advice for not having control over 3 yr old

[AMK]

We have become freinds with a young christian couple who have 7 year and a 3 year old boys. The father does not get authorities involved even though the mother is at her wits end and we suspect close to a nervouse breakdown. the 3 year old screams all the time when he does not get his way. sounds familier to us, we had problems with our son. I asked here for advice and contacted state help. that helped.but many people cope differently with this situation.
Q what can she do to get help with this situation?

 

[Bluelion]

spank him. Not to hurt him, just to tell him no. have her take him across her knee which will show she is in control. She should not do it when she is mad though and never to hurt the child, just as a show of authority.

Another thing you can do if that seem extreme is lock him in his room every time her screams, put a chair in the conor and make him sit there 10 mins silently. If he gets up put him back and restart the timer every single time he gets up or makes a sound. If it takes 12 hours they have to do it.

For the parents they need to come together and stand together be one single unit no undermining.

I would never say get authorities involved. There punishment is harsh.

praying for them.

 

[turned around]

Hi AMK,
These are difficult questions that face the church today. So many believers have been raised under the old covenant, or they have been saved in fellowships that teach old covenant child training. They have little or no understanding of grace, and none about grace in child rearing. Hebrews 8:11 talks about now no one any longer teaches there neighbor. In this New Covenant God himself will personally teach families about child rearing, with the Word as the guide.

The New Covenant is so personal, where the Law was a inflexible standard. The New Covenant is not about one size fitting all. Each child is different and the Holy Spirit only knows when a child should be disciplined. When people understand the Spirits prompting then they can incorporate what discipline would be warrantied. The key is grace teaches(Titus 2:12)

 

[razzelflabben]

spank him. Not to hurt him, just to tell him no. have her take him across her knee which will show she is in control. She should not do it when she is mad though and never to hurt the child, just as a show of authority.

Another thing you can do if that seem extreme is lock him in his room every time her screams, put a chair in the conor and make him sit there 10 mins silently. If he gets up put him back and restart the timer every single time he gets up or makes a sound. If it takes 12 hours they have to do it.

lol...when our eldest was young (boy was he a handful) we told him about Jonah and the whale and how God had to "control" his behavior for a season. To help our son grasp that everyone needs corrected sometimes, we provided a closet as a time out...never locked the door btw, just would send him to a decent sized closet and call it the belly of the whale. It worked pretty good until we were told that this was child abuse. I'm really not sure locking the child in a room in this day and age is a good idea, in fact, in this day and age, spanking a child can get you reported to children's services. Just saying...

For the parents they need to come together and stand together be one single unit no undermining.

I would never say get authorities involved. There punishment is harsh.

praying for them.

now to my advice...I was stressed beyond belief for awhile when my kids were young (long story) one of the main things I needed, was time away from my kids, and they needed time away from me. I was a 24/7 mom and my husband worked long hours, no one there to help. In fact, with each pregnancy I was confined to bed, but couldn't because I had young kids to raise and no one to help out. It is possible the mom just needs a break. Offer to watch the kids for a couple hours every week, give her a rest, even if she wants to just soak in a tub or take a nap.

Our eldest was also hyperactive, everytime we tried to punish him, someone would complain about it being wrong (see example above). We were told we were too hard on him and we were told we were too lenient on him, we couldn't win...scripture warns about being a busy body, so instead of getting authorities involved, take the initiative, praise them when they correct the child even if the child response negatively to the punishment. Teach them how to punish as an elder mother/father would teach the younger (think here as if they were your children trying to learn how to be parents). Pray for them to have wisdom. Study parenting in scripture as to a sunday school class or after church class, might have a lot of parents that need the class but don't have time to study on their own. Above all encourage them, love them, build them up in the faith so that their faith is revealed in their parenting and eventually in the lives of their children. Oh, and don't expect miracles, trust me when I say, that sometimes, kids don't learn the lessons their parents teach them until very much later in life, but the evidence will be there eventually, as long a correction is indeed offered.

