about SI

[Imani]

ok... this is just my suggestion, and if you dont want to do it or have it or anything that is totally fine... im just a bit frustrated... and upset...which is leading me to post this...ok now to explain.

I got an email sent to me from someone who read a poem in my journal. It was kinda a harsh email and i really felt like i was being judged and condemned and it hurt me alot.

Now... *taking a very deep breath*... I must admit, yeh this did get to me. In fact, it really effected me badly. I got it a few hours ago, and Im only now ok enough and calm enough to deal with it.

I have not replied to the email... yet... and im not entirely sure whether I will or not. I need to think about that awhile longer. Im not sure Im in a safe enough *state*to be able to do that.

But.. what Im really asking for in this post I guess is... maybe here in the SI forum we could have a thread about what SI REALLY is about... maybe that will help when people who dont understand want to judge us or something...

I mean... I am a christian... or least... Im trying really hard to be...and I do read my bible...and I dont think SI will condemn me to hell... would it??

ARG. ok ill end this by saying... I think we need a thread with general information about what SI is... whether its our own definitions or something from like an official SI site or information or whatever... what do you all think?

Sara

PS sorry this is so jumbled... I hope it makes sense. I had a hard time saying what I wanted to really say with this... it didnt really come out right, but I hope you get what I mean... Sorry!

 

[goldenviolet]

no one has the right to pop someone e-mails that are unkind and condemning. that is not how we are suppose to treat one another as christians. if it is from someone you know... tell them how you feel the best you can. if it is from someone you don't know... forward to staff with an explaining why you are sending it.... or return it back asking them not to send you mail... or ban then on your block list.... or whatever else you think you should do.....then tell someone you trust so you aren't keeping it inside. i'm sorry this happened. our journals should be a safe place to say how we feel. i think you should talk to staff.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I'll try to post something and see if it gets passed and sticky'd. Sorry that happened hun... i hope your ok.

-Jo.

 

[insaneinthebrain]

ok ill end this by saying... I think we need a thread with general information about what SI is... whether its our own definitions or something from like an official SI site or information or whatever... what do you all think?

I find that it's human nature to condemn that which we don't understand. I think this is a good idea, and would be happy to sticky the thread for you.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I just posted it. I hope it's ok to get passed. If not, please PM me why so i can fix it or you can edit it yourself. Thankies.

-Jo.

 

[insaneinthebrain]

I just posted it. I hope it's ok to get passed. If not, please PM me why so i can fix it or you can edit it yourself. Thankies.

-Jo.

I didn't see anything wrong. Of course, I am the king of validating posts that should've been edited first.

Seriously, though, it's floating around for all to check out. I'll wait until it's about to slide off the first page to sticky it.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

There's one more thing I think we should have on sticky. Which is a "I'm confused... Is what I'm doing SI?" thread. Because some people are self injuring and don't recognize it as self injury until someone talks to them about it. And some people are just in denial and just need that extra push to get them to say "I think I need help." So i'm gonna try to post it now, if you mods like the idea, pass it, if not, don't. It's up to you. And if you do pass it, you don't have to sticky it right away, but if you could do that, that would be great. Thankies.

-Jo.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

haha i feel so weird cus now i have ANOTHER idea.

Wouldn't it be nice if we had a post that had ways to prevent yourself from SIing? Just ideas and things. People could add their own ideas and things that worked for them along the way, also. Just an idea. If you like it, you can put it up, or if you want, i can. But its up to you. Sorry if I'm coming on as like... weird or something. I just want to help.

-Jo.

 

[Niamh]

Do you mean something like a list if things to do instead of SIing?
And don't worry, you're not coming across as being weird!

