Am I Odd?

[djdavey]

I'm 20 and not yet had a girlfriend, I asked a girl out over a year ago who told me she liked me then changed her mind so that backfired. Anyway my family are trying to always get me to have a girlfriend, I would not mind one but they always think am a bit odd as I have not had one yet. There is a girl at church who they keep saying to me is nice and is around me age, to be fair she is a nice girl but I don't really know her so don't speak to her. They are now going on saying I should go speed dating etc, which I don't want to, am I odd or not?

 

[Seeker of the Truth]

rofl

no, i don't think so.

are you bold? shy?

 

[djdavey]

probs Shy, but i am alot better then I was.

 

[Nienor]

I've never dated either...so you're not too weird

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I'm 20 and not yet had a girlfriend, I asked a girl out over a year ago who told me she liked me then changed her mind so that backfired. Anyway my family are trying to always get me to have a girlfriend, I would not mind one but they always think am a bit odd as I have not had one yet. There is a girl at church who they keep saying to me is nice and is around me age, to be fair she is a nice girl but I don't really know her so don't speak to her. They are now going on saying I should go speed dating etc, which I don't want to, am I odd or not?

I am 20 and have never had a BF, I've never even been kissed, I don't really think its that weird. Sure it does bother me at times, but that just means that God had reasons for me to have not been in a relationship, and I just have to trust that He knows what He's doing, which I'm pretty sure He does

And don't let people pressure you into doing something you don't want to. I let people do that to me and it ended horribly and was just an unpleasant experience. Just enjoy your singleness while you have it.

But no, I don't think you're odd, because if I did, I guess I would have to think that I am odd too, and I don't think that

 

[jesusxchick]

Nah, you're not odd.

There's nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend yet, actually it's good that you're sensible about it.

 

[Shyguyelite]

I wouldn't say so, though you will not gain a sort of higher social status until you are hooked, if you care of such things.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I wouldn't say so, though you will not gain a sort of higher social status until you are hooked, if you care of such things.

What?! If you haven't been in a relationship, you are of lower social status? Not really sure I am getting what you're saying.

 

[Shyguyelite]

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Originally Posted by Shyguyelite
I wouldn't say so, though you will not gain a sort of higher social status until you are hooked, if you care of such things.

What?! If you haven't been in a relationship, you are of lower social status? Not really sure I am getting what you're saying.

Yes, though thats a more negative way of putting it.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Yes, though thats a more negative way of putting it.

Alrighty, just was making sure I read that right. Not so sure I agree with that statement. But hey, to each his own.

 

[Rebekka]

Yes, though thats a more negative way of putting it.

Even if that's true (and if it's true that's pretty awful - we shouldn't judge people on things like that), that's still a wrong reason to get into a relationship.

No, you're not odd, and if I were you I wouldn't date someone I wasn't really extremely interested in and attracted to. Don't conform just to conform. FYI, I had my first boyfriend and kiss at 27. We've been very happily married for 2.5 years now. Don't worry, you will meet the person God has meant for you - you don't know when, but it will happen.

 

[Shyguyelite]

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Originally Posted by Shyguyelite
Yes, though thats a more negative way of putting it.

Even if that's true (and if it's true that's pretty awful - we shouldn't judge people on things like that), that's still a wrong reason to get into a relationship.

I agree completely.

 

[The Lone Gunmen]

I'm 22 and I've just discovered that it's fun to talk to women, so don't feel bad.

 

[charlie_hunter]

my parents give me a hard time about being single. but it's mostly in jest.

if you are open too them, these things happen in time.

 

[wmc1982]

not weird or odd at all

 

[wmc1982]

Yes, though thats a more negative way of putting it.

just because you aren't dating doesn't mean you are on a low social status!

 

[Shyguyelite]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Shyguyelite
Yes, though thats a more negative way of putting it.

just because you aren't dating doesn't mean you are on a low social status!

Hmmm...
Thats a negative way of putting it, though I guess my initial comment set things up.

OK. Social status and dating. The 'sort of higher social status' I was referring too wasn't a huge jump, say from King to Peasant. I put 'sort' there cause I didn't know what else to call it. In any case, its a slight difference.

 

[tsubasa]

Bro, you're not odd at all! It just means you haven't found a girl who is right for you yet.

I might have misinterpreted shyguyelite, but I think he's saying that those in relationships are seen as being more influential than those who aren't. In my group of friends at the theatre, for example, the guys who are in relationships seem to be more trusted when it comes to giving advice purely because they're in relationships. It's as though people think, "well they can get it right because they have someone." Not my opinion, just an observation.

 

[The Princess Bride]

I didnt date until I was 18, so no, you arent' weird.

 

[wmc1982]

Hmmm...
Thats a negative way of putting it, though I guess my initial comment set things up.

OK. Social status and dating. The 'sort of higher social status' I was referring too wasn't a huge jump, say from King to Peasant. I put 'sort' there cause I didn't know what else to call it. In any case, its a slight difference.

Ok, I think I see what you are saying now.