Am I really a "nerd"

[LadyGemini]

I feel I need to be exhorted today, I feel like such a nerd. Today I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt that we were too young to have a serious relationship. He told me he was fine with that and he didn't hold any grudge and then he said he was thinking about breaking up with me anyways. So just out of curiosity I asked him why and he said "You're too much of a book-worm, you're always reading or studying something."

Well anyways it made me feel like a major nerd, because I've had other people tell me the samething before. I took one of those aptitude test they give you in school one time and it said that I fall somewhere between a teacher and a librarian. I just feel like such a nerd right now, and nerd in the only word I can think to describe what I feel like.

I really am always reading a book or studying something and because of that I don't have much of a social life. So can someone please tell me, is it a bad thing to read and study as much as I do?

 

[Asgb]

Don't worry about what people think about you, Maybe he could of said that because he wasn't happy about you breaking up with him.

And also, about studying and reading alot, Just balance it out, You can be social and be productive in reading & studying at the same time.

But just remember that God is first, So Love & Obey God, He is Good.

God bless and I hope everything Goes well.

 

[kiaskkyot]

First off, you can't be that much of a nerd; to have had a boyfriend in the first place makes you more sociable than a significant proportion of the population.

You're always going to seem nerdy compared to some people and incredibly un-nerdy compared to others. Reading and studying less won't do much to change how much of a nerd you feel, it's something that you'll be concerned about regardless of how much of a nerd you actually are.

Going out and being more sociable would be a good idea if you'd enjoy that more than staying in. But there's not point in being more sociable just because you feel pressured by others to do so, it wouldn't be any fun and would probably just make you feel more of a nerd than you did to begin with.

In any case, he probably only said what he did because he was upset about breaking up with you. And aptitude tests are generally a load of rubbish anyway (I have been predicted to either become a florist or tattooist).

Although this probably isn't the most useful advice, I basically, wouldn't worry about it.

 

[Mela Monkey]

Nothing is wrong with being nerdy D:

But, just because you like to read a lot doesn't make you wrong.. maybe society will look down upon it because you like to read books, rather than obsess over Justin Bieber, but don't listen to that! You're no different than someone who loves to play football, or loves to fly planes. It's just a different type of interest.


As to your question "is it a bad thing to read and study as much as I do??" the answer could be yes or no. I'm no doctor, but.. i'd ask yourself "am I happy?" or "do I enjoy what i'm doing" because if you're happy/enjoy what you're doing, then I wouldn't change anything.

 

[solarwave]

No it definitely isn't a bad thing to read and study alot. Everyone is different. If no one was like you society would be much worse off. Of course everyone needs the right balance of social time and alone time, but that balance is different for different people.

As someone above me said, you had a boyfriend so you can't be that bad

By the way how old are you, if you dont mind me asking?

 

[LadyGemini]

Thanks everyone for all of your advice, in the end God made me the way He did for a reason and I just need to wait and trust He's going to show me why . Thank you all.

And also I'm 16 solarwave.

 

[solarwave]

Cool

 

[ExaltedReign]

I think I might be nerdy. I watch a lot of anime, play video games for like 5 hours a day, and don't talk very much. I can recite the Green Lantern oath from heart and am a D&D/Forgotten Realms fan. I do nothing but read books in school, but somehow I am still passing my classes. I only have one friend, because people make fun of both of us for the same things. I get called sleeper because I am occasionally (more or less) found dosing of in class. And I love the way I am.

You shouldn't care what other people think of you, but make sure your happy with yourself. Don't be scared, be the nerd you (may) be.

 

[HarborOrange]

Yeah, honestly, there's nothing wrong with reading or anything. Your ex-boyfriend was most likely just saying that to feel a little better about himself, he was trying make himself feel as if he wanted the same thing too. I don't know why he'd put you down, but ah well. Don't let it get to you.

Everyone likes certain things, and there's nothing wrong with reading books or anything like that. No worries.

 

[UnionJack]

LadyGemini, you seem like a great person that i would want to be friends with.

Hope that helps, somehow.

=/

 

[Aino]

First of all, I think many people have given good advice here. Do what you want to and don't let anyone else except for God to define who or what you are. And even if it were true, hey so what? You can never please everyone, so it were better that you yourself like what you do, as long as it's something God would approve of, but you know that already, don't you?

Another point that I'd like to add is that you're never going to regret the education you get when you read and study. Common knowledge and lots of info about a lot of stuff will help you enormously throughout your life, so don't regret wanting to get it.

Oh, and if you don't want to become a librarian or a teacher, don't do it because some stupid test tells you so. They never give too accurate answers anyways. If you have something specific in mind, think about it and try to evaluate whether you'd be good for it and just go for it. If not, go see someone who knows you, like some teacher for example, or even your parents or why not a pastor... Anyways someone who knows you and could have a clue about your talents.

