Sorry about the awkward title - I wasn't sure how to phrase it!
DH and I have an 18 month old son, and we're planning to have a second this year. My first pregnancy went badly on a massive scale, and made me reconsider my wish to have four biological children!
I've always had adoption in the back of my mind. I think, of all people in the world, Christians are more prepared for adoption since we know what it is to be adopted into God's family. How can we do anything less for so many needy children?
Anyway, since having my ds I've been thinking more urgently about adoption. It just seems that, in the UK, most people who adopt do it because they can't have children of their own. I've not met anyone yet who have added adopted children to a biological family, and I wondered how it has affected you, if you have done it.
Although I want to mother any children God sends my way I recognise that, until we adopt any child, my priority is my biological children, and I wouldn't want to make changes to the family dynamic that would harm them. Obviously, once we'd adopted, we'd be as committed to the adopted child as the biological.
I just wondered - did your biological children struggle to come to terms with having adopted siblings? (Am I wrong to assume that an adopted child is likely to require more attention than a new baby born into the family?)
Also, what age gap did you leave? Is it easier for a biological child to adjust to new siblings when they are young, or should we wait until our children are older before introducing new, needier members of the family?
I welcome all thoughts and experiences! Thank you
DH and I have an 18 month old son, and we're planning to have a second this year. My first pregnancy went badly on a massive scale, and made me reconsider my wish to have four biological children!
I've always had adoption in the back of my mind. I think, of all people in the world, Christians are more prepared for adoption since we know what it is to be adopted into God's family. How can we do anything less for so many needy children?
Anyway, since having my ds I've been thinking more urgently about adoption. It just seems that, in the UK, most people who adopt do it because they can't have children of their own. I've not met anyone yet who have added adopted children to a biological family, and I wondered how it has affected you, if you have done it.
Although I want to mother any children God sends my way I recognise that, until we adopt any child, my priority is my biological children, and I wouldn't want to make changes to the family dynamic that would harm them. Obviously, once we'd adopted, we'd be as committed to the adopted child as the biological.
I just wondered - did your biological children struggle to come to terms with having adopted siblings? (Am I wrong to assume that an adopted child is likely to require more attention than a new baby born into the family?)
Also, what age gap did you leave? Is it easier for a biological child to adjust to new siblings when they are young, or should we wait until our children are older before introducing new, needier members of the family?
I welcome all thoughts and experiences! Thank you
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