How to deal with a lying "friend"

[Joy Allen]

I have gotten close to a girl I met 4 years ago. She lies a lot. I'd hate to hurt her and just ghost her because that is not who I am. I mean, this girl has lied to me so much. Nothing adds up. She drives me nuts constantly talking about money. Her money and how they are struggling and cutting back, but she is constantly spending. Then she comes to me boohooing how she doesn't have any money. She thinks that she is saving money by buying used stuff, but she is still losing money because she is spending on things she doesn't need. Her house is full of stuff, mostly clothes and she can't let go of any of. She has to get her money back on all of it before it can leave. I helped her price some of the over 400 items she had to put in for a consignment. I thought this would help her with her mental health, but turns out she is wanting to do this continuously as a side income, but she blows the money. Her house is around 900 sq ft and her garage and RV is just full of stuff that won't sell.

She is ADHD, but I think there is something else wrong with this girl. She needs some meds, but she is not interested in it. I have heard her call her oldest daughter curse words and then I heard her slap her infant over the phone and that just really sat me back from her. I was going on walks with her back in the spring until she wrecked her car and told me how much she hated my car, but she wanted one like mine not too long ago. She also told me she hated the stroller I was going to buy but has gone on and on how she wants one. Then when I got one, she told me she wanted one. Maybe jealous? You can't be friends with someone who is jealous of you. This was when I really started backing off from her. I hadn't seen her in months until this past week. She invited herself over with coffee one day and I said sure, but she came over here and was incredibly vulgar in front of my kids and then made another body image comment about my one year old daughter. I thought I could give her another chance, but I guess I can't. Her husband also sends or tags me on weird videos on social media. It's kind of vulgar or sexual funnies that I don't understand the point of. It's just kind of weird and uncomfortable. These are just a few issues I have had.

A few years ago after one of her husband's friends assaulted me.... at a church life group. Well, she invited me to her baby's first bday party yesterday. I went because I wanted to give him a nice gift like she did for my babies. I asked if any of the life group people would be there and she said she didn't talk to them. Well... the guy who assaulted me was there. It's ok for him to be there but... I don't know why you would invite someone you talk so bad about behind his back (and his wife) and then lie to me and say he wasn't going to be there after she knew what he did to me and tells me I am her best friend. That is what has put the cherry on top wanting to drive a wedge between us.

I need Christian advice. I don't want to hurt her. I am busy working on my own side gigs that she won't even do for herself. It's a full-time job being a stay at home mom to twin toddlers, cleaning a house, and running a couple of hobby businesses for fun and a little cash. I am thinking about telling her that I am working a job like I have a 40 hour a week job. Any advice is welcome here.

 

[Zceptre]

Sneaky evil spirits use individual's with no moral compass because of a lack of knowing God the Son, who is love.

You shall know them by their fruit. (Matthew 7:16)

Friends act like friends, and I think you are seeing through the facade, but you don't want to abandon "a friend" or accept the reality that is presenting itself about how they are treating you.

You obviously have Christ in your heart, but the enemy uses people who are not connected to God to abuse us. You can show her the love of Christ if you encounter her, but I wouldn't put it on my calendar or even make a habit of spending time with her.

The Lord Jesus is a friend of sinners, but we should notice He didn't sin with them, and He told the Pharisees to their face when they treated Him without honor that they were doing so. (John 8:49)

This doesn't mean you need to "confront" her or anything, but we should not overlook obvious signs that people are not our friends. If they continue to stab you in the back, it would be good to get out of the door before one of the blows actually pierces the heart or destroys anything else in our life.

Continuing to be friends with a ticking time "blank" is waiting for it to go boom in our face. It can be hard to disengage from old "friends" or acquaintances but it absolutely seems necessary in this situation in my opinion.

If it were me, I would put some distance between them and me. Especially if they are causing people to be around you that have assaulted you. That is absolutely not ok, and I want to make it clear that it is isn't. They are not respecting you, nor concerned for your well being, and are certainly not being loving and I would start to move away from the situation without making it obvious. I certainly don't want anyone increasing the probability of you being assaulted AGAIN by someone who already showed their desire to do so.

