Advice, please: How do I signal that I'm NOT interested?

[Alexander1982]

Please don't give up because of this one incident.

That's what I've been hearing all the time from friends and parents when things go wrong. What they're asking me to do is to keep faith, keep up the hopes that things will be alright in future.However things look very bleak realistically, so I ask why? Why I shouldn't give up.
This was not one small incident, it was a big incident that turned my faith upside down and kicked my confidence to shatters. The only thing I learned from this is that life is very unfair and you cannot trust your heart

"Your time will come" says mum. But to be honest I sort of mistrust them. This mistrust is product from all the accumulated urnequited loves in the past. Being rejected when it happes to you, of course you do your best to move on , but deep down inside your soul, you feel as if you're a nobody, as if no-one is ever going to like you. It's savagely attacks your heart.

And the only thing you can do afterwards is never to trust your heart ever again, because look at where it gotten me and Pea's guy soon! The ULTIMATE question is....why would you still believe in love after all that unnecessary heartache...You know 4 years ago I was happy with single life. I spent my singledom hitting the books for college, food, Playstation, Lord of the Rings and most of all English Premier League. But after the painful number 6 nightmare, all of that doesn't seem to appeal to mre anymore. And that is the result of listening to your stupid heart

 

[Alexander1982]

Discourteous would have been getting a "no" from her and getting really angry and aggrieved immediately ... "What do you mean, no? Do you know how much this bear cost me? I took a day off work to find you at this mall ... " Or tracking her down later and demanding a reason why she'd said no ... or pleading with her to change her mind ... or going to everyone she knows and saying what a cold, heartless, unfeeling person she is. That sort of thing. See what I mean?

Well there's more to the story where I meet one of her school friends, I didn't bad mouth her to the friend but I sorta let them know my side of the story I shall send you a private message about it Pea

 

[Alexander1982]

And I bet you won't ask Ania for any more advice either.

I think she misunderstood the situation as well, she thought we knew each other quite well. I guess it's my fault for not being clear with her in regard to the half asian girl.

I was mad at her for a while, but I sorta grew up and we still remain friends (with Ania)