 

[Bluelion]

lol...when our eldest was young (boy was he a handful) we told him about Jonah and the whale and how God had to "control" his behavior for a season. To help our son grasp that everyone needs corrected sometimes, we provided a closet as a time out...never locked the door btw, just would send him to a decent sized closet and call it the belly of the whale. It worked pretty good until we were told that this was child abuse. I'm really not sure locking the child in a room in this day and age is a good idea, in fact, in this day and age, spanking a child can get you reported to children's services. Just saying...
now to my advice...I was stressed beyond belief for awhile when my kids were young (long story) one of the main things I needed, was time away from my kids, and they needed time away from me. I was a 24/7 mom and my husband worked long hours, no one there to help. In fact, with each pregnancy I was confined to bed, but couldn't because I had young kids to raise and no one to help out. It is possible the mom just needs a break. Offer to watch the kids for a couple hours every week, give her a rest, even if she wants to just soak in a tub or take a nap.

Our eldest was also hyperactive, everytime we tried to punish him, someone would complain about it being wrong (see example above). We were told we were too hard on him and we were told we were too lenient on him, we couldn't win...scripture warns about being a busy body, so instead of getting authorities involved, take the initiative, praise them when they correct the child even if the child response negatively to the punishment. Teach them how to punish as an elder mother/father would teach the younger (think here as if they were your children trying to learn how to be parents). Pray for them to have wisdom. Study parenting in scripture as to a sunday school class or after church class, might have a lot of parents that need the class but don't have time to study on their own. Above all encourage them, love them, build them up in the faith so that their faith is revealed in their parenting and eventually in the lives of their children. Oh, and don't expect miracles, trust me when I say, that sometimes, kids don't learn the lessons their parents teach them until very much later in life, but the evidence will be there eventually, as long a correction is indeed offered.

When i said lock him in his room was a poor choice of words. I meant send him to his room. The kind of spanking I am talking about is not hurting the child. As far as remember from school they can spank just not leave a mark. I have a degree in Human Services. What I was talking about is a show of strength, more than punishment.

We put are kids on the chair to look at the wall. That seems to be enough, but if they ever hit one of us a spanking would be used.

Personally i think the government should not tell me how to be a parent, part of what is wrong with this country.

 

[razzelflabben]

When i said lock him in his room was a poor choice of words. I meant send him to his room. The kind of spanking I am talking about is not hurting the child. As far as remember from school they can spank just not leave a mark. I have a degree in Human Services. What I was talking about is a show of strength, more than punishment.

lol I don't disagree with you, I just know what our society has come to...seen it, been on the receiving end of it...know lots of people who have had children's services called on them out of vengeance and now they are "in the system". In fact, we ourselves were called on once because we had a liter trained rabbit in the house as a pet for our kids and someone was offended by that. Just because I agree with time outs or spanks, doesn't mean that society will accept it without putting up a fight. Well, just some experiences in life, for what it's worth.

We put are kids on the chair to look at the wall. That seems to be enough, but if they ever hit one of us a spanking would be used.

lol...we tried that with our kids, not a single one responded to a time out....usually spanks weren't sufficient, in fact, our eldest took the approach that if he wanted to do it, or wanted it, no punishment was bad enough and no reward good enough......that is why I said not to expect miracles just because the child is being punished. For some strong willed kids, it take a lot of time (that is years) of consistent correction before it finally sinks in.

Personally i think the government should not tell me how to be a parent, part of what is wrong with this country.

amen

 

[Bluelion]

lol I don't disagree with you, I just know what our society has come to...seen it, been on the receiving end of it...know lots of people who have had children's services called on them out of vengeance and now they are "in the system". In fact, we ourselves were called on once because we had a liter trained rabbit in the house as a pet for our kids and someone was offended by that. Just because I agree with time outs or spanks, doesn't mean that society will accept it without putting up a fight. Well, just some experiences in life, for what it's worth. lol...we tried that with our kids, not a single one responded to a time out....usually spanks weren't sufficient, in fact, our eldest took the approach that if he wanted to do it, or wanted it, no punishment was bad enough and no reward good enough......that is why I said not to expect miracles just because the child is being punished. For some strong willed kids, it take a lot of time (that is years) of consistent correction before it finally sinks in.amen

Yeah i see how people can be vengeful. My oldest is easy, take his video games away He will be 18 next year and is going into the Navy. I think that will straighten him up fast

My youngest time out is enough, he cries when we tell him no says we hurt his feelings He doesn't like the word No so he thinks we are being mean and hurting his feelings he is 5

Next action i would say is the take away game, take his toys what ever he really like take it away. We use that some times too, and that is like thee worse punishment he could ever have to take his cars away or no Land before time cartoons. Kids what they see as punishment

 

[razzelflabben]

Yeah i see how people can be vengeful. My oldest is easy, take his video games away He will be 18 next year and is going into the Navy. I think that will straighten him up fast

lol our eldest, the most stubborn of the bunch went to the Navy, to help him to settle down...lol...will be praying for your son, the military does change them, that is for sure.