They need prayer, that is for sure, this person and her husband.

It seems a little complicated, and you have invested in the "friendship" but there isn't much real friendship being shown to you, and I hope you will not accept such disrespect and unloving behavior. You seem very humble, and humility is good, but please don't let anyone walk on you and/or lie to you!

I will pray for you, and this situation.

 

[Joy Allen]

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Sneaky evil spirits use individual's with no moral compass because of a lack of knowing God the Son, who is love.

You shall know them by their fruit. (Matthew 7:16)

Friends act like friends, and I think you are seeing through the facade, but you don't want to abandon "a friend" or accept the reality that is presenting itself about how they are treating you.

You obviously have Christ in your heart, but the enemy uses people who are not connected to God to abuse us. You can show her the love of Christ if you encounter her, but I wouldn't put it on my calendar or even make a habit of spending time with her.

The Lord Jesus is a friend of sinners, but we should notice He didn't sin with them, and He told the Pharisees to their face when they treated Him without honor that they were doing so. (John 8:49)

This doesn't mean you need to "confront" her or anything, but we should not overlook obvious signs that people are not our friends. If they continue to stab you in the back, it would be good to get out of the door before one of the blows actually pierces the heart or destroys anything else in our life.

Continuing to be friends with a ticking time "blank" is waiting for it to go boom in our face. It can be hard to disengage from old "friends" or acquaintances but it absolutely seems necessary in this situation in my opinion.

If it were me, I would put some distance between them and me. Especially if they are causing people to be around you that have assaulted you. That is absolutely not ok, and I want to make it clear that it is isn't. They are not respecting you, nor concerned for your well being, and are certainly not being loving and I would start to move away from the situation without making it obvious. I certainly don't want anyone increasing the probability of you being assaulted AGAIN by someone who already showed their desire to do so.

They need prayer, that is for sure, this person and her husband.

It seems a little complicated, and you have invested in the "friendship" but there isn't much real friendship being shown to you, and I hope you will not accept such disrespect and unloving behavior. You seem very humble, and humility is good, but please don't let anyone walk on you and/or lie to you!

I will pray for you, and this situation

Thank you so much. This was so comforting. Someone understands it. This is just a slice of what I have dealt with. A grown man slapped me when I wasn't looking in a life group and I thought it was a kid that hit me with a toy until I was wearing his large handprint on my leg. I did address this to her. This was about 3 years ago and she apologized. She let everyone walk all over her in that group. I was the only one who showed up with a Bible. My husband was working nights, so he didn't get to come. I just really wanted and needed the community in a life group and I did not get that. I even lost a long-term friend during that. I think she carried messages between the both of us. The other girl was postpartum and acted very different. It was very confusing, but I let her go. I want good friends. I didn't give up on the group, but I prayed for it to be over and she talked about that before that guy hit me. I think she only had the life group to impress her very-Christian parents.

She believes she is a bubbly person and she can be. She can also be very nice and caring, also ready to help, but there is just something there that takes away from the good. She yelled and screamed at that baby when he was an infant. She seems to have an addiction to possessions. I think that might be to make her parents think that she can afford stuff. She doesn't even have a job. She just cleans a few houses a week and blows the cash and then comes to me with the problem. Something is wrong. Like everything she has is the best and gets upset with people who also act like that. It's just really weird. We live over the mountain from you here in TN and she told me her parents helped start this church that is now a mega church in 1995. She has been going there her entire life. She was born at the end of 1994. She was 1 day old the min 1995 happened. She claimed to be from Georgia. How did they start a church in TN if they lived 6+ hours away in GA? I asked when she moved here and she said 2001. So one day she was talking about how she met her best friend (not me this time) and I asked if that was when she first moved here. I thought I'd finally get a normal answer. Turns out she was born here in TN just 15 min away from where she grew up- here in TN. I just knew it and I needed to hear it! She also said she has been swimming with Dolly & Reba. She just so happens to know Morgan Wallen which could be true, but probably not. She also told me she had a miscarriage one morning when I was babysitting for her and then wrote that off as not a miscarriage it was probably a chemical pregnancy. That was when I was struggling with infertility and embarking on an adventure seeing a doctor. She just so happened to have a still birth too. One day she was openly talking at CFA while having breakfast about how she had been r*p*d. I remember every muscle in my face just falling and not believing a single word. Who just sits there eating chicken and talking about that? She even told me my nephew who was in 4th grade acted gay. A 10 year old!

