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If someone told me that they loved me in spite of my flaws, I would know right then and there that they are lying lol! If they mention my flaws, it is obviously a concern for them.
I debate myself on this all the time. I want to get in shape lose some weight, so I feel more attractive, but if I met a guy then, what happens if I slip back into the self I am now (overweight by about 40 pounds give or take)? So would I rather meet someone that likes me just the way I am, and then will like me even more when I lose weight, or ? the first scenerio? But I wouldn't want to be TOLD.....I love you even with all your flaws....and I would never say that to anyone else either. We all know we ALL have flaws, but seriously.....
I didn't mean the question to come across that they would blindly say "I love you even for your flaws". As you get to know a person and your flaws start to rear their ugly little heads - and you start to show your vulnerability - there does come a point in a relationship where the couple says to each other, "I don't care. I love you for who you are, exactly as you are". That's what I'm getting at in the OP. Maybe the word flaw isn't used, but the sentiment is still there. I love you just the way you are, I love you no matter what. Take your pick on phrases.
Understood and agreed. Personal growth should be never-ending. However, if we seek to change something, we first have to accept it. The reality is that we are all flawed human beings. So, if we can't accept the flaws in ourselves - and in others - then we can never really love or be loved wholly and unconditionally.I think there is a very big difference between recognizing what our flaws are, and accepting them as being who we are. We should recognize our flaws, and seek to repair them.
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heh I'm always trying to detect my own flaws for correction, catching any new ones popping up and nipping it before it becomes a real matter. Sometimes that takes time too, to even figure out what they are before they get out of hand. Then sometimes long-suffering to correct them if they do get to that point. I notice flaws in others, but I know that there isn't an instant fix that I can provide, but takes prayer, time and growth. In the matter of a couple, I would imagine that the growth of both together would help correct those things in time, and be a better detection opportunity by one to the other.Blind post:
I think our flaws are always larger in our own eyes then they are in the eyes of others.
flnativegrl said:Personal growth should be never-ending. However, if we seek to change something, we first have to accept it. The reality is that we are all flawed human beings. So, if we can't accept the flaws in ourselves - and in others - then we can never really love or be loved wholly and unconditionally.
Ages? You mean as people get older, they get set in their ways? That can be a good thing though, depending on the way set. Just a commentExcept ti does not work in my case (Well your different) obviously.
I accept them, or you mean, notice them thought you meant, depends, saying accept them as in, no worries, I have floors (flaws), yeah them (lol) and that's cool.
Then suppose, but if mean recognize them, I do, most certainly, all 6,975 of them, but too many to deal with man, and you know, ages and, never mind.
My boyfriend thinks im uber good lookin, despite my weight, I dont understand it lol
Hah true. It can vary from person to person, maybe how we are wired? Or however it comes to us. Most of my past gfs were rather thin (frame and weight), yet some were not soI'm going to use your comment to illustrate another point.
We don't always have to understand something in order to accept it. Likewise, we don't have to necessarily understand or agree with someone in order to accept them as a person.
So, don't worry about understanding it, just ACCEPT that he thinks you're uber hot!
Hah true. It can vary from person to person, maybe how we are wired? Or however it comes to us. Most of my past gfs were rather thin (frame and weight), yet some were not soI think in either case, there is beauty. Some women feel self-conscious when they are pregnant, but many men think women look most beautiful in that state; very radiant I do admit.
Do you believe it when someone says that they like you despite any flaws (real or perceived) that you have? I was having a conversation with a friend about this recently - which resulted in the comment that is now a part of my signature. Does worrying about someone rejecting you b/c of your flaws cause you to avoid dating? If you like someone and they say they like you, too, do you worry that they will ultimately reject you b/c of your flaws?
What sort of flaws are you talking about. To what extent does salvation by Christ and becoming a new creation remove these flaws, if at all. If these flaws make us who we are will we have them in heaven?You're flaws are what make you who you are. You can't avoid them, you have to accept them and the person who is the one for you will accept them too.
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