My youngest time out is enough, he cries when we tell him no says we hurt his feelings He doesn't like the word No so he thinks we are being mean and hurting his feelings he is 5

never had one like that, have known kids like that, but all ours are strong willed.

Next action i would say is the take away game, take his toys what ever he really like take it away. We use that some times too, and that is like thee worse punishment he could ever have to take his cars away or no Land before time cartoons. Kids what they see as punishment

a couple of years ago, we put two of our kids in computer school...now, to understand this story, there were extenuating circumstances, none the less...our third didn't want to do his homework...we tried everything, I mean literally everything. In fact, we took away his Christmas presents trying to "force" him to turn in his work. He ended up getting his Christmas present (something he wanted) when he passed that year by the skin of his teeth...like I said, I have some very strong willed children...the sad thing was, the teacher kept telling us how to discipline him (things we had already tried) and they acted all superior and holier than though about it, which only made it worse because I got ticked off on top of being mad at him and in the depths of grief (like I said, there were extenuating circumstances, that was the year our second died and survival was the name of the game for all of us)

 

[Bluelion]

lol our eldest, the most stubborn of the bunch went to the Navy, to help him to settle down...lol...will be praying for your son, the military does change them, that is for sure. never had one like that, have known kids like that, but all ours are strong willed.a couple of years ago, we put two of our kids in computer school...now, to understand this story, there were extenuating circumstances, none the less...our third didn't want to do his homework...we tried everything, I mean literally everything. In fact, we took away his Christmas presents trying to "force" him to turn in his work. He ended up getting his Christmas present (something he wanted) when he passed that year by the skin of his teeth...like I said, I have some very strong willed children...the sad thing was, the teacher kept telling us how to discipline him (things we had already tried) and they acted all superior and holier than though about it, which only made it worse because I got ticked off on top of being mad at him and in the depths of grief (like I said, there were extenuating circumstances, that was the year our second died and survival was the name of the game for all of us)

I am sorry to here about your second. That is really tough for everyone.

There is no one formula that works for ever kid, Its like tailored suit what fit for you might not fit for some one else, and what works with one kid might not work for the other kid.

Thank you for your prayers. My oldest is also an Atheist could you throw some prayers in to cover that. His dad is an atheist, and he looks up to him. I am the step dad, but i call him my own.

 

[razzelflabben]

I am sorry to here about your second. That is really tough for everyone.

There is no one formula that works for ever kid, Its like tailored suit what fit for you might not fit for some one else, and what works with one kid might not work for the other kid.

Thank you for your prayers. My oldest is also an Atheist could you throw some prayers in to cover that. His dad is an atheist, and he looks up to him. I am the step dad, but i call him my own.

happy to...and thanks for loving him like your own

 

[Bluelion]

happy to...and thanks for loving him like your own

well I don't know what to say, why thank me? What else could i do?

God Bless you

I'll be praying for you to, So nice to meet some one so close to Gods heart.

 

[razzelflabben]

well I don't know what to say, why thank me? What else could i do?

God Bless you

I'll be praying for you to, So nice to meet some one so close to Gods heart.

a few years ago, God laid an essay on my heart. I fought it for about a year before I finally gave into it and wrote the essay. When my husband got home, I read it to him, his response was, "where is the rest of it"...lol...that has turned into a full time job of studying, teaching, and living out biblical love. I always appreciate seeing it lived out in the lives of God's people, makes my heart rejoice and my spirit soar. That is why I thanked you, because you gave a wonderful gift to your son, to your wife, to your God, to the body, and to me, nothing on this earth is finer than a gift from God through His people.

 

[Bluelion]

a few years ago, God laid an essay on my heart. I fought it for about a year before I finally gave into it and wrote the essay. When my husband got home, I read it to him, his response was, "where is the rest of it"...lol...that has turned into a full time job of studying, teaching, and living out biblical love. I always appreciate seeing it lived out in the lives of God's people, makes my heart rejoice and my spirit soar. That is why I thanked you, because you gave a wonderful gift to your son, to your wife, to your God, to the body, and to me, nothing on this earth is finer than a gift from God through His people.

