Age Margin for Marriage?

[Gerry]

Sounds like you have it all planned. Hope it woks out like you want it.

 

[Patty]

Hey Gerry!!

I'm over 50, so I suppose you might accept my response to your question, 'should people over 50 marry at all?'

After being a people watcher for so durn many years and seeing what's happening in the good ole USA, I developed this little phrase,
"Either you're married or you're happy"

Seems to fit lots of folks.
Just thought I'd toss that thought in there, buddy.

Patty

 

[Gerry]

Originally posted by Patty
Hey Gerry!!

I'm over 50, so I suppose you might accept my response to your question, 'should people over 50 marry at all?'

After being a people watcher for so durn many years and seeing what's happening in the good ole USA, I developed this little phrase,
"Either you're married or you're happy"

Seems to fit lots of folks.
Just thought I'd toss that thought in there, buddy.

Patty

You know you are probably right, but you also know that is NOT the way it should be.

 

[Patty]

Originally posted by Gerry


You know you are probably right, but you also know that is NOT the way it should be.

 

Right, Gerry.

But, I have a joyful hope in my heart and soul that someday soon, the Holy Father will share with all men the true meaning of how to love one another.

My personal feeling about espousement is that two people are intended to live together, male and female, for a superbly good reason.  It is this:  A man (generic use, please) alone can deny his own weaknesses.  Even if the man really knows that God knows all things, he can still tend to inadvertently let slide some of his weaknesses.  And, there are some things that he can't see without the aid of someone else.

A spouse is one who sees the partner in his weakest moments, and can provide feedback better than anyone else.  That's a treasure that helps us all to behave better.

Also, to be naked before another man in the bonds of espousement, faithful and truthfully, is good experience in improving how each one of us interacts with the Holy Father.  Nothing is hidden from the Holy Father.  There are no secrets in heaven.  Espousement helps us to learn that better and better.

And the joy one can find with a spouse helps to enhance the joy one can have with God.  Ask anyone who has a happy marriage.

Patty

 

[SeRapH&CheRi]

Originally posted by KnightRobby
Well, I think it is important to set your goals first of all.  And of course, marriage is a reflection of God, so you have to stay away from the world's point of view.  Marriage in the world's eyes is a big joke, especially to most men, who usually get tired of marriage and want sexual freedom - which is bondage in my opinion

I am going to get my priorities straight, get married after dating from 3 to 5 years, and I would like to get married at age 26 and up.  No younger, unless I change my mind.  I think I should get my foundation with God planned, get my education, and a job to support my future wife.  Plus, I think, before going into marriage, I should really study its meaning extensively.  I know for one, that marriage is a representation of God Himself...and if you look at it, it is. 

I think that for age differences it is important.  Marriage is something that completes you, in soul, mind, and in the physical realm; along with this, marriage completes you by being on the same level as that person.  You also want someone near your age to live with them.  Being the same age, means going through struggles, and other such things together...also, what about the saying, "Let us grow old together."  That can't be true for a 60 year old marrying a 30 year old - LOL!

Being complete with your wife/husband means you are on the same level in every way, and NEED one another in life.

Good topic, see you around,
Robby

Robby,

The woman you are going to marry will be one very BLESSED lady!

Blessings to you!

S&C

 

[SeRapH&CheRi]

Originally posted by IndyCision


 

I think it gets started with parents who want to be grand parents 

 

Yeah, tell me about it!  My parents have already been hinting!   How can I produce grandchildren for them when there are no prospects around?   This I don't understand!!      

 

[brother friar]

I have to agree that age difference is too dependent on the people to make up rules. As for how old is too old, never happens as long as marriage is about committing to each other and not about something else, like fear of being alone or the need for security. I have noticed a trend in the church of younger men marrying older women (three or four years older) This is interesting...anyone have a theory on that?

 

[fairyshyone]

There is 17 years between me and my DH. I think that you have to really think about what you are getting into with an age difference like ours. I never really thought I would be a grandmother at 33(his daughters from first marriage). Also we have issues about going out and things like that. But if you love each other and are willing to give just a bit it can work.

 

[chriso]

It depends on the couple. It could be different for everyone.

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

I have to agree that age difference is too dependent on the people to make up rules. As for how old is too old, never happens as long as marriage is about committing to each other and not about something else, like fear of being alone or the need for security. I have noticed a trend in the church of younger men marrying older women (three or four years older) This is interesting...anyone have a theory on that?

I have a theory, yet I can't really prove it as right or wrong.
I seem to be drawn towards females older than I, maybe this
holds for others, especially males in the church?