What is the widest acceptable age difference for a couple to marry? Does it matter who is older? Should people over 50 marry at all?
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Age Margin for Marriage?
- Thread starter Gerry
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Of course people over 50 should marry! (granted if they are single! 
) There isn't a rule where one needs to be married by the time they are 30; that's absolutely ridiculous! As for age, I think it's relative. What's important is that the couple should be at the same place in life and heading towards similar goals. Does that make sense?
) There isn't a rule where one needs to be married by the time they are 30; that's absolutely ridiculous! As for age, I think it's relative. What's important is that the couple should be at the same place in life and heading towards similar goals. Does that make sense?
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IndyCision
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There's not any problem with the over 50 crowd getting married. My Dad is getting married next year and he's 56. (I am glad to hear that you don't have to be married by 30, or I'd be in trouble) The age difference becomes more of an issue because of comptibility and social issues. I mean if my Dad was going to marry a 19 year old, I doubt they would have all that much in common, not to mention that most of the world would frown on it to say the least. However, if she was 36 there probably would not be all that many issues. (Except for the fact that I'd have a step-mom about the same age as me)
I guess it would come down to maturity and weather each of them is ready to handle the problems that different ages would have.
For the record my Dad's fiance' is 52
Your not trying to tell us something are you Gerry
I guess it would come down to maturity and weather each of them is ready to handle the problems that different ages would have.
For the record my Dad's fiance' is 52
Your not trying to tell us something are you Gerry
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I agree with IndyCision, age differences within marriage depend on the people involved. Some people may not be able to marry someone much younger or older (or even a little younger or older) than themselves because they do not have anything in common, or because they themselves think its a problem. Others may be able to. Two of my friends, one of whom is twenty years older than the other, recently got married, but they did not think of themselves as being older/younger, but as contemporaries. So, for them it wasn't a problem, for others it might be.
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Originally posted by IndyCision
There's not any problem with the over 50 crowd getting married. My Dad is getting married next year and he's 56. (I am glad to hear that you don't have to be married by 30, or I'd be in trouble)
Your not trying to tell us something are you Gerry
Yeah, I'd be in big trouble too Indy!
BTW, who died and made all the rules with regards to being married at a certain age 
Yeah Gerry, are you trying to tell us something???
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JohnR7
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Acceptable to who? God did not put me here to judge people. Jesus and Paul teaches that if a person can contain themselves, it is better to remain single. But if you can not control youself, then it is better to get married.
God told me when I was single, to stop leading women on into thinking I maybe interested in them for marriage. Either find a wife and get married, in the Lord. Or stop telling women I was interested in marriage so as to lead them on only to disappoint them when I decided they were not "the one for me".
As far as age difference. If a man is going to get married and have children, perhaps he may want to consider how much longer he is going to be around to help the women raise those children. I have a friend who is in his 60's and his wife is in her 20's. They have a pre school daughter and he is concerned if he is going to be around long enough to see her graduate from high school. Otherwise, there really is no problem. His wife is really more like a daughter to him then a wife. Compared to my wife who would be more like a sister to me. But if that is what he wants, that is his business, not mine.
It may hold his wife back a bit. Sometimes she acts like a 12 year old. At least it seems that way to me. Where I am more demanding of my wife to act her age or to grow up and be more mature. But that could have nothing to do with their age difference, just the way they choose to handle the situation.
My wife is Filipino and it is very much in their culture for younger women to marry older men. The older men are much more stable. They usually have a good job, they do not drink or run around with other women. Even though they will outlive their husband, they kinda like that also. They serve their husband and their family. But when the kids are raised and their husband passes on, they are still young enough to kinda go where they want to go and do what they want to do, without having to answer to anyone.
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I am in complete agreement with this answer. In fact, you have nicely summed up everything I know about love aand marriage.
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Originally posted by SeRapH&CheRi
Of course people over 50 should marry! (granted if they are single!
Yes, this makes sense to me. They should definitely be on the same road.
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i would like to see a 60 year old woman club hopping with a 24 year old man......wait......no i wouldnt
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IndyCision
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Originally posted by SeRapH&CheRi
Yeah, I'd be in big trouble too Indy!
I think it gets started with parents who want to be grand parents
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There should be no more than 100 years difference in your ages and no one under 18 or over 120 should get married.
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Hmmm....well, I don't think that anyone could or should say at what age or age difference an a person decides to marry. That in mind, I would also say that people who decide that they want to marry someone drastically younger or older than themselves are opening themselves up for a big 'ol pain in the neck. Can you imagine always being at a monstrously different stage in your life as opposed to your husband or wife? Like someone joked about earlier, an old person running around at the clubs? It is SO not likely, but the point is that different things are important to you as you mature. Of course, that is not even getting into the area of how in the world they would be compatible in more.....er, intimate times.
As far as how old people are when they marry, I don't think it really matters. I say that for as long there is the wanting, there should be the reality.
As far as how old people are when they marry, I don't think it really matters. I say that for as long there is the wanting, there should be the reality.
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KnightRobby
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Well, I think it is important to set your goals first of all. And of course, marriage is a reflection of God, so you have to stay away from the world's point of view. Marriage in the world's eyes is a big joke, especially to most men, who usually get tired of marriage and want sexual freedom - which is bondage in my opinion
I am going to get my priorities straight, get married after dating from 3 to 5 years, and I would like to get married at age 26 and up. No younger, unless I change my mind. I think I should get my foundation with God planned, get my education, and a job to support my future wife. Plus, I think, before going into marriage, I should really study its meaning extensively. I know for one, that marriage is a representation of God Himself...and if you look at it, it is.
I think that for age differences it is important. Marriage is something that completes you, in soul, mind, and in the physical realm; along with this, marriage completes you by being on the same level as that person. You also want someone near your age to live with them. Being the same age, means going through struggles, and other such things together...also, what about the saying, "Let us grow old together." That can't be true for a 60 year old marrying a 30 year old - LOL!
Being complete with your wife/husband means you are on the same level in every way, and NEED one another in life.
Good topic, see you around,
Robby
I am going to get my priorities straight, get married after dating from 3 to 5 years, and I would like to get married at age 26 and up. No younger, unless I change my mind. I think I should get my foundation with God planned, get my education, and a job to support my future wife. Plus, I think, before going into marriage, I should really study its meaning extensively. I know for one, that marriage is a representation of God Himself...and if you look at it, it is.
I think that for age differences it is important. Marriage is something that completes you, in soul, mind, and in the physical realm; along with this, marriage completes you by being on the same level as that person. You also want someone near your age to live with them. Being the same age, means going through struggles, and other such things together...also, what about the saying, "Let us grow old together." That can't be true for a 60 year old marrying a 30 year old - LOL!
Being complete with your wife/husband means you are on the same level in every way, and NEED one another in life.
Good topic, see you around,
Robby
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