About being a mom!!!

[Melbelle]

Has anyone just sometimes wish you werent a mom? does this sound bad? There is just times when I'm sick of it all and just wish that I wasn't a mom but for the most part I'm happy about it. Is this an affoul thing?

 

[Momzilla]

No, it's not awful at all. I think if you were 100% happy about being a mom all the time, there would be something wrong with you!

 

[Melbelle]

No, it's not awful at all. I think if you were 100% happy about being a mom all the time, there would be something wrong with you!

thank you I guess what makes you the most stress is they grow up so fast...

 

[Tangnefedd]

Of course you wish the little darlings far enough sometimes, especially if you are very tired. My middle daughter screamed for the first ten months and I had sympathy with mothers who smothered their children! When she was really bad I would put her in her cot, shut the door, turn the radio on full volume or go down to the bottom of the garden for a while, just to get away from her. This was a release and saved me from harming her.

For the most part I loved being a mother, but we all have days when we have 'stop the world I want to get off' moments.

 

[Sonifo]

Has anyone just sometimes wish you werent a mom? does this sound bad? There is just times when I'm sick of it all and just wish that I wasn't a mom but for the most part I'm happy about it. Is this an affoul thing?

I feel this way too. I think it is normal. We all have our limits. Just think how the dad feels. My husband can only watch the kids for a few hours and he is ready to pull his hair out. hehee... While we watch them day in and day out and only feel this way every now and again.

My husband and I take some time to ourselves once a week. We go out to eat, movie or just go shopping. It sure helps with releive the pressure from parenthood.

((hug)) You are doing great!

 

[Blessed75]

Has anyone just sometimes wish you werent a mom? does this sound bad? There is just times when I'm sick of it all and just wish that I wasn't a mom but for the most part I'm happy about it. Is this an affoul thing?

Relax, you're normal - Hang in there, I'm now learning what my mother went through..........I don't know HOW she did it and she had 4 kids PLUS she fostered children all the time so there would be at least 8 kids in our house growing up - I ONLY HAVE TWO KIDS - ages 2 years and 6 months. Oh man, I've got a long ways to go...........

 

[TCapp]

Has anyone just sometimes wish you weren't a mom? does this sound bad? There is just times when I'm sick of it all and just wish that I wasn't a mom but for the most part I'm happy about it. Is this an awful thing?

Oh man, could I ever tell you about that! I cannot count the amount of times I wish I could turn in my mama uniform and go back to B.C. (before children) days.

I am a stay-at-home mom of 3 kids under the age of 5. The youngest one is 2 months. I also live far away from my family, in an entirely different climate from where I was raised (Yukon vs. Arizona, here).

I struggle with self-esteem, burnout, loneliness, fatigue and depression all the time. Being a SAHM can be very isolating. I've been struggling for almost 3 years with this, now.

I'm trying to do things to combat these sources of depression. I leave the older kids in day care once a week. I've joined a group of other mamas with little babies and we get together and talk and enjoy ourselves once a week. Now that the days are getting longer and the snow is finally melting, I intend to get out more often and exercise. As soon as the baby can hold his head up really well, I go do the exercise program at the pool (they have one where you can bring your baby in the pool with you).

I sleep a little better now, and wake up more refreshed (thanks to the chlorella). I'm trying to get out with hubby on dates more often.

These things help a bit. I realized that if I don't take time out for me, once in awhile, I'm just going to die inside and be of no use to anyone.

God bless you. Don't feel guilty for having these feelings They are normal (I hope so, anyway). I still struggle with trying not to mentally trash myself (not easy), espeically when it comes to mothering.

 

[Krystina661]

Has anyone just sometimes wish you werent a mom? does this sound bad? There is just times when I'm sick of it all and just wish that I wasn't a mom but for the most part I'm happy about it. Is this an affoul thing?

