Advice Needed!!! (Single Teens...)

[roseglass6370]

I really need some advice and would appreciate any help at all Okay, here's the problem...

Last year when I was a freshman in highschool I had a terrible crush on a senior that went to my school that we'll call "Steve". As a result I became fairly good friends with him, but of course nothing ever happened and he graduated (as far as I know he never knew I liked him). That same year he also became very close (basically best friends) with another freshman friend of mine that we'll call "Ann" and a junior of that year "Carrie".

Now I'm a sophomore, Steve is graduated, Ann is also a sophomore, and Carrie is a senior this year. Yesterday, during our school's football game, Ann, Carrie, and two other friends of theirs came up to me (I should mention that I am also fairly good friends with both of them). They explained to me that they were each interested in taking a different guy from their church (also Steve's church) to homecoming. They had told Steve that he should come along but he said he didn't have a date and basically would feel awkward. In their attempts to get him to come they were trying to find a mutual friend that he could go with and they asked me if I would go with him!!

Of course I was shocked. I had be head over heels for him all last year and was just now starting to get over him. So needless to say I blurted out, "Ummm...sure!". It would be just as friends of course, and he just needs someone to go with so that his other church friends don't feel weird. I also understand that nothing will probably ever happen between us (as I said, I am pretty much over him in that sense).

I'm not sure I did the right thing. I mean him and I are, yes, friends. However, he is older and I'm not sure if I made the right "decision". I really liked him before and only ever DREAMED of going to a dance with him. This is so weird to me. Can I have some advice...I'm kind of stuck :/

 

[JeremiahJ]

What I would do is first establish whether or not going with him is going to be a problem. Is it going to make you like him? If so, then you should probably cancel. Also, if you do continue with your plan of going, I would highly recommend being firm with yourself. You're over him, and you need to stay that way. Don't compromise your thoughts with hope of liking him again and having him like you. If you start imaging potential situations, you're going to start liking him again. Be determined to just be his friend, in your physical, mental, and emotional worlds.

 

[roseglass6370]

thanks, i should probably also mention that i told the girl who asked me if i would go with him that i wasn't 100 percent sure i could go, but that i probably could. so none of this is set in stone.

 

[JeremiahJ]

Good for you. That was smart. In light of that, do some introspection and decide what is best for you. Is it going to be dangerous by creating difficulties in keeping a life of emotional purity (a relatively new concept for me, saving your emotions for your future spouse)? If so, decline for personal reasons. That would be my advice. You think about it for yourself and determine what you think you should do.

 

[roseglass6370]

Thanks, I definately have been. I had struggled in the past with some emotional purity issues which I have learned to keep in check of the recent. I'll have to do a lot of prayer about this all, but whatever the outcome, I'm sure it'll be the right thing