Am I just being 'female'?

[charligirl]

I have posted before about my desire for another baby. I have been keeping my mouth shut and praying and DH seems to be warming to the idea and talking about even TTC this year. (must be God lol)

Suddenly, as he starts to think yes, I seem to be having doubts and fears about doing the whole baby thing again. I am only 37 but seem to be stressed and tired enough with a toddler and PT work. DH is also stressed as a police officer and nearly 50.

My friend says this is perfectly normal 'female' emotion and had the same with all her children.

Ideas, opinions, experiences please

 

[jgonz]

Frankly, I think it depends on the time of the month if hormones are waxing or waning when you're talking about desire to have another baby. Overall though~ do you want a playmate for your first child? Do you see your family as being complete now? or do you feel there is "someone missing at the table"?

For Years I had the feeling that someone was missing at the table... That's the only way I could explain it. I don't have that anymore (although G-d had other plans and we're having another baby. )

I guess it comes down to just trusting G-d that it will all work out in His timing and His way. There is no guarantee that if/when you TTC you'll actually get pregnant right away... and on the reverse end, you could end up getting pregnant no matter What variety of bc you use. It really Is in G-d's hands~ let Him carry it.

 

[TexasSky]

Maybe God is the one causing you to change your mind.

Pray some more, and talk about the pros and cons together with your spouse.

 

[Neenie1]

I hope you can make up your mind about it. Maybe you are just afraid of how you will cope. It's perfectly normal to have doubts.

I change my mind all the time about having another baby. Dh is saying no at the moment anyway, so I guess I will just have to do what you have been doing and wait on God.

 

[Meshavrischika]

I have posted before about my desire for another baby. I have been keeping my mouth shut and praying and DH seems to be warming to the idea and talking about even TTC this year. (must be God lol)

Suddenly, as he starts to think yes, I seem to be having doubts and fears about doing the whole baby thing again. I am only 37 but seem to be stressed and tired enough with a toddler and PT work. DH is also stressed as a police officer and nearly 50.

My friend says this is perfectly normal 'female' emotion and had the same with all her children.

Ideas, opinions, experiences please

generally, I've noticed women start wanting another baby when the baby they have starts becoming more independant (about 2 or 3). It's normal. I would just consider all the pros and cons and PRAY before making ANY decision.

Hugs.

 

[heart of peace]

Overall though~ do you want a playmate for your first child? Do you see your family as being complete now? or do you feel there is "someone missing at the table"?

I think that is a great way to explain it! I have felt that way as well. I know I'm ready for baby #2 because I tend to drift off in daydreams more and more picturing two children on my lap.

Also, I think it is great that you pointed out evaluating the reason for desiring another child. I think a new child should be desired all on their own without considering the new child a "playmate" for your first child (not implying anything about charligirl's personal situation at all). They may not even be compatible personality wise anyway. I just don't see that as a good reason for my family to consciously choose to bring another human life into the mix, it is certainly a possible benefit, but far from the reason why we are considering it.

This is a decision that should be made prayerfully and without fear. Take fear out of the equation and sit quietly and contemplate on God's leading for your life. He tends to speak in the quiet and all

 

[Yitzchak]

I have five children and even though it has been difficult many times , I have never had regrets. Children are a blessing that are always worth the trouble.......Emotions go up and down but you can make yourself more or less excited depending upon how you talk to yourself about it.