Advice from other Singles

[Uphill Battle]

Hi All. I am needing some advice from some Godly men and women, maybe some who have been in the same boat as me, or even not. I am just at a loss as what to do, and need some wisdom!

Here's the situation. I've begun dating this wondeful young woman at my church. We've been on a few dates, and have others planned, and we have a good time together when we are out. I am quickly becoming quite "crazy" about her. The fly in the ointment is this. She is going to be going away for at least four months, out of country. I have no problem with that in itself, as I think it's God inspired, and I support it wholeheartedly. I am just wondering this. Do I let her know my feelings before she goes? I feel like telling her that I want a relationship with her (moving beyond the dating to the courting!) but I don't know if I should complicate her life right before she takes off. I haven't been given a yes or no from God on the matter, but then, I've always had difficulty with in depth issues like this.

do any have any advice?

P.S. I previously posted this in the men's forum, but I thought it might be wise to get a female perspective on this.

 

[JPPT1974]

Hi All. I am needing some advice from some Godly men and women, maybe some who have been in the same boat as me, or even not. I am just at a loss as what to do, and need some wisdom!

Here's the situation. I've begun dating this wondeful young woman at my church. We've been on a few dates, and have others planned, and we have a good time together when we are out. I am quickly becoming quite "crazy" about her. The fly in the ointment is this. She is going to be going away for at least four months, out of country. I have no problem with that in itself, as I think it's God inspired, and I support it wholeheartedly. I am just wondering this. Do I let her know my feelings before she goes? I feel like telling her that I want a relationship with her (moving beyond the dating to the courting!) but I don't know if I should complicate her life right before she takes off. I haven't been given a yes or no from God on the matter, but then, I've always had difficulty with in depth issues like this.

do any have any advice?

P.S. I previously posted this in the men's forum, but I thought it might be wise to get a female perspective on this.

Well just keep in touch with each other over the internet as well as also pray for each other and pray that the Lord will lead you both on the right path to the right way the relationship but most importantly the friendship will go. God bless and good luck to you both!!

 

[fishstix]

You might suggest it as something for the two of you to think about and pray about and consider over the next four months and then decide on sometime after she gets back.

 

[Tenorvoice]

I think that Fishstix hit it on the head with this one. Could not have said it better myself.

I am kind of in the same boat myself tho' except that the young lady that I am now seeing (I am 28 and she is 20), is just about to start nursing school. She and I have been close freinds for over 1 1/2 years now. We grow closer each and every day that we learn more about eachother.

We both sat down and talked things over before we started courting here recently. I told her flat out that if we were to start to get serious or even thing about getting serious that I was not going to stand in the way of her education, or her family. I am very adament about these things. I asked her that I would never want to be #1 in her life, just like that she will never be # 1 in my life. God comes first and formost. I wanted to be somewere around # 3-4 on her list of priorities untill she finishes school.

I think that if you just sit down and talk with her, both of you pray together, and talk things over between yourselfs and God. That He will lead your paths, and show you what to do.

God Bless
Phileo In Christ Jesus
Tenor