my opinion is, people accept the person they see in you, not what you see in yourself. it is easy to accept flaws in people when your motivated and no one can see past what they want. to me, that is an encouraging thought, because it doesn't matter if there are flaws for this person. they want me anyways, so why should i worry?
hypothetical example: i could tell a girl that i'm not physically attractive because of my teeth. if she is attracted to me, she already know this about me, and she still sees me as attractive, so it doesn't matter about the actual flaws. the visa-versa would work. a girl thinks she is ugly for whatever reason but if i'm attracted to her, her self-image of what she sees as flaws are meaningless to me because no matter what she sees as flaws, i'll still disagree with her. i think this applies to ones personality and character as well.
point being, we see what we want to see, no matter what flaws are there. motivated by desire, love, hope, whatever other motivators exist, we will always be guided by our desires and no matter what the other side descides is a flaw about them, it will not matter to the side is motivated by desire, their love etc. etc. the odd thing is, what we see, and what the others see is based on the same thing. we aren't seeing anything different, we just come to different conclusions.
does some of my flaws hold me back? anything in my character or personality, no way. i love everything about me in that area. i'll leave it up to other people to descide if there are flaws in it. I do not care either way. If I have flaws, great. If I don't, great. I love who I am. My physical appearance? I have teeth issues. I have at times let that hold me back or cause insecurity in my appearance.
Now? With my desires not really strong enough for finding love, relationships, romance or anything and not knowing what it would take to change that, that flaw is rather inmaterial in regards to finding someone. That's my biggest issue right now. I do not have the desire in me right now for any of it. I cannot foresee that changing anytime soon, and the only way I can see it changing is when a relationship starts again for me. i don't even know why i have become like this either. i mean i wouldn't turn someone down to get to know, but i'm just not looking or worrying anymore. its so unimportant to me now that, if something is low on priority than no flaw could be holding me back. Plus I only have like 2 more steps till I have pimpin teeth again so I have learned to not worry about it anymore.
just my .02