A Time To Grieve...A Time To Heal

[soblessed53]

[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]A Time To Grieve.....A Time To Heal[/font]
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[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Have you ever noticed the many mixed-up[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Emotions involved in grieving?[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]On the one hand you feel restless.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]On the other hand. You feel like [/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You don't want to move at all.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You feel desperately alone,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And yet you don't want anyone around.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You feel scatterbrained, forgetful, [/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And yet, frantically meticulous.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You feel like crying at nothing.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And sometimes laughing at anything.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Being in a crowd of people is fine[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]As long as they don't talk to you.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And yet, if they don't talk to you[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You feel as if nobody cares.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You want so desperately for someone[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]To mention your loved one,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]To remember the life that was.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And yet it can make you furious if[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]All they want to talk about is the dead one, [/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And never mention the living ones.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Grief settles over you like a hot blanket.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You're as cold as the winter snow.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Grief presses on you like a steam roller.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You're floating in a bubble above yourself.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Grief boxes you in on four sides and introduces you[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]To a pain no one should have to know.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]But then, once again, you begin to feel compassion.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You relate to other parents who have had[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]An experience similar to your own.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And eventually, with a light as sharp as a sunburst,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You hear yourself saying your loved one's name[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]With an unfamiliar smile on your face.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You remember some of the funny times,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And feel laughter building in your throat.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]One morning you notice the sun is shining,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]The flowers are bursting with the colors of spring.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Three seasons have passed unnoticed.....[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And, somehow, you are still here.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Even though your loved one is still there.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You feel your heart swell with a love[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]You never even knew could exist. [/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And you find a place in your life[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]For something called,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Peace.........?[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And then, ever so gently, the memories[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]Enfold you in a warmth as soothing as [/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]A cool shower on a hot summer day,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]So you find you want to remember.[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]And tender memories of love lift you[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]To unreachable heights,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]To the brightest of stars,[/font]
[font=Times New Roman, adobe-times, Times]To the loveliest touch of your love.[/font]​

 

[worldwatcher]

Thats beautiful....Thankyou for the encouragment, I'm waiting for the peace.

 

[trumpetwarrior]

Yes, that is a beautiful statement, and I, too, am still waiting for the peace. I wonder how long I can handle it, but I always hear God in the background when I'm overwhelmed, saying "Be still and know that I am God.".

 

[soblessed53]

After 30 really good years of marriage to the love of my life, and then losing my husband to a heart attack,I can promise you the day will come when you can remember your loved one without pain. No one can give you an exact time-frame when that will happen,as grief is different for each person,depending on many things what their relationship was to the deceased and what kind of relationship they shared,how close. The most accurate thing I ever ran across was that say in the case of a spouse that it takes about 1 month for every year you were together. There will be good days before that. Grief is like a rollercoaster,you will be having a good day when suddenly a song,scent,or something brings a memory that sends you crashing.And gradually the good days will start coming more often and lasting longer.
Going through a 6-week grief-support group does help as does reading books on bereavement/grief. May you find comfort in God through this time of intense pain.

 

[Hisbygrace]

Grief is like a rollercoaster,you will be having a good day when suddenly a song,scent,or something brings a memory that sends you crashing

How true this statement is. It only takes a simple thing to bring you down again. I lost my husband of 37 years in 2002 and still have days when I just don't think I can make it, but they are getting farther apart. It's hard to believe but things do get better. I don't think we ever get completely over the lost of a loved one, but we do eventually move on. Your poem is beautiful and encouraging, thank you so much for sharing it.

 

[soblessed53]

You are right,we don't ever get over such a loss,we just adapt,and actually re-make a life without them. We have to learn our life now consists of "I",instead of "we". Losing a loved one to death is the cruelest thing we will ever experience in this life. Praise the Lord, there will be no more death in His coming kingdom! But I wanted to share that there is hope for a better day for those grieving. I never thought I would ever in my lifetime actually feel joy again,but Our sweet Lord has restored my joy. I would not have believed this and probably would have gotten angry if anyone had told me this would happen.

 

[halfaman]

Thank you so much for those beautiful words, I lost my sweet Dee on Oct 15th of 2005, and I have already felt all those things you described, I would give anything I posses, own, my heart, my life to have her back. I know that is selfish of me because she is with our Father in heaven and is free of all her wordly burdens and pain. It is so hard to get through the day without her by my side, her laughter, the smell of her skin....sorry cannot write anymore right now the tears are to great....

 

[CountryLady]

yes, so true. Thank you.