- Oct 13, 2019
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There was the body removal of the four year old and a couple other things that hit all at once.
Got paperwork for mediation so that they can decide whether my ex-wife gets more money or not from me. Plus, I found out that my health insurance is going up another $114 a month to $698 a month. I totaled I will be putting out $2 shy of $900 a month between child support and health insurance. That gives me a net paycheck every two weeks of under $400 a paycheck. It's unlikely that they will find that I can give my ex more money, but it doesn't mean it will be an easy mediation.
She has a lawyer and I don't. I am doing everything pro se. Her lawyer has already said that she will be getting more money for her client no matter what. I realize it's a bluff to scare me and maybe get me to make a mistake, but my problem is that when I am having to argue, I get emotional and then flustered and I shut down. That is not going to help me. My girlfriend and her mom will be giving me flash cards to bring in as neither of them are allowed into the room with me during mediation. I am hoping that will be enough to fall back on and get me to focus.
Then there is the the fact that it looks like I will be getting maybe a little more than $700 a month in pay. I cannot get a second job because my ex will use that against me to reduce the mount of time I get the kids and to get more money from me. Plus, I do not want to have that time taken from the kids that they deserve from me.
So, I do not know how I am going to be able to pay my car payment, car insurance, put gas in my car, keep a roof over my head, pay the utilities and still put food in my stomach and my kid's stomach.
I am barely keeping it together mentality wise.
Got paperwork for mediation so that they can decide whether my ex-wife gets more money or not from me. Plus, I found out that my health insurance is going up another $114 a month to $698 a month. I totaled I will be putting out $2 shy of $900 a month between child support and health insurance. That gives me a net paycheck every two weeks of under $400 a paycheck. It's unlikely that they will find that I can give my ex more money, but it doesn't mean it will be an easy mediation.
She has a lawyer and I don't. I am doing everything pro se. Her lawyer has already said that she will be getting more money for her client no matter what. I realize it's a bluff to scare me and maybe get me to make a mistake, but my problem is that when I am having to argue, I get emotional and then flustered and I shut down. That is not going to help me. My girlfriend and her mom will be giving me flash cards to bring in as neither of them are allowed into the room with me during mediation. I am hoping that will be enough to fall back on and get me to focus.
Then there is the the fact that it looks like I will be getting maybe a little more than $700 a month in pay. I cannot get a second job because my ex will use that against me to reduce the mount of time I get the kids and to get more money from me. Plus, I do not want to have that time taken from the kids that they deserve from me.
So, I do not know how I am going to be able to pay my car payment, car insurance, put gas in my car, keep a roof over my head, pay the utilities and still put food in my stomach and my kid's stomach.
I am barely keeping it together mentality wise.