 

[goldenviolet]

i just wanted to put my two cents in!
i read that letter that was sent to Imani......
it would have been edited in here for being very triggering. it was also unkind, untrue, and hurtful.... i sent a letter to the sender after alot of prayer and thought:
moved by the words of God. Sister... peace from our Lord and Master of peace and mercy.
MAT 23:4 For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men's shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers.
LUK 11:46 And he said, Woe unto you also, ye lawyers! for ye lade men with burdens grievous to be borne, and ye yourselves touch not the burdens with one of your fingers.
our generations have laid great burdens upon our children. our ministry is to extend through the world of darkness, a light. the truth of our Lord and Savior's mission of the Father; the gift of peace, love, mercy, and sacrifice: all guidance for reconciliation to His chosen people...The gift of Jesus Christ.
GAL 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
recovery for these mental health issues, is countered by the perfect love of Christ, through the ministering hands and feet of the body of Christ. there is a forum on CF that is just for these kids. SI= self injury. Christ's gentle instruction is in the lives of all of us. a person's journal is an outlet for what they choose. a private reflection. the journals on Cf for these kids reflect their struggles. this is the first stages to getting help. most kids keep it a secret. the cycle of this self abuse is learned. it must be un-learned. the violence and torcher this young girl has endured has caused her vision to be dark and painful. we must be the hands and feet of Christ. brothers, sisters, mother's and fathers to her.... and the other wounded of this world. our sickness has taught our children pains that only God's grace and love can heal.
Love the Lord God with all thy heart, and love one another as i have loved you. love dee
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this above is part of what i sent. Imani .... and everyone
else. when you feel comdemnation. remember Jesus came to save us, not condemn us. we must continue to encourage and love eachother...... my next visit is to CF forum, about juornals. no one deserves to have their journal critized and reviewed like it is wrong. you just journal your heart out on the things you struggle with. if someone doesn't like it's contents.... then they don't need to be there. !!!! love dee

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Do you mean something like a list if things to do instead of SIing?
And don't worry, you're not coming across as being weird!

Yeah. Thanks.

-Jo.

 

[insaneinthebrain]

If you all want, instead of having tons of stickies, we could just stick and "FAQ" sort of thread where links to threads in this forum are provided.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I'm sorry... I didnt understand a word you just said... LOL. sorry... im stupid.

-Jo.

 

[goldenviolet]

hee hee...

jo~ is not stupid!

 

[Ariella]

hi imani, i'm sorry you were hurt the way you were by this persons email ... and hope that you are doing better with it now ... struggling with si is definitely not something that would condemn you to hell .... and God's grace is there for you and His healing ministry

 

[notworthknowing]

ok... this is just my suggestion, and if you dont want to do it or have it or anything that is totally fine... im just a bit frustrated... and upset...which is leading me to post this...ok now to explain.

I got an email sent to me from someone who read a poem in my journal. It was kinda a harsh email and i really felt like i was being judged and condemned and it hurt me alot.

Now... *taking a very deep breath*... I must admit, yeh this did get to me. In fact, it really effected me badly. I got it a few hours ago, and Im only now ok enough and calm enough to deal with it.

I have not replied to the email... yet... and im not entirely sure whether I will or not. I need to think about that awhile longer. Im not sure Im in a safe enough *state*to be able to do that.

But.. what Im really asking for in this post I guess is... maybe here in the SI forum we could have a thread about what SI REALLY is about... maybe that will help when people who dont understand want to judge us or something...

I mean... I am a christian... or least... Im trying really hard to be...and I do read my bible...and I dont think SI will condemn me to hell... would it??

ARG. ok ill end this by saying... I think we need a thread with general information about what SI is... whether its our own definitions or something from like an official SI site or information or whatever... what do you all think?

Sara

PS sorry this is so jumbled... I hope it makes sense. I had a hard time saying what I wanted to really say with this... it didnt really come out right, but I hope you get what I mean... Sorry!

Sara.
I just wanted to say I love you sweetie, and Im sorry I had to go away and was not here for you. Please remember I love you, and I'm only a room away if you need anything.

Love,
Kaitie

 

[Bevlina]

Sara, please forward that email to me Honey? Please?

 

[Imani]

just forget it ok its no big deal and i didnt make this post to focus on the email or get that person in trouble and i dont want them to get hurt either by anything that gets said i just wanted to make people aware more of what SI is and to ask not to be judged thats all ok

 

[sparrow]

Jo is the queen of stickies

*Goes off to find new info threads*

 

[Mr.Cheese]

*hug*
sorry about the email.
Some people just suck.

Someday, when I have time, I would like to write a paper about Self-Injury. Have no idea when that will happen. But I'll keep my eyes open for any articles that may explain things well.