Age, Height, Income difference

[hasnoname]

I never thought I would ever date a woman who was taller than me...then I met my girlfriend who is 2 inches taller. I'd be lying if I said it didnt bother me at all...but it rarely does...love does funny things to what you care about. She is such an awesome God-fearing lady, and I knew it from the time I first started talking to her...that I didnt care at all. God has truly blessed us with something great...

height doesnt matter...

but the money thing...just because it is in a man's nature to long to provide for the family would be hard...but through God anything is possible to overcome...

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

If I wern't insecure, I probabily wouldn't be looking for a woman in the first place. I do hope to be the masculine figure in my marriage. (if I am blessed to have one)

So only insecure men are looking for women?

Trust me, get yourself in order before thinking about getting a woman.

Also, I'm 5'11" (and a former Marine). *gasp* I guess I'm WAY too manly/masculine for anyone. Glad my husband likes butch women.

 

[JustLiz87]

I am almost 5'11, so naturally it isn't the easiest thing to find a man who is taller than me. My boyfriend of two years is 5'7, but he's 7 years older than I am. I guess whatever works. I used to think that height mattered, but now after first dating my bf, I realized it wasn't such a big deal after all. What matters most is your spiritual, social, and intellectual compatability.

 

[melandshanetria]

have a question...

Does age, height, and income difference matter in relationships?

If so, how?

It seems normal for the man to be older, taller, and to make more money. Is that important in courting/marriage?

What if I date women who are older, taller, and/or make more money?

Do people really consider all of this when God place someone in their lives? If so, this is a horrible way to accept blessings from God. If he sees that we're unappreciative of someone because of their income and height differences, then what about when he gets ready to bless us with other things such as a house, and a car. If you don't have a car, and you desire a Mercedes, so you pray and ask God to bless you with a Mercedes, but instead of a Mercedes, he blesses you with a Lexus, will you turn it down? He expects us to be appreciative of the things that he gives to us. Some people see a big issue about age and some don't. It's all up to the individuals involved whether they see age as a difference or not. I feel that God knows what's best for us, and he renders us according to our needs, for he knows what we need even before we even ask, the majority of the time, he don't render according to what we may desire...as in someone tall, someone handsome as Prince Charming, someone that's rich, ect...sometimes, he blesses us with the total opposite, and that's not a reason to turn someone around at the door because you preferred someone tall and rich. So no, it DEFINITELY shouldn't matter.

 

[bliz]

My sons, 6'2", and 6'3", have both ended up dating women who are taller than themselves. They didn't set out to do so, but these leggy gals come on over to our house... I'm very proud that this is not an issue for them.

 

[JustLiz87]

Do people really consider all of this when God place someone in their lives? If so, this is a horrible way to accept blessings from God. If he sees that we're unappreciative of someone because of their income and height differences, then what about when he gets ready to bless us with other things such as a house, and a car. If you don't have a car, and you desire a Mercedes, so you pray and ask God to bless you with a Mercedes, but instead of a Mercedes, he blesses you with a Lexus, will you turn it down? He expects us to be appreciative of the things that he gives to us. Some people see a big issue about age and some don't. It's all up to the individuals involved whether they see age as a difference or not. I feel that God knows what's best for us, and he renders us according to our needs, for he knows what we need even before we even ask, the majority of the time, he don't render according to what we may desire...as in someone tall, someone handsome as Prince Charming, someone that's rich, ect...sometimes, he blesses us with the total opposite, and that's not a reason to turn someone around at the door because you preferred someone tall and rich. So no, it DEFINITELY shouldn't matter.

I agree with you on this. We should not turn down something from God if it doesn't completely suit our tastes. As for the height thing, that goes along with physical attractiveness and when some women think about what they are attracted to, they would say a man who is taller than them. But that doesn't mean that when you meet someone who is not taller than you that you will not be attracted to them or be appreciative of God sending that person to you. Either way, we can't deny that physical attraction has something to do with a relationship. As for me, after my first date with my current bf (who is 4 inches shorter than I am), I realized I definitely wanted to continue this relationship ( obviously there were other physical attributes that I found appealing), but mainly it was his beliefs, morals, and personality. I'm just saying that I think the OP was asking a valid question and that we may think that height or age or whatever has an impact on our own relationships, but when God places that person in our lives, those thoughts quickly deminish.

 

[melandshanetria]

but when God places that person in our lives, those thoughts quickly deminish.

Ditto

 

[SPLogan]

So only insecure men are looking for women?

Trust me, get yourself in order before thinking about getting a woman.

Also, I'm 5'11" (and a former Marine). *gasp* I guess I'm WAY too manly/masculine for anyone. Glad my husband likes butch women.

Yes, I think that few "secure" men are looking or women. I think we have a built-in insecurity that draws us toward a female partner. Men need someone to provide for, to love, and to defend. I think most of us feel incomplete without that.

If I wait to get myself in order, I'll never get a woman. The same is true with my "getting" Jesus as my savior.

Aparently you're not too "masculine" for one good man. He's probably a greater man than me. Thank God for "butch" Marine women- ever raising the masculinity bar for men (not to mention defending our freedom). You go! If my younger sister were going to get drafted (if that were legal) or decided to join the armed forces to defend my country, that would certainly be compelling to me. I love her, and I'm pretty sure I'd go in her place if I had that choice.

 

[Oblivious]

I think the OP needs to start sweating the details and look for what's in the heart. Sorry if that sounds cliche.

 

[Argent]

I ain't buyin' a lot of this.

Most women want a man who's taller than she is.

Most women want a man who's older than she is.

Most women want a man whom she feels will provide for her and her children in comfort.

Now, maybe there are some people on here who see things differently, and that's ok, but when I look around, what I see is what I've described.

P.S. I'm no fan of John Eldridge's take on things either.

 

[JustLiz87]

I ain't buyin' a lot of this.

Most women want a man who's taller than she is.

Most women want a man who's older than she is.

Most women want a man whom she feels will provide for her and her children in comfort.

Now, maybe there are some people on here who see things differently, and that's ok, but when I look around, what I see is what I've described.

P.S. I'm no fan of John Eldridge's take on things either.

I think you are right, most women do want a taller man and an older man and a provider. It's just that when God sends you someone those wants can disappear and you realize height is not that big of deal and age can be dealt with and as long as the man works and brings in an income, that's okay! I don't think there should be a contest over who makes more money between the couple. I think we all have ideal qualities in mind, but God knows who is best for us. When that person enters our lives, we realize what is truly important.