Adoption and Being Single

[BeautyForAshes]

I'll be the first to admit that this has been on my spirit for a long time but I never pursued it further because I really do believe that a child needs both a positve male and female parental figures. But a few months ago I met one child in particular that I can't stop thinking about over these last few months so i was wondering if a single parent home would be good enough (in the sense of the child receiving enough personal attention from me as opposed to time spent in daycare and latch-key programs because I do have to work).

Anyway, what is your opinion about a single person adopting a child?

 

[Kelly]

I wouldn't, personally. I think there are too many factors that could negatively impact the child. No father figure, too much time at day care, etc.

What is his/her situation now?

 

[Im-revived]

I think that it wouldn't be very healthy for a single parent to adopt. Being an adopted child myself. Many adopted children have had maybe rough times and not recieved much Love. They need a new Mum and Dad for the love and security to return.

 

[immersedingrace]

Having worked with "foster kids" who have been in limbo much of their childhood, I definitely believe that a loving single parent can give just as much love and security as two parents. Yes, ideally, two parents are best. However, if singles DON'T adopt, these kids may very well end up in "the system" for the rest of their lives, which is NEVER healthy! Also, think about some of the foreign orphanages? I mean, do you honestly believe those children are better off in an institutional setting than in a family? I don't. If, as the social worker, I came across two sets of prospective parents - 1 single, 1 a couple-and all else being equal, I would definitely give preference to the couple. However, if the single person seemed a better parent than the couple, I'd choose the single.

Adoption has always been on my heart. I would not hesitate on adopting if I were in a financial position to do so. Kids need permanent homes and being with a single mom or a single dad is definitely better than some of the situations I've seen for kids.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

What is his/her situation now?

Right now he is in a foster home. He just had surgery to correct a problem with his legs (he is in a wheelchair) so once he recovers, he will be able to alternate between the wheelchair and crutches. He is 6 years old. The other thing I forgot to mention is that he is also a different race than I am, so I'm hoping that wouldn't be an issue as well.

This is all I know since I haven't officially submitted any paperwork to be considered. Mainly because I'm right now trying to discern if this is something that God wants me to do (versus my own human nature that wants to adopt every homeless kid in the US lol ).

 

[auerpower]

I think that if God is leading you to this choice, then he will be sure that you can handle it. I have considered being a foster parent some day as well...and will do that in time. Right now, I need to make some more money...lol.

 

[immersedingrace]

Right now he is in a foster home. He just had surgery to correct a problem with his legs (he is in a wheelchair) so once he recovers, he will be able to alternate between the wheelchair and crutches. He is 6 years old. The other thing I forgot to mention is that he is also a different race than I am, so I'm hoping that wouldn't be an issue as well.

This is all I know since I haven't officially submitted any paperwork to be considered. Mainly because I'm right now trying to discern if this is something that God wants me to do (versus my own human nature that wants to adopt every homeless kid in the US lol ).

His being of another race is irrelevant. The last I knew, it was illegal to use the race card in adoptions though some were advocating for same race adoptions only.

I know what you mean about wanting to adopt all the kids. I worked with a little boy as a caseworker who stole my heart. As a matter of fact, he's why I quit. I hated the way they were messing with his life. Last I heard, he was still in foster care and unadopted. When I left almost 7 years ago, I was in the middle of an adoption for him and his little sister. His little sister was adopted, but the agency wouldn't allow him to be adopted by the same family. REALLY ticked me off! Anyway, sorry to rant, but I definitely know how you feel. I would have adopted him in a heart beat had I been financially stable.

 

[Kelly]

It's very noble. I hope God gives you a clear answer on this.

 

[MBElijah]

Go for it!
I would do it if I felt I could afford it.

So many Children just need someone! It can be very heart breaking, once you start looking at the need in this country!

 

[JamieGraham]

i was wondering if a single parent home would be good enough

Lets be real here -

right now the child has...

NO - real home
NO - Mom
NO - Dad
NO - family extensions
NO - interpersonal love
NO - relationship with God (not on a regular basis and is not taken to church etc)

HOW IN THE WORLD COULD YOU BOIL THIS DOWN TO THE FACT THAT YOU WOULD NOT BE GOOD ENOUGH?

WHEN IN FACT YOU ARE A BLESSING TO THAT CHILD - SENT FROM GOD!!

GO AND ADOPT AND SEND US A PICTURE!!

GOD BLESS YOU!!

Rev. Jamie

 

[OceanAngel]

I agree with the above, If I was in right situation, I'd adopt in a heartbeat, Its one of the only fews I'll ever have children.

One loving parent beats two who don't in my book.

 

[AJPM]

If you are finacially able to do it, i say go for it! Im adopted myself so i know it's better to be love by one person than no one at all.

 

[eturner74]

If you are financially able go adopt him

 

[JamieGraham]

HI there ....

Just wondering if you have progressed with the adoption progress at all?
I am waiting for that picture!!!

Blessings to you and the lil one!

 

[JPPT1974]

You do have to have money
Like those stars in Hollywood
Who are able to adopt I'm afraid.