I just started back to college this week, and in one class we had to 'meet and greet' each other and of course one thing everyone asks is if your married/ single/ etc etc. So then I say I am a widower and it becomes awkward, or at least it seems that way to me and I feel bad like I gave 'too much information'. I am just getting to the point where I feel I can move on with my life, so I don't want to turn people off but I don't want to lie about it either. I just can't think of anything else to say other than to tell it like it is. I was wondering if perhaps some of you here had similiar experiences and could lend some advice or just a 'I know how you feel'?
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Manna
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I know how you feel. =) Especially with being widowed at a young age, I've encountered that awkward silence a time or two! The only thing I've learned to do is to fit it into the conversation and then breeze right over it. People feel like they need to give condolences, but we all know that it's not at all necessary! If anything, I use it as an opportunity to share the MANY ways that God has blessed me!
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Yes, I understand how you feel as well. I always have said I'm a widow. I have gotten different responces from it. Some surprizing, like women grabbing my arm and saying "you poor thing", for the most part people are generally respectful. I just didn't feel right saying single, it just felt like more than that. It was hard going from married to widow in my mind, I still say widow. But now I feel widow that's single, it's taken some time to get there. In a few months it will be four years that I've been a widow, so I've had these years to come to terms with it all. (Great outlook on it Manna " I use it as an opportunity to share the MANY ways that God has blessed me!) That's wonderful. 
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I can understand the way you feel too. I think a lot of times it catches people
off guard and they look at their own lives. Death is still something that a lot of
people fear. I have experienced the same awkward moments, but I think that it
is good for us to acknowledge the lost of our loved one, the awkward moment
will pass.
off guard and they look at their own lives. Death is still something that a lot of
people fear. I have experienced the same awkward moments, but I think that it
is good for us to acknowledge the lost of our loved one, the awkward moment
will pass.
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