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[klewlis]

k, so there's this guy.

met him a few weeks ago at a C&C event... we played a couple of outside games with a couple of other people. it was fun and we all had a good time.

now, every week after church he comes and sits down beside me and starts asking me questions. it's very intrusive and is bothering me a lot. the first time, he indicated that he had been talking about me with someone else, and asked me questions about things i hadn't told him. i was polite but not overly friendly. today he did it again and i just shut down because i HATE when people i don't know start asking me personal questions, uninvited. i'm having a hard time even being polite now because i feel really... irritated. almost threatened (i'm a very private person). he doesn't seem to have any social graces or the ability to pick up that I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT MY PERSONAL LIFE WITH HIM.

*sigh*

just wanted to vent.

i know he's just trying to make conversation and get to know me, but he's going about it all wrong and it's really bothering me. there's a reason we do things all in groups!

maybe i should get one of the guys to talk to him...

what do you all think?

 

[heavenliejediofthebeach]

have you prayed about it yet? if not maybe you should..thats all the advice i can really give you

 

[songz777]

If you havent already done so, really pray pray pray about it (thats my first approach) second try and arrange to have someone else with you may be a good male friend, this may keep him away, and then stay close to freinds afterward.
If that doesnt work, just say most gtraciousally im not intrested or talk to a leader :o) Bless u john

 

[Bks Finest]

what songz said is the best course
of action and most of all
pray

 

[Living4Him03]

Tell him that it's making you uncomfortable and that if he is interested in getting to know you/building a friendship with you, that him asking you those type of personal questions is not a good way to do so. The best way to get him to stop asking you such personal questions is to talk with him about it in a loving, Christ-like manner. I knew a guy like this in my high school youth group. He just did not have the social skills to know the kinds of things he asked people and told the girls in the group were not going to win him friends. Chances are this guy you know doesn't realize what he's doing. Pray for him and have a talk with him. If he doesn't get the hint, you could also have one of the guys you know or two talk to him about it. It may not be what he wants to hear, but sometimes we need to hear what we don't want to. Hope it works out!