I've even had some chest pains just thinking of her. She has annoyed the life out of me and I have just tried and tried to get away from her. Her little helpful-friend-bubbly-nice-act always comes back. I know she has had some friendship struggles and mentioned she has had a lot of friendships fall through. I want no confrontation or hurt feelings at all. I'd like to eventually block her down every road I can and just get away from her because I know that if I kept it polite and had one coffee with her once a year, she'd find her way back in somehow.

 

[Michie]

I have gotten close to a girl I met 4 years ago. She lies a lot. I'd hate to hurt her and just ghost her because that is not who I am. I mean, this girl has lied to me so much. Nothing adds up. She drives me nuts constantly talking about money. Her money and how they are struggling and cutting back, but she is constantly spending. Then she comes to me boohooing how she doesn't have any money. She thinks that she is saving money by buying used stuff, but she is still losing money because she is spending on things she doesn't need. Her house is full of stuff, mostly clothes and she can't let go of any of. She has to get her money back on all of it before it can leave. I helped her price some of the over 400 items she had to put in for a consignment. I thought this would help her with her mental health, but turns out she is wanting to do this continuously as a side income, but she blows the money. Her house is around 900 sq ft and her garage and RV is just full of stuff that won't sell.

She is ADHD, but I think there is something else wrong with this girl. She needs some meds, but she is not interested in it. I have heard her call her oldest daughter curse words and then I heard her slap her infant over the phone and that just really sat me back from her. I was going on walks with her back in the spring until she wrecked her car and told me how much she hated my car, but she wanted one like mine not too long ago. She also told me she hated the stroller I was going to buy but has gone on and on how she wants one. Then when I got one, she told me she wanted one. Maybe jealous? You can't be friends with someone who is jealous of you. This was when I really started backing off from her. I hadn't seen her in months until this past week. She invited herself over with coffee one day and I said sure, but she came over here and was incredibly vulgar in front of my kids and then made another body image comment about my one year old daughter. I thought I could give her another chance, but I guess I can't. Her husband also sends or tags me on weird videos on social media. It's kind of vulgar or sexual funnies that I don't understand the point of. It's just kind of weird and uncomfortable. These are just a few issues I have had.

A few years ago after one of her husband's friends assaulted me.... at a church life group. Well, she invited me to her baby's first bday party yesterday. I went because I wanted to give him a nice gift like she did for my babies. I asked if any of the life group people would be there and she said she didn't talk to them. Well... the guy who assaulted me was there. It's ok for him to be there but... I don't know why you would invite someone you talk so bad about behind his back (and his wife) and then lie to me and say he wasn't going to be there after she knew what he did to me and tells me I am her best friend. That is what has put the cherry on top wanting to drive a wedge between us.

I need Christian advice. I don't want to hurt her. I am busy working on my own side gigs that she won't even do for herself. It's a full-time job being a stay at home mom to twin toddlers, cleaning a house, and running a couple of hobby businesses for fun and a little cash. I am thinking about telling her that I am working a job like I have a 40 hour a week job. Any advice is welcome here.

Don’t lie to her but it seems necessary to ask her things about items you bought she claimed she hated and then wants one. Ask her why that person was at the party when she said he would not be there. Tell her husband to stop sending you inappropriate content. Start saying no to the things she is asking you to do. It’s obvious she thinks she can run roughshod over you because you do not say anything or ask why. If someone see’s they can keep getting away with their bad behavior with certain people, those are the people they glom on to. I understand not wanting to hurt feelings but being honest and asking questions will surely solve your problems. She will start separating once you start demanding some accountability in the friendship.

