Advice needed

[hisgyrl]

Hi all....
I met a newly single Minsiter thru mutual friends last month; we hit it off right way.We have a lot in common. We talked on the phone and three amazing dates.Our last date was 4 hours long, we laughed,talked and enjoyed an awesome meal..It was GREAT! I was relaxed and I think he was too . We both lead very busy lives, working full time and our church responsibilites. The last time I was him ,he hugged and kissed me on the cheek and told me to call him for lunch.. I have called him twice, but he hasn't replied,that was thre weeks ago..I'm so old fashion, and beleive in men pursuing women, but I sure am curious to what happen ..our mutual friends haven't heard from him either....but they are having a party this weekend, and they mailed him an invitation too, so he might be there..what should I do when I see him?

should I call him again or email him before then?

 

[chickenfeet]

i wouldn't.. not unless u wanna come off as desperate. been there, done that, u'd become the laughing stock, and viewed as pathetic and clingy. not fun..

if the boy hasnt contacted u in 3 weeks, maybe he isn't as into you as u are him.

just brush him off.. and move on with ur life.

 

[hat lady]

I agree with chickenfeet. Don't pursue him, if he is still interested you could scare him off. A lot of things would have happened in three weeks. Just wait and see if he shows at the party and see how he reacts to you there. If he doesn't give an explanation, of doesn't talk to you a lot. Then you have your answer!

It might hurt. But there are other men! Keep praying for one!

 

[LionOfJudah]

he could also very well have become very busy maybe something happened at his church and he has been unable to contact you.

you also never know someone may have said something at the church and now there is a big controversy over nothing, so he may have to let some of the flames die down before he can call you again.

Try to give him the benefit of the doubt when you see him and just ask how he has been, remember you are friends before you are anything else. be a friend.

 

[hisgyrl]

Thanks for the feedback~ after reading your replies( most were a confirmation for me )I'm being "still" about the whole thing..I will continue to pray of him and his ministry...I trust my Father in Heaven God knows exactly what happen

 

[hischildsindik]

Hisgyrl, you said you met a "newly single Minister", maybe if he is fairly new to being single, it could have got too intense for him or stirred memories. You never know. Do as you have said, continue to trust God and pray for him and his ministry. If you see him at the party, just look at it as a chance to say hello to a friend and don't push what could or might happen. Go and enjoy yourself.

 

[Sketcher]

"Newly Single" because his wife died or because of a divorce?

If it's because of a divorce, it would be wrong to date him. That would be adultery according to Matt. 5:31-32.

 

[VivDaGurl]

You can try to give him another call or send him another note. There could be many possiblities to this such as he might be too busy with something, something had happened to him, he's unsure with certain things, etc. and nobody knows. If there still isn't any reply from his side, just put this aside and to ask God for guidance.

 

[Living4Him03]

Walk the other way. I would not pursue him further. Two calls and he didn't answer...I don't care how busy he is, if he is truly interested he WILL respond. If he's newly single he's probably got some issues to sort out with his ex g/f/wife so keep your distance for awhile and leave it in God's hands. Guys will pursue the woman they want and won't expect you to call them...if he wants to take you out again he needs to call you. Don't call him or email before the party. At the party, if he is there, you can tell him you are concerned and hope he's doing well because you didn't hear from him. That's all. Don't need to say anything more than that.