Adultery question

[agyevesam]

I would want to know, but with that being said, I would kick my husband out. I hear women all the time, say that they forgave their husbands and moved on. That is amazing, and truely God-like! Me, no way. Not to be too graphic, but there is no way I would allow my husband to be inside of me after he had debased himself my being inside of another random woman!!! I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but sex is the most intimate of relationships and for the person that you are supposed to able to trust above all others, your spouse, too cheat is absolutely IMO unforgivable. I know that we are supposed to forgive, as God forgives us, but.....I know that there is no way I could forgive my husband....

You and your wife are in my prayers... God Bless

 

[Devasha]

I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but sex is the most intimate of relationships and for the person that you are supposed to able to trust above all others, your spouse, too cheat is absolutely IMO unforgivable. I know that we are supposed to forgive, as God forgives us, but.....I know that there is no way I could forgive my husband....

I used to feel exactly the same way and in fact did divorce my 1st husband for adultery, but I have lived long enough to have had plenty of time to reap what I sowed with that decision. Its effects on me and my children helped me to see forgiveness as a preferable option when faced with the same decision a second time.

Sex is only as intimate as the partners involved. People have sex all the time without intimacy. But the marital relationship (and the sexual union therein) is the earthly representation of Yeshua and His bride, and keeping that in mind helps. We sure don't come to Him nice and clean and spotless, yet He embraced us "while we were yet in sin". I owe Him everything, and anything I do for my husband, He says I am doing unto Him.

I'm not saying it is easy. It is the hardest thing I've ever done, and I never could have done it without holding onto YHVH and His promises for dear life, but I know watching my younger children go through what my older children have would be far worse. I don't intend to give satan the satisfaction of adding another destroyed marriage and family to his scrap pile of destruction.