 

[Joy Allen]

Don’t lie to her but it seems necessary to ask her things about items you bought she claimed she hated and then wants one. Ask her why that person was at the party when she said he would not be there. Tell her husband to stop sending you inappropriate content. Start saying no to the things she is asking you to do. It’s obvious she thinks she can run roughshod over you because you do not say anything or ask why. If someone see’s they can keep getting away with their bad behavior with certain people, those are the people they glom on to. I understand not wanting to hurt feelings but being honest and asking questions will surely solve your problems. She will start separating once you start demanding some accountability in the friendship.

Thank you, Michie. I love it when you show up. I am always looking for your turtle pic. I did call her out on something she did lie about. I feel like I'm in a tumbleweed of this person's mess. It's just like here we go again over and over again.

 

[Michie]

Thank you, Michie. I love it when you show up. I am always looking for your turtle pic. I did call her out on something she did lie about. I feel like I'm in a tumbleweed of this person's mess. It's just like here we go again over and over again.

Aw… that’s sweet. Thank you. Yeah you do not have to have a confrontation so much as just asking questions. For instance, when the man was at the party, you could have just said- (You told me he was not going to be here) etc. The stroller you got she claimed she hated and now wants one, ( I thought you did not like the stroller)… seems you have a lot of material to work with. I think she will start distancing for you when you question her instead of remaining silent. Praying for you and this unneeded stress is soon removed from your life with no hard feelings on either side.

 

[Zceptre]

She also said she has been swimming with Dolly & Reba. She just so happens to know Morgan Wallen which could be true, but probably not. She also told me she had a miscarriage one morning when I was babysitting for her and then wrote that off as not a miscarriage it was probably a chemical pregnancy. That was when I was struggling with infertility and embarking on an adventure seeing a doctor. She just so happened to have a still birth too. One day she was openly talking at CFA while having breakfast about how she had been r*p*d. I remember every muscle in my face just falling and not believing a single word. Who just sits there eating chicken and talking about that? She even told me my nephew who was in 4th grade acted gay. A 10 year old!

I've even had some chest pains just thinking of her. She has annoyed the life out of me and I have just tried and tried to get away from her. Her little helpful-friend-bubbly-nice-act always comes back. I know she has had some friendship struggles and mentioned she has had a lot of friendships fall through. I want no confrontation or hurt feelings at all. I'd like to eventually block her down every road I can and just get away from her because I know that if I kept it polite and had one coffee with her once a year, she'd find her way back in somehow.

This sounds even deeper than I initially suspected, and I also think you are like me in that you simply hate giving up on people and want to "love" them and give them a chance to change. Believe me, I know the feeling, and it is a hard gig to pull off. The Lord Jesus did this with Judas, and I think we are supposed to love people, but I think there absolutely is a cut off limit in some situations or we end up wasting our time on someone who simply doesn't have any desire to do good or change for the better when we could be helping those who do have a desire to learn and grow. God showed me that people always have the option to call on the Lord Jesus and He is calling them daily. He is there for them.

The grand ol' stories and tall tales there indicate to me she likely has not matured into a full conscious adult state in some way. Being this obvious with ones deceptions typically exposes a lack of understanding or no heart to understand. This is the behavior of an opportunist who seeks to make a gain in any social situation or interaction, and whatever story fits the bill, well that's the story that happens to have conveniently happened.

This has a strong sentiment of desperation for attention, and adoration, and especially approval. But the method of getting these things has always been shady and ill-gotten until now as that is how a person who does such things learns that "it works" for the moment and continues in the patterned habit. While it is easy to judge such a person (or attempt to discern) as evil (purely based off behavior) there could be a great deal of factors that caused many of these habits she indulges in that aren't due to her willful choices, but it doesn't not suffice as an excuse to allow it in any social engagement at all.

