Hi there. I'm fairly certain that my mother is suffering from some mental illnesses. I can't put my finger on what is wrong with her, but I think it might be related to Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Schizophrenia. It's confusing though because she shows a lot of autistic traits as well. Either way, I'm obviously not qualified to diagnose her, but I am fairly certain that she is mentally ill. She told me once that a therapist stated that it's a "miracle that she's able to function in society, and hasn't been institutionalized". She took that to mean that there's nothing wrong with her, which is likely why she so willingly repeats it, but I doubt that's what they were saying. I should probably mention that my mother is a minister. Well, she claims to be a minister. I haven't actually gone into her church to confirm this, and it could very well be some kind of a delusion of grandiose nature.
Anyway...I have a lot of sympathy for the mentally ill, especially when it's my mother, but I am fairly certain that she's been abusing me for my entire life. I'm now 28 years old, just coming to learn that while I believed as a child that I was spoiled rotten and very ungrateful for all that my parents gave me, in reality I was actually neglected, under fed, not cleaned or taken care of. I was put in life threatening situations, verbally and physically abused.
Long story short, I think that I have been very brainwashed to believe that abuse is normal and healthy, and that I should have been appreciating it. Now that I'm an adult, and I have a child of my own, my instincts to protect him from my mother are forcing me to distance myself and him from my family of origin. This is causing my mother to act out in ways that I've never seen before. She's used to controlling all aspects of my life. I believed that the "Christian" thing to do was to allow her to do this in order to "keep the peace". Now that it is beginning to hurt my son, I have no choice but to take control of my own life and protect him. This is forcing me to start to see what I went through in my own life, and how horrible it all is.
Anyway...the more I distance myself from my abusive controlling mother, the more she tries to "punish" me. She's a master manipulator, and she's hurting me in way's that only I can see. This allows her to turn others against me as well. I'm not interested in having a war with her, I just want to protect myself and my family. I want to be a good Christian, and I want to minimize the pain that she is causing me. It seems that the more distance I put between myself in an effort to do that, the more she tries to "get back at me" like it's some kind of a game. It's not a game, I'm not playing, so it's not a game.
Anyway...does anyone have any advice? Thank you.
Anyway...I have a lot of sympathy for the mentally ill, especially when it's my mother, but I am fairly certain that she's been abusing me for my entire life. I'm now 28 years old, just coming to learn that while I believed as a child that I was spoiled rotten and very ungrateful for all that my parents gave me, in reality I was actually neglected, under fed, not cleaned or taken care of. I was put in life threatening situations, verbally and physically abused.
Long story short, I think that I have been very brainwashed to believe that abuse is normal and healthy, and that I should have been appreciating it. Now that I'm an adult, and I have a child of my own, my instincts to protect him from my mother are forcing me to distance myself and him from my family of origin. This is causing my mother to act out in ways that I've never seen before. She's used to controlling all aspects of my life. I believed that the "Christian" thing to do was to allow her to do this in order to "keep the peace". Now that it is beginning to hurt my son, I have no choice but to take control of my own life and protect him. This is forcing me to start to see what I went through in my own life, and how horrible it all is.
Anyway...the more I distance myself from my abusive controlling mother, the more she tries to "punish" me. She's a master manipulator, and she's hurting me in way's that only I can see. This allows her to turn others against me as well. I'm not interested in having a war with her, I just want to protect myself and my family. I want to be a good Christian, and I want to minimize the pain that she is causing me. It seems that the more distance I put between myself in an effort to do that, the more she tries to "get back at me" like it's some kind of a game. It's not a game, I'm not playing, so it's not a game.
Anyway...does anyone have any advice? Thank you.