Wow thank you so much, brought tears to my eyes. I never thought I could be a gift and certainly not from the Lord. I mean I Love the Lord with all my heart. But I rough around the edges to say the least. I always thought God has better people to use. He called me to preach, and I thought me God. I mean it is what I have always dream of. I changed school, and I am getting degree in it, most the time I say Lord i am so far from your glory. Most people want to hurt me, I just rub them that way. I finally say ok, but I don't see how, I answer your call.

So thank you so much what wonderful Gift you have given me of encourage meant. All I can say Is God Bless you.

One day in Heaven i will have to say thank you in person

 

[razzelflabben]

Wow thank you so much, brought tears to my eyes. I never thought I could be a gift and certainly not from the Lord. I mean I Love the Lord with all my heart. But I rough around the edges to say the least. I always thought God has better people to use. He called me to preach, and I thought me God. I mean it is what I have always dream of. I changed school, and I am getting degree in it, most the time I say Lord i am so far from your glory. Most people want to hurt me, I just rub them that way. I finally say ok, but I don't see how, I answer your call.

So thank you so much what wonderful Gift you have given me of encourage meant. All I can say Is God Bless you.

One day in Heaven i will have to say thank you in person

I Cor. 1:27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.


If He can use someone like me, the least of all, He can use you mightily...looking forward to meeting you as well.

 

[Bluelion]

I Cor. 1:27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.


If He can use someone like me, the least of all, He can use you mightily...looking forward to meeting you as well.

I think you are far from the least of us. I pray God can use me, God always takes the most unlikely of us all and uses them for unlikely things. Just 8 years ago I was homeless my wealthy family abandon me. I was not even allowed for Thanksgiving dinner when i came to get a free meal because I was hungry and had been living in my car. Then God took me lifted me up, I got my own place met my wife moved 800 miles, she had just lost her home, we lived in a hotel for 6 moths, then got a place and her sister and her kids moved in with us because they were homeless, then they got there place we got another and my mother in law moved in with us she had been thrown out by her boyfriend and was homeless. She just moved in to the apartment below us a few weeks ago. God took me from being homeless my self to giving a home for many people. You would not expect a homeless man to be put in charge of taking care of everyone else, But God always takes care of us.
When we need something money just comes in.

Are God is a Great Father

 

[razzelflabben]

I think you are far from the least of us. I pray God can use me, God always takes the most unlikely of us all and uses them for unlikely things. Just 8 years ago I was homeless my wealthy family abandon me. I was not even allowed for Thanksgiving dinner when i came to get a free meal because I was hungry and had been living in my car. Then God took me lifted me up, I got my own place met my wife moved 800 miles, she had just lost her home, we lived in a hotel for 6 moths, then got a place and her sister and her kids moved in with us because they were homeless, then they got there place we got another and my mother in law moved in with us she had been thrown out by her boyfriend and was homeless. She just moved in to the apartment below us a few weeks ago. God took me from being homeless my self to giving a home for many people. You would not expect a homeless man to be put in charge of taking care of everyone else, But God always takes care of us.
When we need something money just comes in.

Are God is a Great Father

man do I love stories like this about how God does what the world doesn't expect! Go God! I call myself the least, because, as a child, I didn't even warrant my parents love. My father was abusive, my mother was verbally abusive because by her admission many years later, she was jealous. I was plagued with demonic visitations for years and years (long story). Molested as a teen by my brother. Isolated from my peers in school. My husbands porn addiction almost tore our marriage apart. We have been homeless several times over. Beaten up by the church, in one such situation, our two eldest were physically assaulted to the point of near ER visit because of our stand for Christ. The list goes on, and is more boring than it is really worth putting here. Yet, God has ever been faithful. A faithfulness that seem so hard for many to grasp. One such time centered around an incident when I was in high school.

I came to Christ at about 6 years old. My life was so our of control that I knew I would not survive without something greater, that led me to Christ. I came to Christ because of my desire to survive. Nothing in my life changed though, or at least so I thought. Then, one day in high school, I was at home sewing. My sister came in and laid on my back, I asked her to move, she refused...I told her to move, she refused...I took hold of her arms and set her off me, to which she responded by running to my dad crying that I had scratched her and showed him an old wound. My father went ballistic, took off his belt and began beating me. I have never cried harder in my life, because that day, though it appeared I was getting the beating of my life, the belt never once hit me. There was no sting from it's contact and no welts. That day, Christ literally stood between me and that belt. That day, Christ showed me, that He would and could use every single situation in our lives to bring about His glory, if only we would let Him have it. That day, He showed me, that even though my situation on earth had not changed, I was thriving when I should be dieing, because of the Christ that I had fallen in love with some years earlier.