I was taught by God many years ago that people do not have head issues, they have heart issues. He was not telling me that people do not have mental struggles or troubles or that no one has disorders of different kinds. What he was saying is that mistreatment and unloving behavior is purely sourced from a self-centered heart, and it is often the cause of many mental disorders. Sometimes disorders are caused by hurt and betrayal and pain in life, and this causes heart issues, similar to a dog after being hit by a car in the road... but even that is a heart issue, just not self inflicted, so the principle still holds fast. Dogs bite after being hit because they are in pain and hurting and they trust no one they see, and trust issues are a heart issue. People encounter this phenomenon quite frequently and sometimes it can be a years long stint.

All this said, I think there is a mix of these things going on here. Children often do unloving things because they don't understand the implications of their actions, and if a person doesn't grow up (and doesn't because they don't want to) then they will continue in such unloving behaviors. Focus on self is what put Satan in the situation he is in, and Satan has many slaves, but I assure you he has no friends. Feeling sorry for someone and allowing them to play games in our own life certainly isn't going to help the situation, as this type of mindset lacking maturity only sees people as potential personal gain and they will never take anyone seriously unless they fear them. Love doesn't move anyone with a heart issue.

The indecent suggestion of the 10 year old is a prime example of this. It is mindlessness. The concept (to an immature thought process) likely sounded funny to her, and so it seemed like a good idea to get more attention, as attention is one of the main goals. These things, attention, love, adoration, are all rare in the fallen world and people who live at the center of their own universe will do anything and say anything to get them.

Only good people who know God give love, but evil people and good people both want love. Evil people still desire love even if they are unwilling to give an ounce of it to anyone else. The love they do give, is often a semblance of love, and it carries zero substance, but is rather just to keep another person on the hook and keep them around for gain.

The last part you stated made much of what I just said abundantly clear, in that I know the kind of person you are by hearing about the situation between the both of you (as best as can be inferred through such limited information). You are a leaning post to lean on, and she seems to have cut you (the leaning post) up and made a chair out of you to sit on, and she needs you around to use such a thing.

This may sound a harsh conclusion, but I wrote it because what is even more harsh is that she is doing this to you in real life. I've been there, and many times. It sounds like a template from some of my past experiences. But this situation is kind of like having an unruly child, and being around to enable her isn't going to help no matter how long you "love" her, as it doesn't affect her positively, but rather encourages the behavior she is engaging in. In other words, it will (and probably has until now) get worse.

You are right, if you so much as wave at her in the car passing her on the highway, she will turn around and follow you home, because she seen potential to gain something from a kind soul, which you quite obviously are. It's an opportunity, after all, and she is burning bridges daily.

I would not suggest ever stopping the prayers for her, as I know you hurt for her, and want to see her get better. I'm sure you love this person and rightly so, as that is what we are called to do... but I definitely stand by my previous conclusion, and more so than I did initially. I'd do my best to make it very, very inconvenient to get in touch with me and would avoid allowing her foot to be shoved back in the door. I wouldn't be unkind, but I certainly would become very unavailable.

The evil spirits thing I mentioned in the first post is more real than people know, and they do not like God's children. They flat out hate us. They use flesh and blood people who are willing to be unloving and self centered to berate and abuse and manipulate. It seems to me fowl play is afoot and I would steer clear. People who do evil things are subject to spiritual influence by dark entities, and they like having easy ways into our lives.

Take the time you gain from not having such things in your life, and invest it into people that display a desire to know God, learn about God, grow and do good, and make friends that treat you like a friend.

Proverbs 21:9
Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

If it is true for a wife, it must be true for a friend too.

I pray God give you great guidance in this, I know it has been hard on you.

 

[Joy Allen]

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This sounds even deeper than I initially suspected, and I also think you are like me in that you simply hate giving up on people and want to "love" them and give them a chance to change. Believe me, I know the feeling, and it is a hard gig to pull off. The Lord Jesus did this with Judas, and I think we are supposed to love people, but I think there absolutely is a cut off limit in some situations or we end up wasting our time on someone who simply doesn't have any desire to do good or change for the better when we could be helping those who do have a desire to learn and grow. God showed me that people always have the option to call on the Lord Jesus and He is calling them daily. He is there for them.

