Abortion Survivors

[HisW0rd]

What exactly are they surviving?

I am just curious because I see the look on my sis face when she told me she was getting an abortion like she just told me she is going to go clothes shopping, like this was like buying candy, and she had one before. I have read other things about abortion survivors...um...still not getting it?

 

[joey_downunder]

While doing my nursing training I learnt about how many women later regret having abortions. They can suffer from depression (especially around the "anniversary"), self-loathing, guilt etc.

Imagine the pain a woman who has a miscarriage goes through. Then imagine on top of that someone who is not looking for help, or acts like they're OK because "they deserve to feel bad" and thinks that everybody will judge them and not support them if they do cry out for help. They assume that other people will say " you chose to have an abortion, it wasn't an accident, so get over it by yourself".

 

[HisW0rd]

Well, I just do not understand, maybe because I would never do it. I rather adopt than putting myself in a position where I wouldn't know if I am going to hell or heaven since I killed a living soul. I am sure that this area of the forum is a ghost town because very few "christians" will admit to killing their child. I just figure, it is what it is, so what is to worry about? Only God can judge, but it just hurts and amazes me how 1 in 3 women get abortions, I mean satan is on a roll here. I just wanted to understand something. In their minds, do they just believe that before they do it, they can act like it never happened? I do not think they are bad people, I just want an understanding to why they think its okay?

 

[joey_downunder]

Well, I just do not understand, maybe because I would never do it. I rather adopt than putting myself in a position where I wouldn't know if I am going to hell or heaven since I killed a living soul. I am sure that this area of the forum is a ghost town because very few "christians" will admit to killing their child. I just figure, it is what it is, so what is to worry about? Only God can judge, but it just hurts and amazes me how 1 in 3 women get abortions, I mean satan is on a roll here. I just wanted to understand something. In their minds, do they just believe that before they do it, they can act like it never happened? I do not think they are bad people, I just want an understanding to why they think its okay?

I have been debating how I should answer you. Yes, it is true many christians like myself do not want to say "I've had an abortion". We all know the commandment "do not kill/murder" (depending on translation). Yes it is horrifying that christians have abortions, but remember we are sinners just as much as any other person - atheist, agnostic, any other faith - out there. That is no excuse, but sadly that is true.

I didn't think it was OK. I never thought it was OK. I felt compelled to have an abortion with my Mum saying she didn't want a baby in the house and my doctor saying that because of my medicines there was a high chance of birth defects. In the days leading up to that "appointment" I was in a daze. I was on automatic pilot. Acute stress reaction I did everything to cut off all feeling and anguish about what I was about to do. I had seen anti-abortion videos when I was at Catholic school. I knew what was about to happen.

If she is anything like what I was, she is doing the best to cut off all emotions and thoughts related to the abortion. Some people can do that very successfully. I could not. I suffered extreme guilt and self-hatred for years.

 

[mourningdove~]

Well, I just do not understand, maybe because I would never do it. I rather adopt than putting myself in a position where I wouldn't know if I am going to hell or heaven since I killed a living soul. I am sure that this area of the forum is a ghost town because very few "christians" will admit to killing their child. I just figure, it is what it is, so what is to worry about? Only God can judge, but it just hurts and amazes me how 1 in 3 women get abortions, I mean satan is on a roll here. I just wanted to understand something. In their minds, do they just believe that before they do it, they can act like it never happened? I do not think they are bad people, I just want an understanding to why they think its okay?

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is publicly doing much to answer the questions you raise. As times permits, it might be helpful for you to spend some time listening to some of these testimonies, of women and men that have survived the aftermath of abortion and found reconciliation and wholeness in Jesus Christ.

May God bless.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kcn9ZjBZ64&NR=1
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[HisW0rd]

Thanks on the replies, I actually found some people who talked to me about it. I read the bible and found out that God forgives them but still will be judge for the abortion (like all of us will be judge for our sins), I even found in the bible how those who hate their brothers are murderers too and they will not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Either way, I know the main reason I wouldn't do it is because I would never be the same afterwards. That is a very demonic procedure in my eyes and my sister is damaged for life. I feel bad for her but there is nothing I can do but pray

 

[SharonL]

I have been debating how I should answer you. Yes, it is true many christians like myself do not want to say "I've had an abortion". We all know the commandment "do not kill/murder" (depending on translation). Yes it is horrifying that christians have abortions, but remember we are sinners just as much as any other person - atheist, agnostic, any other faith - out there. That is no excuse, but sadly that is true.

I didn't think it was OK. I never thought it was OK. I felt compelled to have an abortion with my Mum saying she didn't want a baby in the house and my doctor saying that because of my medicines there was a high chance of birth defects. In the days leading up to that "appointment" I was in a daze. I was on automatic pilot. Acute stress reaction I did everything to cut off all feeling and anguish about what I was about to do. I had seen anti-abortion videos when I was at Catholic school. I knew what was about to happen.

If she is anything like what I was, she is doing the best to cut off all emotions and thoughts related to the abortion. Some people can do that very successfully. I could not. I suffered extreme guilt and self-hatred for years.

