Advice Please

[_sunshinegirl]

Actually I am not married, I am one of the single ones, but I posted a rather [what seems to be] interesting topic and one of the posters suggested that I bring married people into share their advice. A few married lurkers in the singles forum have already posted and I am curious to hear what others have to say.

http://www.christianforums.com/t1029257

Thank you and God bless
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[Katydid]

I will post my answer here. Basically, anatomy takes care of that. A woman is very, ummmmmm, stretchy in that area, though with continuous use, can get to the point where they don't, ummmmmmmm, bounce back. OK so basically, if you have never been with a guy, you will stretch to fit him and only him. The problem with compatability comes with women who are not, their original shape, therefore the man feels less than what she needs. Does that make sense??? OK well the rest of the sex can be figured out as you go. You talk to each other, and make sure that you communicate what you want, and he does the same. Then it all falls into place, basically. But, don't fool yourself, most married couples will have times when things don't "click", that is when you need to find out what is missing and practice.

 

[Buzz Dixon]

Assuming no gross anatomical problems or psychological trauma that mightn impede intimacy, the easiest way to determine sexual compatibility is by talking to your intended/spouse. I've used this analogy before, but some people like vanilla ice cream, some people like salsa. If a vanilla ice cream person just can not abide the thought of salsa, the salsa person has to decide if they can live on vanilla ice cream for the rest of their life. Conversely, the vanilla ice cream person should at least try salsa to see if they can at least enjoy it enough for their partner to indulge in it on occasion.


(We are, of course, talking about things within the monogamous marriage covenant, not adventures outside of it. Even if both parties agree, it's Not A Very Good Idea for a wide variety of reasons.)

 

[InTheFlame]

If all else fails, they could compromise with salsa ice-cream?

(sorry, being utterly flippant)