Advice, Prayer, something...from a messed up situation

[QueenLiB]

Here's a quick summary of the situation. Well I'll try to make it quick.

My husband and I separated 2 1/2 years ago because of him committing adultery multiple times, and I emotionally cheated on him. We separated and then I moved in with my friend. While there I met a guy, and him and I started dating, and he knew of the situation between my husband and I. My friend and I stopped being friends for reasons, and my husband said my bf & I could move back into the house. Insane situation I know.

Anyway my bf was abusive (physically & mentally), an alcoholic, and needs anger management. I broke up with my bf finally, and he's in jail. So during all this I kept feeling that obviously this is absolutely wrong, and could feel God tugging at me.

So about 2 or 3 months ago I've heavily started seeking God again. Praying, reading his word, turning back to him, and trying to get back where I should be. My husband had broken up with his gf, and was an emotional wreck because of that, and said he needed a friend. So I was there and have talked to him. He then started talking to me, and spending more time around me and long story short gave me false hope that him and I could actually get it together and work on having a marriage with our family back together. I had always said I would NEVER get back with him unless it was a miracle of God (ironic?). Anyway, he then goes out and has sex with some female he met online. I'm hurt, confused, and emotionally in turmoil. I'm wondering what in the world is going on...and he's basically saying well we aren't together but I told him he made me feel used, and that he was selfish and a dog for that one. He disagrees.

I don't know what to do. I didn't think I still had love for him, but apparently do. So I'm just praying and seeking the Lord. I've now distanced myself emotionally, but still hurt. So prayer I definitely need, and advice or scripture encouragement would be nice.

This is honestly the ultra short edition of my situation.

 

[marksman315]

I wish I had really good advice for you, but all I can give is that it is best to stay away from him. He has used you and will continue to do so. Please keep reading your Bible, going to church, and get together with other Christians that can help you get through this time. There are things that happen in our lives that we may never know the reason for them. God has His ways of letting us know that we need to change direction, and not all are very clear.

Also, please do not get in a relationship with any man that is not a born-again, God fearing, Bible-believing Christian. It's not a guarantee that all will work out, but if both of you are really close in your walk with God, then you will have a better chance of working out problems.

I'll pray for you, and may God bless you.

 

[RobertMerton]

Yes, stay away from him.

It may seem to be from God, but it could also be from the Devil.
The bible says that he comes to steal, kill and destory.

Rejoice in the LORD, Do not fear.
Seek him, and seek his comfort.
Embrace the Lord, and he will comfort you, and heal you.

 

[faithinHim2012]

Basically agree with previous two posts. However, to throw in a couple of other pieces, don't confuse "being in love with him again" with the possibility that your emotional pain may be just that - an emotion of pain that you're assigning with a tag of "hurt love." Not saying that's what it is, but it could be.

Also, sounds like you're still married to him, and that being the case you've got to take care of that before you start looking for the sound Christian guy (which is who to look for when the time is right). For now, though, you are married. God hates divorce, but adultery is pretty serious, and you're both guilty of that so you can't point fingers now (my opinion, of course). You've either got to commit, together, to work on it, or decide to move on. But wondering where you are with him without a mutual understanding and commitment is setting yourself up for more emotional catastrophy.

 

[vcs]

Praying for you sis. May God intervene and bring peace to your situation.