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Hi Angelsurvive,
I hope you get well soon.You must have gone through much suffering in your life ...
Jesus came to heal the broken hearted and deliver the captive and set at liberty those who are bruised.
Jesus says come to Me all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.

James 1:17
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
 
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I'm OK and I'm On My Way!

The expression “nobody’s perfect” is used or heard almost every day, but it’s true—I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect, nobody’s perfect. Hopefully, though, we’re all getting better and are on our way to perfection. The important thing to remember is that even though we’re not yet perfect, we’re still OK. Just because we haven’t arrived yet doesn’t mean that we’re not on our way.

It’s true that we all still have a long way to go. I used to get discouraged about how far I had to go, and it seemed like I was reminded of it every day, sometimes every hour. I carried a constant sense of failure—a feeling that I just wasn’t who I needed to be, I wasn’t doing good enough, and I needed to try harder. Yet when I did try harder, I only failed again.

I’ve now adopted a new attitude: “I’m not where I need to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be. I’m OK, and I’m on my way!” I now know with all my heart that God isn’t angry with me just because I haven’t arrived yet. He’s pleased that I’m pressing on and staying on the path. If you and I will just “keep on keeping on,” God will be pleased with our progress.

Keep walking the walk one step at a time. This is an important thing to remember. It’s true that we have to keep pressing on, but thank God we don’t have to hate or reject ourselves while we’re trying to get to our destination.

If I invited you to take a walk, you’d think I was crazy if I became angry after the first few steps because we hadn’t yet arrived at our destination. We can understand ordinary things like this, yet we have a difficult time understanding that God expects it to take some time for us to grow spiritually.

We don’t think there’s something wrong with one-year-old children because they can’t walk perfectly. They fall down frequently, but we pick them up, love them, bandage them if necessary, and keep working with them. Surely our heavenly Father can do even more for us than we do for our children.

The process is always difficult. Growing and learning is never easy, but the changes make us better people. We begin to think differently, then to talk differently, and finally, to act differently. This process develops in stages, and we must always remember that while it’s taking place, we can have the attitude, “I’m OK, and I’m on my way!”

Enjoy yourself while you’re changing. Enjoy where you are on the way to where you’re going. Enjoy the journey! Don’t waste all of your “now time” trying to rush into the future. Remember, tomorrow will have troubles of its own (Matthew 6:34).

Today you may be wrestling with a bad temper, thinking if you could just get freedom in this area, everything would be all right. But the thing is, God will then reveal something else that needs to be dealt with, and you’ll be back in that same frame of mind again, thinking, “If only I didn’t have this problem, I could be happy.” We must learn to look at these things in a new way.

We can be free to believe that we are, indeed, OK and on our way—not perfected yet, but pressing on. We can be free to enjoy life, enjoy God and enjoy ourselves.
 
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Hi angelsurvive,
Just want to remind you that you are a precious gift to Jesus from Father God.
Jesus bought you with a very great price,His own blood.
You are greatly loved by Jesus exactly as you are.
Jesus does not have all these hoops to jump through.
He does not place all these expectations on us,that are too hard to bear.
Jesus just invites us to come to Him for rest and healing,just as we are and He will never cast us out.
Jesus understands our weaknesess and frailties.He is touched by our infirmities .
He came to heal the broken hearted and deliver the captives and to set at liberty those who are bruised.
Jesus says come to me all ye who labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.
We are weak but Jesus is strong.
He is our Refuge and our Fortress
Jesus is the Good Shepherd who leads us beside still waters and restores our soul.
Jesus comforts us.
There have been so many times I have hated myself.
Yet Jesus still loved me the way I was.
There is so much in me I want to change,so much I want fixed,so much I want healed.
I look at my short comings and mistakes and wish I could do better,wish I knew how to handle things, wish I was stronger.
Yet must remeind myself that Jesus accepts and loves me just the way I am.
Jesus will make all things new and give me strength and rest.
Same with you,you are very very precious to Jesus just the way you are
Jesus gives us hope and a future.
One day we will see Him face to face and He will wipe all tears from our eyes.
blessings
annrobert


The expression “nobody’s perfect” is used or heard almost every day, but it’s true—I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect, nobody’s perfect. Hopefully, though, we’re all getting better and are on our way to perfection. The important thing to remember is that even though we’re not yet perfect, we’re still OK. Just because we haven’t arrived yet doesn’t mean that we’re not on our way.

great post and good to remember
 
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Hello survivor. You are one of the unique people who have survived continual repeated trauma and you were smart enough to dissociate and heck even creative enough to create alters. You are a person who survived what would have destroyed many others. You will come through this and you are able to be helped, and you will be able to help others. Please keep on working and learning and trusting and learn to thrive in this world. You have so much to live for and so much to give to others.
 
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