Alternative Pregnancy options, is this permissible?

[Timahani]

Hey Guys ,

I just had a quick question for you all. However, I would ask that you PLEASE be open minded.

I was wondering is it permissible for Christian Women to "receive sperm" from a donor for the purpose of pregnancy?

What about if the couple "temporarily marries" for the purpose of having children? (Of coarse with the consent and full knowledge of both parties.

My biological clock is ticking and I really want to experience motherhood, at least have one biological child. I was already a foster mom of 3 children, but I would like to have my own. I am single.

Thank You!

 

[JCFantasy23]

I see nothing wrong about artificial insemination, and think it's fine for Christians.

As to the second, marrying someone temporarily to have children, that doesn't sound like it would be healthy for the kids or the parents - and isn't something I think a Christian should do.

 

[Timahani]

Thank you so much!

 

[Sketcher]

Marriage is one man, one woman, for life. "Temporary marriage" therefore sounds like it's completely dishonoring to marriage, contrary to the Lord's command.

Artificial insemination - getting the sperm from a sperm bank isn't sinful. But I don't believe that intentionally becoming a single mother is wise. Every child needs and deserves a good mother and father. Role models around town are not going to be able to devote the time that a father will, and that matters. For this reason, I don't think single people becoming pregnant or adopting is a good idea; though I will say that of the two, adopting is better because it's giving a child who already has no parents somebody. It's helping to solve a problem, whereas becoming pregnant while single solves absolutely no problems.

 

[Swan7]

There is a difference when it comes to making a decision with God and making your own decision out of fear. Sometimes God indeed does observe to see what we do, but if we as Christians ask God and wait on His answer - because He always knows best - then we can't go wrong from asking Him.

My biological clock is ticking

Do you mean to say you don't trust God? Look at this story in our Christian history:
Genesis 18 - Abraham and Sarah

All I'm saying is never ever think outside of His will, don't be double-minded in Christendom. Always stay on the right path. What's impossible for us isn't with God.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I don't think that's God's will.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

making decisions based on fear is never a good idea either.

 

[PhantomGaze]

A possible option is to put more effort into finding someone.

 

[Timahani]

Thank you for the comments. I was not sure where I stand on this. Opinions are always helpful. Thank you!

 

[Timahani]

All of these new techonology now available has not been addressed directly in the Bible. I want to be in God's will and of coarse, he can do all things. I was just wondering what other Christians thought.

 

[Joined2krist]

In my opinion, I think adoption is preferable. I know what it feels like to desire motherhood especially when most of your age mates have kids. I won't do IVF or use a sperm donor to get a child as a single person when I know that there are kids in need of even a parent living in orphanages. I would rather solve a problem than create new ones. But there's nothing wrong with using a sperm donor if that's what you want.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

Marriage is one man, one woman, for life. "Temporary marriage" therefore sounds like it's completely dishonoring to marriage, contrary to the Lord's command.

Artificial insemination - getting the sperm from a sperm bank isn't sinful. But I don't believe that intentionally becoming a single mother is wise. Every child needs and deserves a good mother and father. Role models around town are not going to be able to devote the time that a father will, and that matters. For this reason, I don't think single people becoming pregnant or adopting is a good idea; though I will say that of the two, adopting is better because it's giving a child who already has no parents somebody. It's helping to solve a problem, whereas becoming pregnant while single solves absolutely no problems.

Exactly. Marriage is a picture of the Christian life. We the church are the bride of Christ and that's why marriage is so sacred.

And take it from this single mom, it isn't easy and unfair to the child. I struggled for four years to put food on the table, and I struggled more than a lot of single parents because her father is completely out of the picture and I get no child support. I had to live with family, take on roommates, and constantly tell my mom (who was my landlord) that rent was going to be up to a month late. There were nights when I cried myself to sleep because I felt like a complete failure for not making ends meet and I never felt like I could be as attentive of a mother as I needed to be.

Enter Corey, a wonderful man I began seeing six months ago. He never had the opportunity to be a dad and as my daughter never knew hers, and they latched right on to one another. Hazel cries whenever he leaves for work and is always asking to call him. The change in my relationship with my daughter had gotten so much better since he came around and her behavior has gotten so much more manageable as well. She needed that structure, support, boundaries, and everything else that comes with a dad in the picture.

I'm not making that mistake again. Corey and I recently found out that we're pregnant and have decided to get married and raise both Hazel and this coming child together. We'll also be filing the papers to get Hazel's birth father's parental rights terminated so Corey can adopt her.

More food for thought: 70% of teenage delinquents, runaways, gang members, and the like are born to unwed parents. Do you want to take that gamble with your child? We live in a society that attacks men for everything citing "toxic masculinity." The numbers don't lie. Toxic masculinity isn't the issue, lack of masculinity is. Please don't deny a child a chance at two parents just because you have baby fever.

 

[bèlla]

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[Hishandmaiden]

Before you ask anyone's opinion about whether it is right or wrong, ask the Lord for guidance.
Pray to Jesus. Then, look at others' opinions, and finally, make the decisions, yourself.