Advice needed..........

[IDOXLR8]

OK here is a little background on my situation:

http://www.christianforums.com/t739933


I can honestly say that after breaking up with my ex-gf and accepting God into my life that things have gotten alot better. I am way more focused in life and also alot more giving as a person. Although God has blessed me with so much I had all these emotions I just had to let out concerning my ex-gf. This past weekend I went back home to attend a wedding. I decided to call my ex-gf so I could let my feelings out. Although I could have easily done it on the phone I believe that the full affects of my sincerity could have only been seen in person. Well I drove to her place and started to talk. Before anything was discussed I asked her if she would mind if I said a prayer so that God would overlook our conversation. She agreed and we both held hands while I prayed. I let everything out and explained to her how much she menat to me. After everything was said and done I asked her how she felt and she said she felt like **** because she never knew I felt like that about her. On several occassion we held hands and hugged. When I squeezed her hands she squeezed mine harder. I looked in her eyes and could tell there was alot of confusion there. I ended the conversation by stating that from this point on I would be out of her hair. Meaning that I would not interfere with her current relationship and would not call her anymore. I also told her if she ever needed me for anything to give me a call. Overall I left the conversation with a good feeling. My goals of the conversation was not to break her bf and her up but just allow her to understand how God has influenced my life greatly.
Is it childish that I do not want to talk to her? Did I do the right thing?


The thing is that I am probably going to see her next weekend because I am setting up a party for one of my good buddies who is going to the Air Force. I will acknowledge her and say hi but realistically I think there is no need for me to have a conversation with her. What do you guys thinks?

Thanks

 

[Daniel_Standish]

I do not know how much my opinion really matters to you...but in my opinion...I think you are doing awesome. I think you are handling things extremely Godly. I know that God is smiling down on you right now. He is proud that you are His son.
I think it is good that you went directly to her and told her how you feel. I think it is an even greater gift that she now sees God in your eyes. She sees now that you have changed. And I think she sometimes regrets shutting the door in your face. I believe you did the right thing. I am amazed at your maturity and strength throughout this situation. I wish I had that faith. I wish I was as Christian as you seem to be. I think you are doing things very Godly and humbly. Thats all I have to say! Awesome job...and God bless you!

 

[Tuffguy]

Good job,,,you must have handled it with alot of maturity. Nice man,, classy.

No conversation. Just acknowledge each others presence. Don't talk to her unless she approaches you. Treat her as one of the guys,,just another party goer.

 

[IDOXLR8]

Thanks for the advice.

 

[bliz]

I see no need for a conversation beyond greetings. But I also saw no need for the previous conversation, either. What you had to say to her you could have said in a letter. You wanted to say what you had to say. That does not mean that she wanted or even needed to hear it. She put it well - it made her feel like ... well you know what you said. Was that for her binifit or for yours? If you are tempted in the future - write a letter.

 

[IDOXLR8]

I see no need for a conversation beyond greetings. But I also saw no need for the previous conversation, either. What you had to say to her you could have said in a letter. You wanted to say what you had to say. That does not mean that she wanted or even needed to hear it. She put it well - it made her feel like ... well you know what you said. Was that for her binifit or for yours? If you are tempted in the future - write a letter.

I am honestly confused by your reponse. Why is it bad for her to understand how I felt?

From experience I am a person that likes to resolve my issues in person. Emails, phone calls and letters have never really helped me in the past. The emotions that I had in my heart were basically eatting me up and bothering me. The purpose of the conversation was to benefit both of us. I was able to let out my feelings and now can move on from our relationship. She had her doubts about how much I cared about her and now she knows how I felt.

 

[MagicStar723]

You absolutely did would God wants us to do, forgive and worked it out! I also don't see any need to start conversation, just say hi maybe a how are you? Don't want to create any problems in her new relationship.