Am I Overreacting?

[biblicalbro]

God bless

 

[Sketcher]

I hear you. I myself have been abandoned by friends.

Is he introverted too?

 

[musicalpilgrim]

I can understand how you feel. I have had a friend or two over the years, then we drift apart. One best friend died, a lovely Christian lady, at her funeral I found out that I was one of a number of ladies who counted her as a special friend.
My friends tend to be on line now, on the forum. I thank God for them.
God bless you richly as you trust in him to find friendships.

 

[angelsaroundme]

Is your friend Christian? Are the other friends he's been hanging out with Christian?

 

[biblicalbro]

I hear you. I myself have been abandoned by friends.

Is he introverted too?

Yes. But he's never done this in the past, at least, I'm only saying that from my perspective.

Like when a family member of his passed away a few years ago, he didn't isolate himself even though he was sad but also happy knowing that family member was with the Lord.

If anything, he contacted me bc he needed a friend to talk to.

 

[biblicalbro]

Is your friend Christian? Are the other friends he's been hanging out with Christian?

Yes to both q's

 

[angelsaroundme]

Yes to both q's

I thought maybe he was becoming more worldly and was hanging with friends with that disposition. The world keeps becoming more secularized which is why I suspected that might be a factor.

 

[biblicalbro]

I thought maybe he was becoming more worldly and was hanging with friends with that disposition. The world keeps becoming more secularized which is why I suspected that might be a factor.

True. That is definitely seen amongst professing Christians who depart from the faith.

 

[angelsaroundme]

True. That is definitely seen amongst professing Christians who depart from the faith.

Then again, I'm just spitballing, might be anything. It may be that he told these friends he wanted to be alone but they didn't take no for an answer and drove by his house to pick him up. I've had a lot of struggles with friends myself. I try to focus on being grateful that I've had friends rather than being sad that a friendship may have burned out.

 

[biblicalbro]

Then again, I'm just spitballing, might be anything. It may be that he told these friends he wanted to be alone but they didn't take no for an answer and drove by his house to pick him up. I've had a lot of struggles with friends myself. I try to focus on being grateful that I've had friends rather than being sad that a friendship may have burned out.

For clarification, it was a virtual hangout which was posted to social media as a picture. So plans obviously were made ahead of time to which he agreed.

And I agree about being grateful but it still hurts at first. Especially that it's so recent.

 

[angelsaroundme]

For clarification, it was a virtual hangout which was posted to social media as a picture. So plans obviously were made ahead of time to which he agreed.

And I agree about being grateful but it still hurts at first. Especially that it's so recent.

It always hurts but I think it does get a little easier over time. Sorry you are going through that.

 

[Tolworth John]

Have you asked him why he doesn't respond to you?

 

[bluegot]

I feel your pain and have been in the same situation myself many times. I have a friend that does this frequently. I am trying to realize that just because they act in a way you would not, that doesn't mean they don't like you, it just means people are all different. Maybe by socializing with others while not responding to you means they just want to NOT have to think or talk about their problems for awhile.

 

[Jeffwhosoever]

Make the Lord your best friend who will never abandon you and will always be there for you. Just open the Bible and read, attend church, or if you are really isolated (like me) watch church services on youtube.

 

[biblicalbro]

Have you asked him why he doesn't respond to you?

Yeah, he said he needed some space to rest and recover. But when I saw him talking to other ppl, I was like wait, I thought you didn't want to talk to anyone. In short, it gave me mixed signals.

 

[biblicalbro]

I feel your pain and have been in the same situation myself many times. I have a friend that does this frequently. I am trying to realize that just because they act in a way you would not, that doesn't mean they don't like you, it just means people are all different. Maybe by socializing with others while not responding to you means they just want to NOT have to think or talk about their problems for awhile.

Oh yeah, definitely. At the same time, I think they have a hard time maintaining friendships if they are present one day then gone the next. No relationship is built on inconsistency and if they choose that route, that's their problem.

 

[biblicalbro]

Make the Lord your best friend who will never abandon you and will always be there for you. Just open the Bible and read, attend church, or if you are really isolated (like me) watch church services on youtube.

Amen, only God!

 

[aiki]

And as Christians, we are to encourage one another in love.

And the thing was, we were very good friends prior to any of this happening. So it honestly hurt me, alot.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NASB)
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails...

 

[Tolworth John]

Yeah, he said he needed some space to rest and recover. But when I saw him talking to other ppl, I was like wait, I thought you didn't want to talk to anyone. In short, it gave me mixed signals.

Again this is something you need to raise with him.
Let him know how you feel about this.

Do be aware that if he has special needs he will not be aware of how other people react and will not understand why you feel hurt.