I hope you'll recover from your breakup soon and have a good time in general.

 

[PeculiarGuy]

Don't let any dumb teenager tell you your nerdy. Teenagers can be cruel, trust me, I'm experienced lol. You are developing skills other people don't have. You do need to work at your social life. Find friends that accept you as you are. I understand making friends with teens can be difficult If you read a lot why not read some books about developing social skills? I suffer from a low social life too, and it sucks. Maybe I'm just having a bad teen experience, but teenagers tend to be selfish idiots.

 

[Takk]

First of all...im a bit funny when it comes to bf/gf thing..yeah im 16...but, where in the bible does it say anything about teen-relationships adults are a diff. story. But anyway: Whats wrong with being a book worm? would he rather you be an idiot who dont know anything? i guess he just wanted more attention from you. He is younger so im sure thats what he wanted....nerd?

lots of teen-agers just copying what they hear and see on stupid T.V..on T.V a "nerd" is some skinny guy with braces and a tucked in shirt, and cool guy is with a black leather jacket and shades and i can go on and on..its just stereo-tipical and it is stupid. Just because you like to read dont mean anything.. It just means you like to read, simple as that...

and dont be scared of what people will think of you, if i did that..i coulden't bring myself to go downtown and preach and pass out stuff. God says to be a pecurlier people..the salt and light of the world..Now a days, you cant really tell the diff. between a christian and who is a heathen, if you look at 'em. a lil off topic but i wanted to say that

 

[TheApostleJohn]

"Nerd" was a word invented to help insecure people feel better about their lack of intelligence. You really shouldn't care.

 

[RipleyCountyChristian]

you seem cool to me...and besides if someone doesn't like you for who you are then just forget about them...they aren't a real friend anywya

 

[HarborOrange]

Don't pay attention to social status or titles. They're all completely useless and degrading either way. They benefit you in no way whatsoever.

 

[Asvin]

Don't put yourself down like that.. There is nothing wrong with being a nerd.. Atleast in my point of view.. I personally can be categorized as a nerd because I spent most of my day in front of my computer or studying.. But I don't wear big glasses or tight pants!! What you seem to others doesn't matter because they don't know who you are.. As far as what your boyfriend thinks, you already know the answer!! He is just your boyfriend.. temporary or permant is always a question.. he isn't Jesus Christ so he has no right to judge you.. I bet he has many mistakes, like me, you, and every human being, that doesn't qualify him to be judgmental!! Reading is good!! Studying is good!! Being a nerd is good since you will find a good job and earn a nice living while most people who make fun of nerds will be working at mcdonald's for the rest of their lives!! Think about it like that.. Always try to look on the positive side of things

God bless!

 

[JordanDaniel]

Social standards in my opinion...are a terrible thing..causing insecurity,inward anger and doubt. You need to use the word of god to filter all dat. Don't worry whether if your a nerd or not... Worry about how spiritually enriched you are. Worry about reading 66 page love letter God wrote to you. I'm 16... Kids my age annoy me. I can only hang with adults. WORRY ABOUT PLEASING THE LORD. Not whether your a nerd or not. It gets you no where. If you don't have your eyes on our Father, you will end up on a metaphorical treadmill if you worry about yourself or what others think... I may only be 16. Trust me. I've been through it all. And it's nothing for me to be proud of.

Keep reading sister, try to focus on the bible. Once you do. You shall be renewed in your mind frame. PM me if you want I'll be happy to help you.

 

[iwannarock]

Nerds tend to have better careers and living conditions than non-nerds. unless youre the kind that watches reruns of star trek in ur moms basement unitl ur 30 and plays world of wacraft until 3 AM.

High School social life is completley ovverated, as i am experiencing it right now.

Just put education first and it will pay off immensley. Just make sure you've got atleast a minimum of 5 friends at all times to avoid being an outcast.

Besides who gives a crap about labels like "nerd". like it will really matter in 4 years anyways.

 

[bklatinarab92]

and dont be scared of what people will think of you, if i did that..i coulden't bring myself to go downtown and preach and pass out stuff. God says to be a pecurlier people..the salt and light of the world..Now a days, you cant really tell the diff. between a christian and who is a heathen, if you look at 'em. a lil off topic but i wanted to say that

Yeah dont fear men it'll cripple us! lol i've been there. but reading is awesome espicially scripture, i wish i would read more and this generation is so distracted with entertainment they never edify themselfs.. just dont be isolated from the world because we are called to share the good news! and we are the light of the world! but i Love talking to people and i Love fellowship im new Here and i have no online friends! so i guess im a nerd too anyone is welcome to talk to me ! =]