pray about it.. could be time to move on .yes it would have been nice to check in.. how does he do the the others in the church when something like this happens? 2. do you not have any Deacons they have a responsibility alsoI am a young (30’s) associate pastor at a small church with a senior pastor in his mid to late 60’s. Though the church is small, has no other young families or kids, and has shown no interest in growing over the last 3 years, My family has stayed because the community was good and it was a wonderful place to learn the ropes. However, lately the senior pastor will not return my phone calls or texts even when their are things that need to be discussed. It was only a mild annoyance, but recently my wife had surgery and ended up in the ER/hospital for two days. Neither before the surgery, after it, or during the time at the ER did my senior pastor bother to call, text, or visit my wife and I to pray or offer support. In fact I even messaged him several times letting him know how things were going only to get no response. There are several other odd things like his wife only showing up to service once a month an so forth which are cumulatively concerning me. Anyone have any thoughts or advice on this issue and how you would handle it? He was a Navy captain and a bit of a micromanager so he does not handle direct confrontation very well.
to be honest with you Bro Davis.. internet forum is the worst place to get advice.. if you have deacons or other spiritual authority go talk to them about this. express your concern as has been listed there are steps to be taken if nothing works could be time move onI am really surprised to see this kind of response on here. Prayerfully seeking advice in a discrete manner before going to someone is not childish. Rather, it was my hopes that others may have experienced similar things and could shed some light from their experience. In the future you are free to simply ignore my posts if you don't desire to respon with Christlike charity.
As for the other comments and for clarity purpose. I have no expectations of him that are unreasonable. I am unwilling to buck the system and start out on my own that is divisive and hurtful to the body and to him. Our church has an average attendance of 50, we are not some programmatic megachurch behemoth. We have a plethora of free time...that is why it is so concerning that we did not even receive a text saying "praying for you all". It is not that my feelings are hurt that i was not visited and am demanding to be treated better. It is that I am seeing as a very bad sign of somethign worse involved. One thing a small church should do well is pastoral care.
i am Evangelical myselfIn Anglican polity, deacons don't have that kind of role. If the OP is unable to resolve the situation with his vicar/rector there are people he might talk to - his area dean, or archdeacon, or bishop - but they are outside the local congregation.
I am a young (30’s) associate pastor at a small church with a senior pastor in his mid to late 60’s. Though the church is small, has no other young families or kids, and has shown no interest in growing over the last 3 years, My family has stayed because the community was good and it was a wonderful place to learn the ropes. However, lately the senior pastor will not return my phone calls or texts even when their are things that need to be discussed. It was only a mild annoyance, but recently my wife had surgery and ended up in the ER/hospital for two days. Neither before the surgery, after it, or during the time at the ER did my senior pastor bother to call, text, or visit my wife and I to pray or offer support. In fact I even messaged him several times letting him know how things were going only to get no response. There are several other odd things like his wife only showing up to service once a month an so forth which are cumulatively concerning me. Anyone have any thoughts or advice on this issue and how you would handle it? He was a Navy captain and a bit of a micromanager so he does not handle direct confrontation very well.
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