The grand ol' stories and tall tales there indicate to me she likely has not matured into a full conscious adult state in some way. Being this obvious with ones deceptions typically exposes a lack of understanding or no heart to understand. This is the behavior of an opportunist who seeks to make a gain in any social situation or interaction, and whatever story fits the bill, well that's the story that happens to have conveniently happened.

This has a strong sentiment of desperation for attention, and adoration, and especially approval. But the method of getting these things has always been shady and ill-gotten until now as that is how a person who does such things learns that "it works" for the moment and continues in the patterned habit. While it is easy to judge such a person (or attempt to discern) as evil (purely based off behavior) there could be a great deal of factors that caused many of these habits she indulges in that aren't due to her willful choices, but it doesn't not suffice as an excuse to allow it in any social engagement at all.

I was taught by God many years ago that people do not have head issues, they have heart issues. He was not telling me that people do not have mental struggles or troubles or that no one has disorders of different kinds. What he was saying is that mistreatment and unloving behavior is purely sourced from a self-centered heart, and it is often the cause of many mental disorders. Sometimes disorders are caused by hurt and betrayal and pain in life, and this causes heart issues, similar to a dog after being hit by a car in the road... but even that is a heart issue, just not self inflicted, so the principle still holds fast. Dogs bite after being hit because they are in pain and hurting and they trust no one they see, and trust issues are a heart issue. People encounter this phenomenon quite frequently and sometimes it can be a years long stint.

All this said, I think there is a mix of these things going on here. Children often do unloving things because they don't understand the implications of their actions, and if a person doesn't grow up (and doesn't because they don't want to) then they will continue in such unloving behaviors. Focus on self is what put Satan in the situation he is in, and Satan has many slaves, but I assure you he has no friends. Feeling sorry for someone and allowing them to play games in our own life certainly isn't going to help the situation, as this type of mindset lacking maturity only sees people as potential personal gain and they will never take anyone seriously unless they fear them. Love doesn't move anyone with a heart issue.

The indecent suggestion of the 10 year old is a prime example of this. It is mindlessness. The concept (to an immature thought process) likely sounded funny to her, and so it seemed like a good idea to get more attention, as attention is one of the main goals. These things, attention, love, adoration, are all rare in the fallen world and people who live at the center of their own universe will do anything and say anything to get them.

Only good people who know God give love, but evil people or good people both want love. Evil people still desire love even if they are unwilling to give an ounce of it to anyone else. The love they do give, is often a semblance of love, and it carries zero substance, but is rather just to keep another person on the hook and keep them around for gain.

The last part you stated made much of what I just said abundantly clear, in that I know the kind of person you are by hearing about the situation between the both of you (as best as can be inferred through such limited information.) You are a leaning post to lean on, and she seems to have cut you (the leaning post) up and made a chair out of you to sit on, and she needs you around to use such a thing.

This may sound a harsh conclusion, but I wrote it because what is even more harsh is that she is doing this to you in real life. I've been there, and many times. It sounds like a template from some of my past experiences. But this situation is kind of like having an unruly child, and being around to enable her isn't going to help no matter how long you "love" her, as it doesn't affect her positively, but rather encourages the behavior she is engaging in. In other words, it will (and probably has until now) get worse.

You are right, if you so much as wave at her in the car passing her on the highway, she will turn around and follow you home, because she seen potential to gain something from a kind soul, which you quite obviously are. It's an opportunity, after all, and she is burning bridges daily.

I would not suggest ever stopping the prayers for her, as I know you hurt for her, and want to see her get better. I'm sure you love this person and rightly so, as that is what we are called to do... but I definitely stand by my previous conclusion, and more so than I did initially. I'd do my best to make it very, very inconvenient to get in touch with me and would avoid allowing her foot to be shoved back in the door. I wouldn't be unkind, but I certainly would become very unavailable.