Joey - I can feel your pain as I read your answer - God gave me a poem in the middle of the night and this poem has ministered to thousands of people who have had abortions - It will bless you - please go to: Diamonds from Heaven click on index and then go to the poem "God never loses even one'

 

[peckaboo]

I told my family about my abortion about a year after it had happened, when a policemen stopped me jumping in front of a train and brought me home. It wasn't so much that I wanted to die, per se, but death was a means through which I thought maybe I could go and be with my baby, be that in heaven or in hell.
My sister gave me a book called "Her choice to heal". The book is written for women who've had an abortion, but she read it herself before giving it to me. She struggled with some of the same questions that you do, but there's a quote in there that she said was very helpful to her - it said, "A woman wants an abortion in the same way that an animal caught in a trap wants to gnaw off its own leg to escape."
Yes, it is a choice, but to many women it feels like the only choice they have.

 

[lindart]

At the time, we were so convinced we had no other options. Damn you Satan! Now, what we wouldn't do to undo this. The grief of this will always be with me.

ProLifers, I wish you were there... I commend your ministry and may God richly bless each and everyone of you!

 

[Elliemare]

Either way, I know the main reason I wouldn't do it is because I would never be the same afterwards. That is a very demonic procedure in my eyes and my sister is damaged for life. I feel bad for her but there is nothing I can do but pray

You are right. A woman is never the same after an abortion. She can be forgiven however, and even take her experience and use it to help others.

Not everyone realizes how damaging and traumatic abortion is to the woman including the women themselves. That is why they need our understanding and support. Especially when we live in a society that tells us its okay. When the medical and psychological establishments tell us that there are no negative ramifications to the woman who chooses to abort, and of course when women are under pressure by others and their circumstances to choose abortion.

 

[hops]

What about the men? do men suffer as much as women do after this procedure?

 

[peckaboo]

What about the men? do men suffer as much as women do after this procedure?

I don't see why not. The men I know whose wives have miscarried have suffered and greived terribly after their loss.

But it's only barely acceptable for a women to say that she's suffering after an abortion; perhaps few men talk about it because it's not "allowed", socially speaking.

I went to a Rachel's Vineyard (abortion recovery) weekend a few years ago, which was attended by about 7 women and 1 man (plus my husband, who isn't the father of my aborted child but who had come along to support me). The man was clearly hurting as much as the women, and I wondered how many other men were in his position also.

 

[quartzy]

Well, I just do not understand, maybe because I would never do it. I rather adopt than putting myself in a position where I wouldn't know if I am going to hell or heaven since I killed a living soul. I am sure that this area of the forum is a ghost town because very few "christians" will admit to killing their child. I just figure, it is what it is, so what is to worry about? Only God can judge, but it just hurts and amazes me how 1 in 3 women get abortions, I mean satan is on a roll here. I just wanted to understand something. In their minds, do they just believe that before they do it, they can act like it never happened? I do not think they are bad people, I just want an understanding to why they think its okay?

Please you need to thank God that you are in the position of a right mind, not all of us are, there are too many factors to consider that are a barrier to childbirth.
Where too live, how to cope and pay for the baby, fear of tyrannical parents that stop us making any choices, and all sorts of other factors, even where to live when pregnant, so that no one would know of our shame. And other factors. Please forgive your sister, she is not of the same sound mind that you are.

 

[mourningdove~]

Please you need to thank God that you are in the position of a right mind, not all of us are, there are too many factors to consider that are a barrier to childbirth.
Where too live, how to cope and pay for the baby, fear of tyrannical parents that stop us making any choices, and all sorts of other factors, even where to live when pregnant, so that no one would know of our shame. And other factors. Please forgive your sister, she is not of the same sound mind that you are.

True.

For some, an unwanted pregnancy creates a crisis for them ...
a kind of crisis that is more than some can bear, the kind of crisis that can become for them a trauma event.

When we are in a crisis, faced with trauma, it is not easy to make the wisest decisions.

Love, understanding, empathy ... it is these things a woman in crisis needs most ...

 

[Mythoughtsalone20]

Well, I just do not understand, maybe because I would never do it. I rather adopt than putting myself in a position where I wouldn't know if I am going to hell or heaven since I killed a living soul. I am sure that this area of the forum is a ghost town because very few "christians" will admit to killing their child. I just figure, it is what it is, so what is to worry about? Only God can judge, but it just hurts and amazes me how 1 in 3 women get abortions, I mean satan is on a roll here. I just wanted to understand something. In their minds, do they just believe that before they do it, they can act like it never happened? I do not think they are bad people, I just want an understanding to why they think its okay?

Well personally I think it was hard for me because I really didn't realize how bad it was until I had seen a video showing what's done that it really weighed heavily on me. But the first time I felt I had no choice. I was only 12 I got pregnant at 11. So legally I actually didn't have a say. But was basically left to deal with it on my own at such a young age. And I was taught that what I was doing wasn't wrong. I now never will forgive myself for letting that happen and I constantly have that feeling of guilt whenever reminded which is everyday. I don't know other people's situations but sometimes things just aren't black and white. Sometimes it's not as clear to one person to what's right and wrong like it is for others.

 

[SharonL]

My thoughts - My heart goes out to you, but please know that if you have ask for forgiveness, you have been forgiven. Also know that you will see that baby again, it is waiting in Heaven for you being raised by the angels.