Age Difference?

[fishstix]

I figure that the older the two people are, the less important age difference is. So an 8 year age difference shouldn't be as big a deal for people in their 30's as it would be for people in their teens. But in the end, it comes down to whether you and the lady are comfortable with that age difference or not.

Also, someone mentioned age and children - some women can and do have children well into their 40's; others are unable to have children at a much younger age. So age isn't a guarantee of fertility or the lack thereof. And as long as she is ok with it, it isn't a huge deal that she would be retired by the time those children are grown up. My parents are over 40 years older than me, and that has never been a problem.

 

[justasinner]

I see nothing wrong with age differences

I had a great uncle that when he was 69-70 married a 21 year old that's almost 50 years. Actually my great uncle had a daughter older than his new wife. My great uncle lived to be 99 and was still married to this lady. They had 3 boys. The boys all married and each had children by the time my great uncle passed away.

It had to be love because my great uncle had no money or saving only retirement.

I have uncles married with 10 years difference. And have two cousin that are 15+ years. there are others actually to may to say. So, with that range of examples, you can see that my family would have no problem with age difference of 8.

 

[Sinless_angels]

Um me personally it would weird me out.

I mean a chick being a couple of years older then a guys kool but 8 years I dunno...

The other way round doesnt cause me a prob ive gone out with guys up to 10years older then me.

I guess if it felt right go for it

 

[jenptcfan]

My boyfriend's 8 years older than me, and I've dated guys with a bigger age difference than that. Give it a go.

 

[Stanfi]

For the record, I think it is more like 10 years than 8.

 

[OhhJim]

And after all, you have so many other options, right? The models, the stewardesses, the actresses, the duchess...you'd have to do some major shuffling to fit this poor gal into your schedule, huh? Besides, she'd probably want to marry you after the first date, and that wouldn't do at all.

 

[Stanfi]

And after all, you have so many other options, right? The models, the stewardesses, the actresses, the duchess...you'd have to do some major shuffling to fit this poor gal into your schedule, huh? Besides, she'd probably want to marry you after the first date, and that wouldn't do at all.

Finally! Someone that sees the big picture! Praise the Lord!

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

Ok, thought about it. Not going to do it. Just to weird.

Pansy! You're not even giving it a chance. Don't let any of us ever hear you complaining about women, no dates, etc., etc. again!

 

[Stanfi]

Pansy! You're not even giving it a chance. Don't let any of us ever hear you complaining about women, no dates, etc., etc. again!

Actually, I am thinking about reconsidering.... this is such a headache!

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I have the oppourtunity to meet a lady.. ok let me rephrase.. I have a friend who is VERY strongly insisting that I meet a lady who is about 8 years older than I. She had a daughter who is college age, and a son who is in high school. Supposedly she doesn't look her age, and is rather attractive. She is also a Christian.

It just seem a little weird to me. I mean age wise I am right in between her and her daughter. I was in 2nd grade when she graduated!!! What do yo all think on age difference?

Go meet her, but don't go into it thinking about wether or not it's going to be a relationship. If you go into it with that question on your mind, age difference will then become an "issue" to be dealt with.

If you just go meet some girl then what's the problem with that?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Okay, read a little more. Caelda is so right by throwing the word "pansy" into the mix.

You've already gone back and forth and for and against in your head and on this thread when you could have just stopped worrying about all the little angles and just met the girl and THEN decided if this is something you should be concerned about.

It's as though you've taken the mindset that she's female, you're male, it HAS to be a dating situation.

I'd say don't meet her now, because of the way you're approaching this. If you can get over the "situation" you're creating in your mind because she's a girl, then yes, go meet her.

You just might want to know who you're talking about before you make any decisions, you don't even have enough information and you're already flip-flopping because of where this MIGHT go.

I wouldn't even chose my socks with so little information.

 

[Stanfi]

Okay, read a little more. Caelda is so right by throwing the word "pansy" into the mix.

You've already gone back and forth and for and against in your head and on this thread when you could have just stopped worrying about all the little angles and just met the girl and THEN decided if this is something you should be concerned about.

It's as though you've taken the mindset that she's female, you're male, it HAS to be a dating situation.

I'd say don't meet her now, because of the way you're approaching this. If you can get over the "situation" you're creating in your mind because she's a girl, then yes, go meet her.

You just might want to know who you're talking about before you make any decisions, you don't even have enough information and you're already flip-flopping because of where this MIGHT go.

I wouldn't even chose my socks with so little information.

*shakes head* iklepac.. haven't you ever learned the best fix to a problem is to avoid it!

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

*shakes head* iklepac.. haven't you ever learned the best fix to a problem is to avoid it!

Yeah, but you could go through the whole relationship in your head and end up dumping yourself before you even meet the girl.

Reminds me of a pair of couples I know from a Mexico Missions thing I did.

Both wanted to adopt.

One couple prayed and prayed, waiting for the clouds to split open and God to come down and personally tell them exactly what to do.

The other wanted to adopt, grabbed a stack of cash (bribe money, that's how it works in Mexico) and went down there.

One couple has a kid right now, the other has no idea what happened to the girl they wanted to adopt.

You're not going to make ANY progress with ANYTHING if you talk yourself out of it before you even know what's going on. You don't even know if it's something you need to be talked out of in the first place.

Meeting this girl isn't going to obligate you to anything. All you'll gain from meeting her is you'll know one more person and have a better idea of what your next step should be.

It's okay to make mistakes. How tall are you?

 

[Stanfi]

How tall are you?

I,m not sure, I keep forgetting what all of those little marks mean on a ruler..

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I,m not sure, I keep forgetting what all of those little marks mean on a ruler..

Well, even if you fall flat on your face you're still going to make 6'1" of progress.

 

[Tenorvoice]

What about the reality, that more than likely they will die before you?

Hey man its been proven that most women live to be at lest 7-8 years longer than men do. So you may just go @ the same time. Give it a chance!!!

 

[Stanfi]

Hey man its been proven that most women live to be at lest 7-8 years longer than men do. So you may just go @ the same time. Give it a chance!!!

Now that's a pick up line "Baby, science has shown we'll probably kill over about the same time, so I say we give it a go!"

 

[Psalms34]

It just seem a little weird to me. I mean age wise I am right in between her and her daughter. I was in 2nd grade when she graduated!!! What do yo all think on age difference?

well, off hand I vaguely recall something in scripture about men not meant to be with older women, but I think this is meant in more extreme cases.

I would say in this case that if you don't feel quite right about a woman who is eight years older than you, then just don't do it. If you feel that now, you may feel the same six months from now and feel it even more when you two have disagreements. Then again if it is really not an issue you may never think twice.

First thing personally that comes to mind is biological clock but I would really like to have kids in the coming years. I tend to prefer younger women for many reasons including that reason. I tend to be more interested in women about eight years younger than I am or even younger. I look eight or ten years younger than I am so it's not much of an issue though.

But in all sincerity, you need to listen to your heart in such cases. If that is truly your hearts desire than so be it. If it's not than avoid it. If you are uncertain than pray hard and take a cold hard look at who you are and what would best fit for you. May take time.

 

[tqpix]

Older woman are sexy!

I have a fetish for older women... as long as they're not TOO old.

 

[Tenken]

I have a fetish for older women... as long as they're not TOO old.

I dunno, having an older woman is like having an older sister, and her treating you like a younger brother. I've seen enough situations, where the older woman will take charge of the whole relationships, from stuff like picking restaurants, to picking a brand of diapers, to picking which school their kids will go to... you know the idea. Isn't it in the scripture that we as men should be the head of a family?