The evil spirits thing I mentioned in the first post is more real than people know, and they do not like God's children. They flat out hate us. They use flesh and blood people who are willing to be unloving and self centered to berate and abuse and manipulate. It seems to me fowl play is afoot and I would steer clear. People who do evil things are subject to spiritual influence by dark entities, and they like having easy ways into our lives.

Take the time you gain from not having such things in your life, and invest it into people that display a desire to know God, learn about God, grow and do good, and make friends that treat you like a friend.

Proverbs 21:9
Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

If it is true for a wife, it must be true for a friend too.

I pray God give you great guidance in this, I know it has been hard on you.

Thanks again. I giggled a time or two because.... you are right!! You really have been there. Sorry you have been there, actually.

I have felt this girl needed a lot of attention. We were talking to another mom at a park one day and I couldn't even be part of the conversation. She talked as loud as possible over me. She definitely wants to be the superior one. It does hurt to cut her off. Something I never wanted to do or thought I would have to do. Can't say I haven't thought about blocking her and disappearing. Let's continue to pray over her and this situation.

 

[Joy Allen]

Aw… that’s sweet. Thank you. Yeah you do not have to have a confrontation so much as just asking questions. For instance, when the man was at the party, you could have just said- (You told me he was not going to be here) etc. The stroller you got she claimed she hated and now wants one, ( I thought you did not like the stroller)… seems you have a lot of material to work with. I think she will start distancing for you when you question her instead of remaining silent. Praying for you and this unneeded stress is soon removed from your life with no hard feelings on either side.

Michie, what's even crazier is that the stroller comment was while we were on a walk with a really nice stroller I have (not made for the terrain we were on, but doable) and she makes comments like what I have is junk because she has this top of the line used stroller from pottery barn lol. OK. She has a handful of strollers at her house for no reason and needs to make a rude comment? Mine was a very nice gift from my husband's workplace and I gotta tell you it was a blessing. I remember him putting it together when I was sitting in my hospital bed in my living room. It was probably the priciest, nicest, and most thoughtful gift I was given. I needed it desperately. I lost my job in the whole mess and even my dad passed away during it. That stroller helped me so much. It was used like a walker, it helped me carry my babies when I couldn't even walk with them. I fell when I was pregnant and broke both of my ankles. That is one reason why her stroller seemed to be doing better. She has good ankles and one baby all the while I was pushing two and had just been release from the bone doctor, trying to do what I loved- walking that trail! I made it on uneven terrain with a front heavy stroller and HER. It's not that I am offended because of her opinion of the stroller, just the audacity a 31 year old woman acts like a 16 year old.

 

[Michie]

Michie, what's even crazier is that the stroller comment was while we were on a walk with a really nice stroller I have (not made for the terrain we were on, but doable) and she makes comments like what I have is junk because she has this top of the line used stroller from pottery barn lol. OK. She has a handful of strollers at her house for no reason and needs to make a rude comment? Mine was a very nice gift from my husband's workplace and I gotta tell you it was a blessing. I remember him putting it together when I was sitting in my hospital bed in my living room. It was probably the priciest, nicest, and most thoughtful gift I was given. I needed it desperately. I lost my job in the whole mess and even my dad passed away during it. That stroller helped me so much. It was used like a walker, it helped me carry my babies when I couldn't even walk with them. I fell when I was pregnant and broke both of my ankles. That is one reason why her stroller seemed to be doing better. She has good ankles and one baby all the while I was pushing two and had just been release from the bone doctor, trying to do what I loved- walking that trail! I made it on uneven terrain with a front heavy stroller and HER. It's not that I am offended because of her opinion of the stroller, just the audacity a 31 year old woman acts like a 16 year old.

I think it’s best you two separate and wish one another well. Things like that can really eat a person up. And if the relationship is not edifying and a two way street as far as consideration, you are in a horribly dysfunctional situation and need to move on to more healthy relationships. Just pray for her but I think it’s time to move on.