adoption?

[BarbBlessed]

Sidnee,

My husband and I prayed for a child for years, and God answered our prayer through adoption.

Our daughter Joanna's birth mother was young and not ready to be a parent. It's an open adoption - Joanna knows her birth family and has regular contact with them, but we are her parents.

I believe with all my heart that God planned our family long before any of us were born. My heart aches for mothers who have to make the difficult decision of giving a child up for adoption, but I believe that in many cases adoption is the most unselfish decision a woman can make.

Please remember that God is in control. You may feel that your baby was conceived by mistake or by accident - but God has a plan for that baby's life. Perhaps His plan is for you to parent this child, perhaps it isn't. Please read James chapter 1. God promises to give His wisdom to those who seek Him.

I prayed for you and your child before I typed this post.
I will continue to pray for you both.

 

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[Johnnz]

No simple answers. Whereas the two parenting family is God's model life is more complex at times. In biblical times people lived in wider social groups. the nuclear family did not exist. Children had widespread support.

It is a huge responsibility to have your child adopted. It is equally huge to commit yourself to that child for life as a single parent. Your hopes, financial situation, support and dreams are all tied up in your decision. Ideally, if you are do become a single parent than your church should recognise its responsibility towards you.

Our son has two adopted children. The eldest came from what would have been a disastrous situation for him. He is much better off with my son and his wife. Their second child was from a lovely Christian family. The mother agonized over the decision, and chose her independence and blossoming career, and her daughter was adopted into a wonderful family.

You need the loving support of your Christian community provided they guide you will real wisdom and a genuine commitment.

Bless you
John
NZ