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A major problem facing many people today is loneliness. As I travel the world, I see an increasing number of people requesting help and guidance on handling loneliness in their lives.
In the Bible God tells us we are not alone. He wants to deliver, comfort and heal us. But when people encounter painful losses in their lives, sadly, many never get over them. Sometimes when sudden tragedy occurs, the hurt seems unbearable. Without help, a sense of loneliness can actually settle on a person or family like a cloud, and it doesn't seem to go away.
There are many causes of loneliness, but many people don't realize that they don't have to live with it. They can confront it and deal with it. Loneliness often manifests as an inner ache, a vacuum, or a craving for affection. Its side effects include feelings of emptiness, uselessness or purposelessness.
Are you alone (independent, solitary, on your own)? Or, are you lonely (desolate, deserted, dejected due to a lack of companionship)? There is a very real difference. It’s important to realize that just because you are alone, it doesn't mean you must be lonely or lonesome. While it may not always be possible to avoid being alone, there are always answers to loneliness. Many times loneliness results from a trauma or crisis due to the death of a loved one, a divorce, or separation. When something happens that makes us realize that things are never going to be the way they once were, it often creates crisis or trauma in our lives, which can lead to a sense of loneliness and despair.
Like a healing wound, the pain may be felt for a long time, but complete recovery requires daily improvement. When a physical wound refuses to heal, it indicates there’s an infection that must be dealt with. I believe the same is true of emotional wounds: the emotional part of us should heal just like the physical part of us. God gave us emotions just as He gave us physical bodies. He has provided for our emotional restoration in Him just as He has provided for it physically. While it is true that you may always miss the person or the thing that was lost, it doesn’t mean that you must suffer permanent loneliness.
I believe there are two things anyone wishing to overcome loneliness must do:
1. Know that God is with you all the time. In the Bible God reminds us that He is always with us and He'll never forsake us (see Hebrews 13:5). Loneliness often leads us to ask ourselves all sorts of questions that can't be answered, such as: What if I am alone for the rest of my life? What if this pain I am feeling never goes away? What if a problem arises that I don't know how to handle on my own? What if...what if...what if...? The questions could go on and on endlessly. Chances are, you'll never be able to answer the "what ifs" in life. But as long as you know that the Lord is with you, you can be assured that He has all the answers you need.
2. Press aggressively into a new life. Not everything in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One season has passed and another can now begin—if you are willing to take action. Don't just passively sit and wait for something to happen or someone to come along. Go make new friends. Find someone else who is lonely and be a friend to that person. You will reap what you sow, and God will return that friendship many times over.
Let the loneliness you feel turn into compassion for other lonely people, and then decide to do something about it!
In the Bible God tells us we are not alone. He wants to deliver, comfort and heal us. But when people encounter painful losses in their lives, sadly, many never get over them. Sometimes when sudden tragedy occurs, the hurt seems unbearable. Without help, a sense of loneliness can actually settle on a person or family like a cloud, and it doesn't seem to go away.
There are many causes of loneliness, but many people don't realize that they don't have to live with it. They can confront it and deal with it. Loneliness often manifests as an inner ache, a vacuum, or a craving for affection. Its side effects include feelings of emptiness, uselessness or purposelessness.
Are you alone (independent, solitary, on your own)? Or, are you lonely (desolate, deserted, dejected due to a lack of companionship)? There is a very real difference. It’s important to realize that just because you are alone, it doesn't mean you must be lonely or lonesome. While it may not always be possible to avoid being alone, there are always answers to loneliness. Many times loneliness results from a trauma or crisis due to the death of a loved one, a divorce, or separation. When something happens that makes us realize that things are never going to be the way they once were, it often creates crisis or trauma in our lives, which can lead to a sense of loneliness and despair.
Like a healing wound, the pain may be felt for a long time, but complete recovery requires daily improvement. When a physical wound refuses to heal, it indicates there’s an infection that must be dealt with. I believe the same is true of emotional wounds: the emotional part of us should heal just like the physical part of us. God gave us emotions just as He gave us physical bodies. He has provided for our emotional restoration in Him just as He has provided for it physically. While it is true that you may always miss the person or the thing that was lost, it doesn’t mean that you must suffer permanent loneliness.
I believe there are two things anyone wishing to overcome loneliness must do:
1. Know that God is with you all the time. In the Bible God reminds us that He is always with us and He'll never forsake us (see Hebrews 13:5). Loneliness often leads us to ask ourselves all sorts of questions that can't be answered, such as: What if I am alone for the rest of my life? What if this pain I am feeling never goes away? What if a problem arises that I don't know how to handle on my own? What if...what if...what if...? The questions could go on and on endlessly. Chances are, you'll never be able to answer the "what ifs" in life. But as long as you know that the Lord is with you, you can be assured that He has all the answers you need.
2. Press aggressively into a new life. Not everything in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One season has passed and another can now begin—if you are willing to take action. Don't just passively sit and wait for something to happen or someone to come along. Go make new friends. Find someone else who is lonely and be a friend to that person. You will reap what you sow, and God will return that friendship many times over.
Let the loneliness you feel turn into compassion for other lonely people, and then decide to do something about it!
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You are never alone Miss Angel dear. God is with you always. He has angels all over the place. If I could send you super spy glasses you would find the room is absolutely crowded with angels protecting you!
and this sheepdog will always be here for your pm's. Woof!
and this sheepdog will always be here for your pm's. Woof!
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No I am okay here at the moment may take me time to reply because I am trying to clean house to so kinda here but not if you know what I mean.
It was my mother and father from 2 years old until I was 12 years old
It was my mother and father from 2 years old until I was 12 years old
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Think has to be cos I am multiple (DID) and they struggle with wanting someone to cuddle them when they are hurting and no-one is here to do that and be there for them
I need to get some cleaning dont cos I am starting my ironing soon ewww lol
Speak soo take care
I need to get some cleaning dont cos I am starting my ironing soon ewww lol
Speak soo take care
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Can you be there for them? I apologize if thats a stupid question - i dont know much about DID, sorry.
Oooooooh dear. I'm not sure i can say 'enjoy that' to cleaning and ironing... i rather dislike them also. But be blessed
Oooooooh dear. I'm not sure i can say 'enjoy that' to cleaning and ironing... i rather dislike them also. But be blessed
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Angelsurvive...
I want you to know I am praying for you...I have a long history of being abused and I am so saddened you are having to go through something so painful....
I want you to know I am praying for you...I have a long history of being abused and I am so saddened you are having to go through something so painful....
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Oh dear girl, first I want to congratulate you and all of the alters for their courage in dealing with the garbage that you went through. Your/their strength in making it through and surviving is wonderful. I don't know if I'm multiple or not (probably not) but I do know the dissociative thing sort of well. Removing yourself emotionally while the evil is happening is no sin, but a way to cope. But like all ways to cope that become non-effective after a while, it may be time to move on. Get a good counselor who can go through things in a safe way with you so that you can face things and deal with them as an adult who is safe. Safety is important, nay it is vital. Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) has a technique that you could modify of sitting in multiple chairs to see where others are coming from. You could do that for your alters. I am praying that you all can integrate and be whole. When you do, you will be such a strong person. Remember the proverb, a cord of three strands is not easily broken. In Christ, all things are possible. Notice, he didn't say easy, but possible. God bless
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