I was engaged to a man for 11 years. During our engagement, there was much abuse and infidelity... he was also arrested last December for domestic battery and his trial is still pending (he beat me with a belt over and over again until I was black and blue all over)... he has no remorse for what he has done to me and received a plea bargain for a lesser charge of disturbing the peace... the court is not even making him attend domestic violence classes... he got away with everything.
Over the past 11 years, he also has gone to several prostitutes... and two months ago, he went to an Asian massage parlor and paid a prostitute to give him a happy ending. The next day after meeting her, he dumped me and has been verbally abusive toward me. Now, he has fallen in love with this prostitute (who is still prostituting herself) and wants to marry her (after only knowing her for two months)... he is also taking her to California next week to meet his family.
I am having a hard time dealing with all of this... my self-esteem is very low and I feel so much anger... I am having a hard time forgiving him... why would someone throw away an 11 year engagement for a prostitute he met at a massage parlor and why would someone leave a woman who is attending bible college for a prostitute, and why would someone choose a prostitute over a woman who has loved him for 11 years? He hurt me, he hurt my children, he hurt my family. His family does not care that she is a prostitute... they are totally accepting anything that he does... they think he is a hero.
What kind of a man goes to prostitutes, dates them, and marries them? And, why is he treating her like a queen when he beat me with belts? Why is a prostitute, who is still sleeping with other men, deserve better treatment from him than I do? What did I do that was so wrong that he beat me, cheated on me, and left me for a hooker?
He says he does not want God in his life and that he does not want to be married to a person attending bible college. When I told him I loved Jesus, he hit me over my head with a book several times and told me to get out of his apartment. He is Jewish, she is Buddhist, and he said that he does not want to be married to a Christian (even though I have been a Christian the whole time we have been engaged)... he told me two months ago that he had to marry a Jew (but his prostitute girlfriend is not Jewish) and he said that I cheated on him with Jesus and that if I wanted him back, I would have to become Jewish... yet, he asks nothing of his new girlfriend... she can be a Buddhist and have sex with men for money and be a horrible person, but he said I have to be perfect... and, then he dumped me anyway. She has sex with men all day... then goes over to his apartment and has sex with him all night (after only knowing him for two months)... she obviously has no moral backbone. He actually called me a month ago and told me that him and his prostitute girlfriend are very religious and know more about the old testament than I do... so, I told them both to reread the Ten Commandments about not committing adultery. Yeah, they both know so much that they did not even know Adam and Eve had more than two children or who Seth was or how many people boarded Noah's Ark... all they seem to know is how to have sex and turn their backs on God and Jesus and how to abuse Christian women. I told her how he beat me with a belt and got arrested and showed her the pictures of the belt marks all over my body... but, she laughed at me, told me not to contact her again, and had sex with my ex-fiance. She does not even care that the man she is dating beat me!
Well, I do not know how to deal with this and I do not understand why he did this to me and why a hooker he met two months ago made him leave an 11 year relationship. Now, he is saying thst he never loved me and that he was insane to stay engaged to me for 11 years... he says he must have been out of his head to ever have proposed to mw... I think after 11 years of being engaged to someone and moving them out of state so they can be with you is not a mistake... he knew what he was doing...
Over the past 11 years, he also has gone to several prostitutes... and two months ago, he went to an Asian massage parlor and paid a prostitute to give him a happy ending. The next day after meeting her, he dumped me and has been verbally abusive toward me. Now, he has fallen in love with this prostitute (who is still prostituting herself) and wants to marry her (after only knowing her for two months)... he is also taking her to California next week to meet his family.
I am having a hard time dealing with all of this... my self-esteem is very low and I feel so much anger... I am having a hard time forgiving him... why would someone throw away an 11 year engagement for a prostitute he met at a massage parlor and why would someone leave a woman who is attending bible college for a prostitute, and why would someone choose a prostitute over a woman who has loved him for 11 years? He hurt me, he hurt my children, he hurt my family. His family does not care that she is a prostitute... they are totally accepting anything that he does... they think he is a hero.
What kind of a man goes to prostitutes, dates them, and marries them? And, why is he treating her like a queen when he beat me with belts? Why is a prostitute, who is still sleeping with other men, deserve better treatment from him than I do? What did I do that was so wrong that he beat me, cheated on me, and left me for a hooker?
He says he does not want God in his life and that he does not want to be married to a person attending bible college. When I told him I loved Jesus, he hit me over my head with a book several times and told me to get out of his apartment. He is Jewish, she is Buddhist, and he said that he does not want to be married to a Christian (even though I have been a Christian the whole time we have been engaged)... he told me two months ago that he had to marry a Jew (but his prostitute girlfriend is not Jewish) and he said that I cheated on him with Jesus and that if I wanted him back, I would have to become Jewish... yet, he asks nothing of his new girlfriend... she can be a Buddhist and have sex with men for money and be a horrible person, but he said I have to be perfect... and, then he dumped me anyway. She has sex with men all day... then goes over to his apartment and has sex with him all night (after only knowing him for two months)... she obviously has no moral backbone. He actually called me a month ago and told me that him and his prostitute girlfriend are very religious and know more about the old testament than I do... so, I told them both to reread the Ten Commandments about not committing adultery. Yeah, they both know so much that they did not even know Adam and Eve had more than two children or who Seth was or how many people boarded Noah's Ark... all they seem to know is how to have sex and turn their backs on God and Jesus and how to abuse Christian women. I told her how he beat me with a belt and got arrested and showed her the pictures of the belt marks all over my body... but, she laughed at me, told me not to contact her again, and had sex with my ex-fiance. She does not even care that the man she is dating beat me!
Well, I do not know how to deal with this and I do not understand why he did this to me and why a hooker he met two months ago made him leave an 11 year relationship. Now, he is saying thst he never loved me and that he was insane to stay engaged to me for 11 years... he says he must have been out of his head to ever have proposed to mw... I think after 11 years of being engaged to someone and moving them out of state so they can be with you is not a mistake... he knew what he was doing...
