Always comparing myself

[Fay Lee]

Hi everyone,

I have this massive issue where I always compare myself to people, especially other Christians. I look at their life and think 'wow, they watch so many sermons, I don't!', or 'why can't I be like them?' 'They are like, the perfect Christian'.

I just compare and compare and compare and don't know how to stop. It robs me so much and brings me down so much more.
And then I end up thinking that I'm a loser and a terrible Christian and condemn myself and get so frustrated at God for making my this quiet introvert.

I think to myself "I'll just watch heaps of sermons and then I can feel better about myself!" which is totally pointless and stupid if all it's doing is making me self-righteous by my own merits.

What can I do to stop this? What can I do?

 

[Tigger45]

Comparing yourself to others I'd driven by a lack of self worth. But what you end up doing is cherry picking their strengths to your weaknesses which only ends up depleting your self worth even further. You have to be good to yourself with positive self talk. Making small goals, complete them and then give yourself credit for doing so. God bless.

 

[RC1970]

Only the Lord can judge you accurately, so don't compare yourself to others because they do not have the same gifts and weakness that you do.

"Search me, O God, and know my heart!
Try me and know my thoughts!
And see if there be any grievous way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting!" ~ Psalm 139:23-24

 

[Tempura]

Ah, another chance to use one of my favorite Bible verses.

Luke 18:9-14

9 And he spake this parable unto certain which trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others:

10 Two men went up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican.

11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican.

12 I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess.

13 And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.

14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.

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And another: Matthew 6:1-6


Take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them: otherwise ye have no reward of your Father which is in heaven.

2 Therefore when thou doest thine alms, do not sound a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.

3 But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth:

4 That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret himself shall reward thee openly.

5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.

6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.

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Build your own personal relationship with God. Do not care how others see you. You do not practice your faith for them.