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Age, Height, Income difference

Maeyken

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In general, men make more money than women.
In general, men are taller than women.
Traditionally, men have been older than the women they marry.

And you're wondering why things are like they are?? ;)

If you wanna date taller, older women who make more money than you, go for it! It's only an issue if you make it one.
 
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SPLogan said:
I have a question...

Does age, height, and income difference matter in relationships?

If so, how?

It seems normal for the man to be older, taller, and to make more money. Is that important in courting/marriage?

What if I date women who are older, taller, and/or make more money?

None of this matters to me. IMO, it shouldn't matter. If God is the center of your life, you should trust Him in all things. God is the best matchmaker. If He found someone for you who makes more or less money than you, or is shorter in height, etc., He allowed all of this for a reason. God's will is perfect. We have to be better listeners and not be distracted by the things of this world.
 
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They shouldn't be big issues in a relationship. I guess it's more of a preferance than a stipulation. Income doesn't bother me one bit. I don't care if he earns more than me, or vice versa. Although i'd expect him to earn more than me because i want to be a housewife when i have kids! I do prefer guys to be older and a bit taller. My boyfriend is just over a year older than me, and is taller than me - when i wear my boots he's still a bit taller, which i like a lot.
 
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SPLogan said:
I have a question...

Does age, height, and income difference matter in relationships?

If so, how?

It seems normal for the man to be older, taller, and to make more money. Is that important in courting/marriage?

What if I date women who are older, taller, and/or make more money?

haha that's funny cause my boyfriend is short (about 2 inches taller than me), he's younger than me, and he doesn't make much money. it doesn't matter to me though. he's a good person, loves God, loves me, we get along great....
 
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Leanna

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SPLogan said:
I do hope to be the masculine figure in my marriage.

:eek:

I'm not sure I even want to ask what this means....... but I have to. Are you trying to say that taller women are masculine? Richer women are masculine? Women who are older than you are masculine?

What an odd statement.

I dated one guy younger than me before and while it had a certain appeal he was also certainly more immature which caused trouble.
 
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SPLogan

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Leanna said:
I'm not sure I even want to ask what this means....... but I have to. Are you trying to say that taller women are masculine? Richer women are masculine? Women who are older than you are masculine?

Before I retract my statement,

I was responding to...

Insecure men have to be taller, older and make more money.

In that statement, "Insecure men" must mean men who are struggling with self identity.
So... My response to that is: Inherently, the desire to seek a spouse in the first place is a sign of insecurity- it is a good, God-given insecurity that attracts men and women to each other in the first place. "It is not good for man to be alone." BUT if the above statement is true- (that men who "have to be taller, older and make more money" are uniquely, unusually insecure), then those traits must be signs of masculine "security," in relation to a female companion (when other traits are not present).

What else could be meant by "insecure men have to be taller, older and make more money?"
 
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The real consideration in a compatible partner is whether that potential partner and you are spiritually mature and have your security in God and God only. All the other superficial qualities are not very important in the whole scheme of things. Height, income and age won't matter at all if the spiritual maturity is not there. Looking at the character and heart of someone is where true beauty lies...not the other superficial attributes.

As the saying goes, Seek first the kingdom of God... :angel:
 
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Leanna

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SPLogan said:
Before I retract my statement,

I was responding to...



In that statement, "Insecure men" must mean men who are struggling with self identity.
So... My response to that is: Inherently, the desire to seek a spouse in the first place is a sign of insecurity- it is a good, God-given insecurity that attracts men and women to each other in the first place. "It is not good for man to be alone." BUT if the above statement is true- (that men who "have to be taller, older and make more money" are uniquely, unusually insecure), then those traits must be signs of masculine "security," in relation to a female companion (when other traits are not present).

What else could be meant by "insecure men have to be taller, older and make more money?"

And what I'm saying is.... since you are a man you will obviously be the "masculine" figure in your marriage. But if to be masculine you *think* you must have a certain look, money, power or control to be masculine that is not a good start to a relationship.....
 
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My boyfriend is taller than me. It's not hard, I'm only 4'10". He is younger than me by two years. It might be a backlash thing because my last two relationships were with guys older than me by about 5 years. Both relationships ended rather badly.

He makes more money than me but that doesn't bother me at all. I want to be a stay at home wife and when I have children a stay at home mom. When he comes home the house would be clean and dinner would be ready. Or um that's what I'm working on anyway, my domestic skills are atrocious except in the cooking department.
 
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