adultery

[Shrek]

How do I overcome the sin of adultery

 

[LovingMother]

Well, to be honest, that's not the easiest question to answer. I myself succumbed to adultry via cybersex. My marriage was a strong one. My husband was very hurt, but I promised him I would never do it again and he trusted me because I don't make promises to him that I don't keep. I don't doubt that he wonders from time to time, but he gave me that second chance. It hurts me to hurt him, so I can't hurt him again.

I don't kow what your situation is exactly, but I would suggest that you pray and pray a whole lot. Pray for help and guidance. With the Lord's help, you can overcome anything. For me, it was hard at first, but once I had left it behind for long enough and gave that burden to God, I no longer had the desire. Maybe you, too, will find that if you make it through the tough part of moving away from adultery, then you will reach a point where it's not even a problem anymore.

First and foremost, though, you have to remove yourself from the situation, from the temptation. If it's on the computer, then get off of your computer. If you go somewhere with somebody, don't go there. Get away from it and pray. Instead of doing the bad deed, lock yourself in a closet and pray.

I hope this helps. I will pray for you, too.

 

[Christi]

How do I overcome the sin of adultery

I'll keep you in my prayers, Shrek. This is a struggle that definitely needs much prayer, from you and us. If you have a Christian friend that you can talk about this to, who may be able to hold you accountable, that will probably be a support you need at this time. I'll pray right now and daily for you.

 

[Inspired]

How do I overcome the sin of adultery

Not quite sure what you mean by overcome.
Do you want forgiveness form God? That one is easy, just ask and believe.
Do you want to make things better with your spouse? Not so easy, you have broken the bond. It's hard to build back that trust, it's takes alot for a person to even be willingly to consider overcoming that obstacle with someone.

ing for you.

 

[BarbB]

Try the website newlife.com - It's Christian and has helped me with a number of issues. Run by psychologists! God bless you and your family!

 

[wvmtnkid]

Overcoming adultery is not just 1,2,3, and your done. A bond of trust has been broken and may not be so easy to build back up. It will take alot of work on the part of the person who has broken that bond.

Forgiveness is a key issue, both from God, for adultery is sin, and from the person it is committed against. That one may be a bit harder. Once we are hurt and betrayed, it is hard to trust again.

To overcome, I would suggest putting behind anything that causes you to stumble, no contact with the person who adultery was committed with. Ask God to help you with your feelings and for healing of the relationship. Pastoral counseling may be needed with your spouse to help resolve the issue and to get the marriage back on track.

 

[Lee]

How do I overcome the sin of adultery

My friend it does seem like you are in a hard situation. I do not know how bad your situation is, but I can give you the bit of advice for a practical way.

Here is just a few basic steps:

1) Try to isolate yourself from the things that are causing you to sin.

2) Commit yourself to prayer and fasting.

3) If possible, find a godly person (suggesting a man if you are a man) to be your accountability partner. This means that person must keep you in account with everyday activities. I mean he should just make sure that you are not sinning every day.

4) During all this activate your faith in Jesus Christ. Rededicate your love to Him.

5) Also during all this, get that accountability partner to keep prayering for you. Meet you at least 3 times a week for the first few months. Until you grow stronger in your spiritual defense, then you can meet regularly on a basis.

My friend. Turn to Christ for this. Ask for forgiveness. And you will need to ask for your wife (if you are married) for forgiveness later on. Always have your accountability partner hold you for your actions and witness what you do.

 

[desi]

How do I overcome the sin of adultery

Don't do it.

 

[LN]

I have a friend who did it. Almost broke up her marriage. It was bad.

Obviously the hardest part is forgiving yourself. I'm not sure she had even done that yet.

The second hardest part is your spouse forgiving you. I think that is where the counselor should come in...

 

[Yitzchak]

To use what sounds like a cliche. You need to own responsibility for the problem. That is the first step. No double mindedness about who is responsible. No justifying or blaming others. The problem will either be solved or not be solved with you.
Second step is to seek the help you need to succeed. That is first of all prayer and maybe fasting too. It also is counseling with a good christian counselor. No using the excuse that is is too hard. You are responsible for finding the help you need and solving the problem.
Third step is restitution. Which means doing what is in your power to repair the damage and make ammends.
I will pray for you that you will succeed in this thing.