I love stories like the one you shared because it demonstrates all over again the wonder and power and love of the living God. It shows the same power and love that I have known in my life, revealing a new sibling for me to love. It shows Him Loving with Isaiah 53 love, a love that heals us by the wounds He bore. Since that day, we have endured much, yet God has always been faithful, always gave us the power to overcome, rather than be swallowed up by the evils of this world.

May you remain strong in our Lord, faithful to His every call, in Love with Him, even when He is hard to see.

 

[Bluelion]

man do I love stories like this about how God does what the world doesn't expect! Go God! I call myself the least, because, as a child, I didn't even warrant my parents love. My father was abusive, my mother was verbally abusive because by her admission many years later, she was jealous. I was plagued with demonic visitations for years and years (long story). Molested as a teen by my brother. Isolated from my peers in school. My husbands porn addiction almost tore our marriage apart. We have been homeless several times over. Beaten up by the church, in one such situation, our two eldest were physically assaulted to the point of near ER visit because of our stand for Christ. The list goes on, and is more boring than it is really worth putting here. Yet, God has ever been faithful. A faithfulness that seem so hard for many to grasp. One such time centered around an incident when I was in high school.

I came to Christ at about 6 years old. My life was so our of control that I knew I would not survive without something greater, that led me to Christ. I came to Christ because of my desire to survive. Nothing in my life changed though, or at least so I thought. Then, one day in high school, I was at home sewing. My sister came in and laid on my back, I asked her to move, she refused...I told her to move, she refused...I took hold of her arms and set her off me, to which she responded by running to my dad crying that I had scratched her and showed him an old wound. My father went ballistic, took off his belt and began beating me. I have never cried harder in my life, because that day, though it appeared I was getting the beating of my life, the belt never once hit me. There was no sting from it's contact and no welts. That day, Christ literally stood between me and that belt. That day, Christ showed me, that He would and could use every single situation in our lives to bring about His glory, if only we would let Him have it. That day, He showed me, that even though my situation on earth had not changed, I was thriving when I should be dieing, because of the Christ that I had fallen in love with some years earlier.

I love stories like the one you shared because it demonstrates all over again the wonder and power and love of the living God. It shows the same power and love that I have known in my life, revealing a new sibling for me to love. It shows Him Loving with Isaiah 53 love, a love that heals us by the wounds He bore. Since that day, we have endured much, yet God has always been faithful, always gave us the power to overcome, rather than be swallowed up by the evils of this world.

May you remain strong in our Lord, faithful to His every call, in Love with Him, even when He is hard to see.

Wow you have a powerful story yourself and with the life you lived we could be twins. I went through the same very thing. I didn't know till i was an adult that being whipped till you could not sit down for hours with huge welts was not normal. I did know the reasons I was being whipped was not right, once for laughing. I was saved at 6 as well, and molested by a baby sitter. Seems i am always battling demons, not a metaphor but literal. My Mom Dad and brother Older, are all jealous of me, and I think that is why I am the black sheep in the family. Everything that went wrong was my fault. My Mom even blamed me for my parents divorce. I was 14 and didn't really know it was not my fault, i thought it wasn't but was not sure. I was bulled when i was 13, i kid spread a rumor i was gay, and every girl I asked out would say to me but your gay. i would say i am not but they would laugh at me. The whole school was against me. So I only went to school a month out of the year. I skip the rest of the time. But the school filed complaints, and I got put on probation. That summer I hit the weights hard and got big, and also worked out on speed bags and heavy bags. When I was 14 I fought a lot because no was I going through what I went through last year. I Had to go to court every time i got suspended from school. My mom was always telling them to lock me up and throw away the key. I was just a bad kid she said. My dad was spending thousands of dollars to keep me out of jail, only thing he real did for me as a kid. Finally, my mom won, one time when i was suspend i had to serve a week in jail. I was sitting next to two brothers who raped there step mother at the same time, and across from a guy who murder his girl friend for cheating on him. Not only did i know i didn't belong there, every one in there said i didn't belong there. I finally got off probation, but my mom had an idea, lock me up. So she would do things like claim i was on drugs and put me in a rehab for 3 months i wasn't. Every other day when I came home from school my mom would be waiting with the car to take me to the doctor and have me drug tested. One time she listed so many drugs she thought i was on the doctor look at her and said lady I can tell you right now he is not on all that because if he was he would be dead. She was always dragging me to a psychologist In an hour long bashing session of me. I learned if i did not want to that psychologist again all i had to do was admit how horrible of a person i was, and say but it couldn't all be me what about my mom, and as soon as they pointed out one thing my mom was doing wrong my mom would grab me and storm out. It would then take her time to find a new person. My mom is mentally ill and has been all my life.