I've never, even for a moment wished that I wasn't a Mom. There are times when things drive me crazy (Like my Son ) , and I need a break.. but WISHING I WAS NOT MOM?? NEVER!!!

 

[Jinnapiban]

Hey sethsmommy..... I wanted to tell you that I too, like Krystina661 have not really experience not wanting to be a mommy, but I definitely want to relinquish all the responsibility many times! I have been a single mom for 10 years now, my girls were 1 & 3 when I achieved that title.

One thing I found myself guilty of was being a mom..... the girls' mom.... not me, Jinna. Sometimes we lose our identity in being a wife (not my issue anymore! ) and being a mommy. It's really important to be nice to yourself & treat yourself to pleasures that don't come from wife & mom-hood. Don't let yourself get bogged down.... like TCapp said.....

I don't mean to be preachy or over-analytical (it's just my nature, I'm an INFJ) but remember that first you are God's beloved daughter..... and HE loves you just because you are you, no other reason! Isn't that INCREDIBLE? It boggles my mind how amazing God is!

For me, the biggest reason I treasure being a mom is because I didn't have a relationship with my mom & I have always wanted that.... God has given me that opportunity with my girls & I can't tell you how important those 2 relationships are to me! One is my Jewel & the other is my Gift.

Take care & pm me anytime you want to talk!
Jinna

 

[elm1976]

I never wished I wasn't a mum. But on a number of occasions just wished for a little bit of personal time for me. Life in our household can be difficult and I can sometimes be the sole parent around for long periods of time. My hubbie is a shiftworker, with a 24/7 roster so some weeks its me only, especially when his on nightshift, and sleeping through the day.

It's nice to take a break every now and then and do something for me, or go out with out the kids for a evening, but I LOVE being a mum but its a very hard and your always on a learning curve.

 

[Crofter]

I can't clain to say I love being a mum... now or in the past. I think it is just too difficult and society is so anti family that it simply has not been a plesant ride.

I enjoy looking back at photos and remembering the good moments and seeing it wasn't as bad as my memory tells me it was.

I hope in the future I will look back and be happy about these years of parenting, and that I will have found myself a place in life doing something I can enjoy and find rewarding.


I think having kids if you have relatives and grandparents to advise and help and show love for the kids might be nice... people who have that and are not raising kids in isolation are very fortunate.

 

[Crofter]

Okay... I don'y find I feel this bad all the time about being a mum... it's just it's the second week into the school hols... the kids are driving me nuts my son wants to do so much and my daughter wants to do nothing but mooch about being depressed ....I injuted my hand a little yesterday weeding the garded now can't do much with it and my washer flooded my kitchen last night just two days after we finished laying new flooring...so we had to rip up the nrw flooring.... and in all my house is a nightmare at the moment!

 

[Melbelle]

It just gets so hard and well today is the first break I have had since he has been born my husband is asleep and I have all the time to my self and its great my son is at my mother inlaws and its awsome now I need to clean my house lol I don't wanna clean I wanna enjoy this time but I know if hubby gets up and its not done well I'll hear it and Seth is comeing home tonight..well ttyl...

 

[tonya]

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND..BASICALLY WHAT EVERYONE ELSE SAID...I LOVE BEING MACY'S MOM..BUT I NEED A BREAK SOMETIMES..I USED TO FEEL GUILTY FOR THAT..STILL DO SOMETIMES...BUT I HAVE REALIZED THAT I AM STILL ME AND I HAVE TO GET A BREAK SO I CAN BE A GOOD MOM...I CLEAN AND DO CHORES WEN SHE IS NAPPING....WHEN SHE GOES TO BED AT NIGHT I FIND QUIET TIME FOR MYSELF...I LEAVE HER WITH HER DAD AND GO TO WAL-MART OR TO BUY GROCERIES OR JUST TO GET TOGETHER WITH FRIENDS TO EAT OR LAY IN THE SUN...I TRY TO DO THIS ABOUT ONCE A MONTH...