Am I asking too much?

[Stanfi]

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You have brought up a good question that all of us who are single have asked at some point. Yes, even the guys. Let's see some more questions along this line might be:

1. Am I just to picky?

2. Should I just "learn to like" a person

3. What is God trying to do in my life?

4. Should I just settle?

5. Am I not good enough for (a certain person)?

6. Will I always be single?

I know some these questions overlap, but I think we all get the idea. The the thing with me is that every lady that I have ever met, just completely burnt me alive. Then by the time that I got away from them, I wished I had never met them. Then when I did met someone who liked me, I didn't like them. Unfortunatley, now, when I meet someone that I do like, I end up asking myself "How bad is this one going to hurt?". Great optimism isn't it?

Anyway here is what I have decided for my life, and I suggest that it applies to yours also. I do belive that God has someone out there for me. I believe that is is someone that I will not have to "settle" for or "learn to like". I believe that it will be someone that I think is just great. When will I meet her? I have no idea, and I'm a few years older than you. I have decided not to worry about my life "passing me by". When it is time God will move someone into my life. I believe that.

A few months ago I went through an experience that matured me on an emotional level. I now know that before that, I was not ready for someone. So now I ask myself. Do I have more maturing to do? I don't know, but I have to trust in God.. He does.

Also, Guard Your Heart!!!!! Don't ever give it to someone who does not deserve it. That will save you so much pain in the long run.
Yes, you need to get rid of Mike. Anything that's hurts you like that needs to be taken out of your life. I know it is hard, but God has someone better for you that. Trust in the Lord, and walk away from this guy. Tell him that you feel that you all should not communicate anymore. Be nice about it. However, turn around walk away, and don't look back.

I also highly recommend "What becomes of the Broken Hearted", and "Prayer Guide For the Broken Hearted".

Those are two Great Books.

Avoid Mike and anytning that reminds you of him. Pray, and God will bind up your broken heart.
I hope this makes sense. I just got back from a trip, and a little on the sleepish side.

 

[Grommit]

* the_man lets out a silent chuckle

hehe...

 

[Katty]

Thats deep Grommit. hehe...

 

[the_man]

When I think about past relationships, and present ones, or even relationships that my friends are in, all I can ask is, "is it too much for me to want a good man of God?"

No it is not, for it is the very least you can hope for.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Unfortunatley, now, when I meet someone that I do like, I end up asking myself "How bad is this one going to hurt?". Great optimism isn't it?
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Thats exactly how I feel!!! arg its so frustrating. But you did say sometihng about maturing... I guess I just have to trust God to help me grow in the areas Ineed to grow in and to help me mature on a relationship level...

Arg it sucks....

oh and by the way... yesterday my best freind emailed me and informed me that her long time boyfriend proposed.... thats 7.... yes 7 couples thatI am close to that god engaged in the last TEN MONTHS!!

And we all wonder why I am horribly bitter.....

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Girl. You're 20. You don't want to get engaged.
No. You're not asking too much and dont settle for anything less.
Remember six months?

 

[Brooke]

You're going to get so tired of hearing this... but if God has a man in mind for you, He's going to lead him to you on His own time. And He'll only give you what He knows you need. 20 years old does seem awfully young. As for the couples who have gotten engaged, well, a few of them just might not make it to the graves in eachother's arms anyway. Divorces...they are so common nowadays...

 

[Brooke]

Oh, and I want a man of God, too! In fact, I'll never settle for anything less. You're not picky, you just have good taste!

 

[patrice_kell]

Hey girl...I totally know the feeling. It is like that was me talking. I was dating a guy named James and he stood me up tonight. (not the first time) I am always wondering myself what in the world i am doing wrong. I want the same thing and it is definitely not to much to ask!!!!!!!! I am sending James packing and i am sure that you can do the same with Mike. It is not worth the heart ache. I know how hard it is to keep praying and to keep WAITING. Waiting or the right man is not easy! I hate it...but a girl has gotta do what a girl has gotta do. The right God loving man will come when God is ready to send him. Sometimes when I pray I am like..."Hurry Up Please!!!!"....LOL. You are not the only one going through this and it is very hard. Just dont settle for less. The right man will come when it is time. You are in my prayers. God loves you and will send you what you need when the time is right.

 

[Donny_B]

yes 7 couples thatI am close to that god engaged in the last TEN MONTHS!!

And we all wonder why I am horribly bitter.....

Of those 7 couples, statistics (in the U.S.) say half of them will end in divorce. Perhaps God is sparing you from this likelihood..you would be couple number 8 and divorce number 4? It is good that you find out about this guy now, than during marriage when it's too late, then you have to go through a divorce. Read some of the marriage threads, and you can see some of the agony involved in unhappy marriages. Be patient, and trust that God knows what is best for you.