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Destiny78 said:
i cant do it...so much for staying sober..it's usless..i will regret typing this in the morning. I am drunk right now so I dont care..but you all can quit wasting your time here on me..it's useless. thanks anyhow
It's not useless Destiny. There are people who know how you feel, you just have to reach out and ask for help. From real life people. And we have all fallen before, so don't let the remorse of that steal your hope. Please.

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Destiny78 said:
i cant do it...so much for staying sober..it's usless..i will regret typing this in the morning. I am drunk right now so I dont care..but you all can quit wasting your time here on me..it's useless. thanks anyhow
Nobody here is going to give up on you. I will keep you in prayer as will others here.
You are so young and have the rest of your life ahead of you. You can get sober and stay that way but it must start with a firm decision to take control of your desire for alcohol and to prevail over it.
You don't want to spend the rest of your life this way...it only gets worse.
Have you considered getting counseling from your pastor?
Please don't give up on yourself.
 
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There is an addictions program called Reformers Unanimous that has branches all over the country. It is not like AA or NA....it is church based, and it focuses on deepening your relationship with Jesus Christ, and in that way helping you to recover from your addictions. I'm not doing it justice here in this forum, but I would encourage you, and anyone else struggling in these areas, to find a Reformers Unanimous program and join it. Overcoming this is an ongoing process, but there is an end in sight. You CAN recover and be free to serve God as He intended for you to. Keep going, we're praying for you, too.
 
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I don't have a problem with these steps. These steps keep me alive, keep me sober, and keep me healthy.
 
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"some label"? Alcoholism is a disease, not a label. Please, stop trying to counter the help the rest of the people in this thread are trying to provide. I would also, politely, suggest you find somewhere else for your anti-AA rhetoric, please.
 
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Hmmm, and by your logic, isf I were experiencing hair loss, am I to stop saying I am balding. If so, will this stop me from losing my hair? Facts are facts. If a person is an alcoholic, no amount of not saying the words "I am an alcoholic" will change that.
 
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Bartimeus said:
"some label"? Alcoholism is a disease, not a label. Please, stop trying to counter the help the rest of the people in this thread are trying to provide. I would also, politely, suggest you find somewhere else for your anti-AA rhetoric, please.
I second that request. Next this guy will be complaining that we shouldn't use the word "sinner" because it's just a label, all we have to do is accept that we violate God's will for our lives.
 
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I used to get drunk all the time. I think what makes a person an alcoholic is the fact that they find some kind of relief from issues in thier life by getting drunk. A type of escape from lifes pressures. And after dinking for reason of some sort of escape for some time it becomes a way of life. Once a person developes a way of life it's very hard to chage that habit, especialy when that habit it provoked by lifes pressures. The pressuers of life never go away so the habit is alway's in persuit of the alcoholic. I found that when I wanted to stop drinking becasue of my beliefs in Christ, their were some christains that showed me verses that they used to say it was ok to drink in a lite socail manor. so i tried that, but my conscience made me feel guilty. So I started to do a study on drinking to find out for myself about drinking and walking with Christ. It's about 18 pages long if anyone is interested in reading it you can check it out at this webpage
you need acrobat reader to veiw it. It's called "sip..sip.. and being true to your true-self." I don't know if it will help you deal with your friend at all. But I thought I would ad my two cents into this conversation. God Bless.
I'll keep your friend in my prayers. I tried to post the page but it wont let me i haven't posted enough this is my first time posting here.


 
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I just want to say I have just recently this past month gotten involved with AA...for the past two years ive struggled on and of with alcoholism and smoking pot....though being on probation slowed me down alot(which i am thankful for)..anyway i made the decision to use this program and work the twelve steps....i havent drank anything in a month and i havent smoked anything in like 6 months....I am so glad that i found this program so i can put a stop before things really get out of hand...i am only in the beggining stages of alcoholism and have not experience nearly all the things as those who have been alcoholics for a long time..i am only 20yrs old....And i just want to say that from the stories of the people there it obviously works...there are people there who have been sober for a LONG time...there are many diff faiths there and uit is very diverse and open...it feels like home I would recommend anyone who has a problem with alcohol to go to a meeting and just listen....you might hear something you can relate to...i also feel blessed that i got my first sponsor(someone who has established sobriety and helps others to acheive it)and she is so awesome and very spiritual and has 19 years of being sober...she is also Native American which is double awesome because i have always admired them so much, and its awesome that even though there are many faiths the spirit of God is felt there among everyone....I truely think AA is a blessing for any one struggling...
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What makes someone an alcoholic is the fact that they cannot control their drinking. We are not normal in that sense. It has only a little to do with escape. I had noting to escape from and still was an alcoholic. We are not bad people getting better, but sick people getting well.....
 
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i myself have a struggle with alcohol. i started drinking when i was 18 due to a lot of personal reasons that dont' justify it, but it shows the reason. now i'm 22, and finally i am starting to realize that i have a problem. due to the fact that when i'd go out, it would be 10 to 12 drinks and drive home and the fact that one night i went out, only had about 5 to 6 drinks, and i got pulled over, and neeldess to say i am going through an OVI now. i have used alcohol because i didn't want to feel anything. i wanted to be numb. i drank for a lot for a lot of reasons ranging from relationship breakups, bad relationship with my father, and the fact i missed God at one point in my life and other things.

now i know the struggle is still in me, because i feel it. but through my OVI, i am realizing things about myself that i really need to cut back, or just take a break for awhile. something has to change with it, because i cannot survive on the path of getting drunk a lot of the times, because it messed up my emotions, and put me in a dark place. i was realizing this when i was starting to get my faith back in tact, but i didn't take the lessons i learned in that over to my issue with drinking.

the only way i can say i am dealing with this is to not set myself up for destruction. i am not going to say i am never going to take a drink again. that is unrealistic, and i am not going to set myself up for days that i am not promised yet. i am weak in this area, and i need God everyday with this. so if i ever get to the point to where i never take another drink again great, if i get to the point to where i enjoy it moderately great. i am focusing on the here and now and that is it. through this, i have found a lot of healing. it keeps me real with God, instead of trying to put myself on some podem of changed and enlightened. i rely on my convictions in God, Christians that don't judge me, but see strength in me no matter what, the love of my mother who has supported me my whole life, and my hopes for a better future. the hopes in the future that i will not be an alcoholic husband for whoever my wife will be, to not be an alcoholic father to whoever my son or daughter will be, to not be an alcoholic son for my mother, and to not be an alcoholic brother to my 9 year old sister and more importantly to have spiritual peace and i am finally gaining that, and i am so thankful for this.

sounds cheesy, but sometimes idealistic things can really help out to make the here and now better. i guess kind of setting yourself up for what you want, based on your strengths and weaknesses, instead of what others want from you. i believe God wants us to be realistic and honest, and not fake and un-realistic, but that doesn't mean we have to sin all the time. we will always struggle, and i am so thankful that i am imperfect because if i was perfect i wouldn't need God.

this is my story with my struggle with alcohol, and i hope it blesses anyone out there whether Christian or not. May God Bless you all! <><
 
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