God was always with me though, I know many people say that after you are saved you can turn your back on God and just walk away, But that is not my experience i have been lost and ran from God many times, and God has always left the 99 other sheep and came and God me, every time. God truly has saved me.

I wonder if God would say we are least, some how I have a feeling he is just waiting to tell us Just how much he has loved us. He shows me everyday, but I have a feeling he is holding some back.

It has been just a joy to meet you, and you have been a blessing to me, because God used you to show me there are others out there like me, who have gone through what i have, who love each other and want nothing more than to be with the Lord. What a joy, thank you.

 

[razzelflabben]

Wow you have a powerful story yourself and with the life you lived we could be twins. I went through the same very thing. I didn't know till i was an adult that being whipped till you could not sit down for hours with huge welts was not normal. I did know the reasons I was being whipped was not right, once for laughing. I was saved at 6 as well, and molested by a baby sitter. Seems i am always battling demons, not a metaphor but literal. My Mom Dad and brother Older, are all jealous of me, and I think that is why I am the black sheep in the family. Everything that went wrong was my fault. My Mom even blamed me for my parents divorce. I was 14 and didn't really know it was not my fault, i thought it wasn't but was not sure. I was bulled when i was 13, i kid spread a rumor i was gay, and every girl I asked out would say to me but your gay. i would say i am not but they would laugh at me. The whole school was against me. So I only went to school a month out of the year. I skip the rest of the time. But the school filed complaints, and I got put on probation. That summer I hit the weights hard and got big, and also worked out on speed bags and heavy bags. When I was 14 I fought a lot because no was I going through what I went through last year. I Had to go to court every time i got suspended from school. My mom was always telling them to lock me up and throw away the key. I was just a bad kid she said. My dad was spending thousands of dollars to keep me out of jail, only thing he real did for me as a kid. Finally, my mom won, one time when i was suspend i had to serve a week in jail. I was sitting next to two brothers who raped there step mother at the same time, and across from a guy who murder his girl friend for cheating on him. Not only did i know i didn't belong there, every one in there said i didn't belong there. I finally got off probation, but my mom had an idea, lock me up. So she would do things like claim i was on drugs and put me in a rehab for 3 months i wasn't. Every other day when I came home from school my mom would be waiting with the car to take me to the doctor and have me drug tested. One time she listed so many drugs she thought i was on the doctor look at her and said lady I can tell you right now he is not on all that because if he was he would be dead. She was always dragging me to a psychologist In an hour long bashing session of me. I learned if i did not want to that psychologist again all i had to do was admit how horrible of a person i was, and say but it couldn't all be me what about my mom, and as soon as they pointed out one thing my mom was doing wrong my mom would grab me and storm out. It would then take her time to find a new person. My mom is mentally ill and has been all my life.

God was always with me though, I know many people say that after you are saved you can turn your back on God and just walk away, But that is not my experience i have been lost and ran from God many times, and God has always left the 99 other sheep and came and God me, every time. God truly has saved me.

I wonder if God would say we are least, some how I have a feeling he is just waiting to tell us Just how much he has loved us. He shows me everyday, but I have a feeling he is holding some back.

It has been just a joy to meet you, and you have been a blessing to me, because God used you to show me there are others out there like me, who have gone through what i have, who love each other and want nothing more than to be with the Lord. What a joy, thank you.

Most people live with the desire to awake from this life in heaven, I live to hear my Lord say, "well done my good and faithful servant"...I need nothing else in my life but to hear those words from my Lord and King.

May we both run the race till the day we are delivered into our King's hands and there find just how truly wonderful and amazing He finds us to be. You too have blessed me abundantly...