we saw each other less and less.

In the last few years my friend has started complaining that she's the only one who ever instigates social activity. She has gotten really bitter about this to the point of leaving passive aggressive posts on Facebook about how nobody likes her because nobody wants to get together with her anymore.

I tried to explain to her that as an unemployed introvert, even if I had the money to go hang out at the coffee shop, I probably wouldn't think of it anyway, because I'm content with doing things on my own. That's how I did things before I met her, that's how I did things every time she found a new group of friends to hang out with, and that's how I do things now.

She doesn't see it that way. In her minds eye, I'm purposefully waiting for her to make plans and get everybody together. Apparently, I'm just being lazy and taking her for granted, which I can sort of accede to, if "hanging out" were my goal and not hers. Let me put it this way, it's like she's complaining about me not wearing a sweater, when she's the one who's cold...

The thing is, I have instigated "hang out" time a few times. The problem is that every time I hang out with her lately, it's a one-sided "witch" fest. Between her job (I'm unemployed), co-workers (my "co-workers" are my aging parents), and her husband (not even in the forecast for me), she's a never ending record of complaints. It wouldn't be so bad if I could change the topic, but apparently whatever I have to say is boring. No, really, she as much as told me that I don't have anything "new" to say because I'm unemployed and I don't "do" anything.

Even when we're with her husband she nags and belittles him to a shocking degree. Not that he doesn't have his faults, but I personally don't like that she humiliates him like that in front of me and in public. I don't know if she expects me to take her side or what, because I told her from the beginning that her nagging is on level with verbal abuse.

When she's not complaining, she's ignoring me. I've gone over to her house several times when she was first married and she sat on her computer while I sat there and watched hours of re-runs I didn't particularly care about. When we did go out, she pulled out her phone, after she was done complaining about whatever. Eventually I just stopped going over there.

I mean, seriously, would you go out of your way to hang out with somebody who treats you like this? Especially, when you can be happier at home doing your own thing? It's not like she's always like this, but most of the time, yeah.

@Goodbook: She is a Christian, I can't say where's she's at with her walk with God right now, though.

You have a good point, but she hasn't always been this way. She used to be a very loving and friendly person.
Sure, she has always had a bit of a self-centered-ness about her, but I always accepted that as a part of her extrovert personality. She was always too busy getting to know everybody to sit down and pay attention to one person. Believe it or not, there are times when I would say that she was very thoughtful and caring.

Then she starts complaining to me about her commute to her full time professional job where she's getting paid enough to afford an apartment, all of her bills, and enough on the side to go on several trips a year on her salary alone. Did I mention that I'm unemployed and have no money? I tried to point out that she actually has it pretty good, especially in this economy, and she jumped down my throat and cried that "nobody understands". Yes. I don't understand. Sorry.

Quite honestly, I think I'm just getting sick of her childishness. A part of me just wants to tell her to grow up and consider other people for once. She has a good life, yet she insists that she's being shafted somehow. I don't even know what to say to that. As, @paul1149 suggested, I've tried reasoning with her, but she just insists on hanging on to her bitterness. I think I'm just starting to realize that I can't do anything about it.