A thread just for Jo!

Ariel · Dec 5, 2008

Could you go shopping? That's what I used to do when I got bad. I went to stores, not to buy, just to look.

Also, I'm wondering Jo. You must be good with animals. Would it be possible to have a part time job, or volunteer working with animals? I'm just thinking that anyone who loves dogs as you do would be such a good person to help an animal rescue society or shelter.

Praying for you! (((hug)))

Jo1 · Dec 5, 2008

Ariel said:
Could you go shopping? That's what I used to do when I got bad. I went to stores, not to buy, just to look.

Also, I'm wondering Jo. You must be good with animals. Would it be possible to have a part time job, or volunteer working with animals? I'm just thinking that anyone who loves dogs as you do would be such a good person to help an animal rescue society or shelter.

Praying for you! (((hug)))

hi Diana I dont think I would be very good. Im actually a bit scared of dogs Im ok with gentle ones. Sandy who I looked after is between a labrador and an alsation. She is nice. She comes up for a stroke. Then I just shout at her a little bit if she gets too close cos im a bit scared of her, I dont mean too. The other time I stayed, she came up for a stroke then she put her back close to me and let me pat her. I felt it was her way of reaching to me I suppose, I felt touched.
I got barked at when I was younger and guess I got the fear from there. There was also a dog that seemed to be quite scary living near us, and she would come out and bark at us a lot. I hated going up that road. Also dad would tell me how he got bit when he was younger didnt help.

FaithfulWife · Dec 7, 2008

Dear Jo~

Oddly enough I think it's a little bit of a good thing that you've narrowed it down to seeming to feeling discouraged at home. Can you think of anythings you can do to help make your home a safe haven and place of comfort for you?

I don't know about you, but here in the USA many people are unemployed or having to keep an eye on their expenses, so I'm going to brainstorm a few ideas that are "not so expensive" okay?

*Bring the outdoors...indoors! Bring some flowers or leaves in!
*Fill your home with soothing music or christmas carols
*Have herbal teas that are soothing and taste YUMMY
*Okay don't laugh at me--I have a teddy bear and he's about 1/2 as big as I am! He is very comforting when I need a hug but also don't want people "on top of me."
*Make a spot, in your house, that is "Jo's safe spot" and make it as pretty as you can.
*Make yourself a journal, and once again make it pretty--a place where you can write down exactly what you think and feel and it's for your eyes only.
*Find one favorite crocheted blanket or quilt, wash it in super cuddly fabric softener, and wrap yourself up in it when you're home.
*Okay again, don't laugh at me. I took a package of Post-it notes and wrote notes for myself and posted them all over the house: "You are loved" "You are capable" "You are smart" "You are beautiful inside and out" and when ever I looked somewhere I had a note to myself!

Okay--just a couple ideas off the top of my head to help at home maybe. Have a good Sunday lovely!

Jo1 · Dec 7, 2008

FaithfulWife said:
Dear Jo~

Oddly enough I think it's a little bit of a good thing that you've narrowed it down to seeming to feeling discouraged at home. Can you think of anythings you can do to help make your home a safe haven and place of comfort for you?

I don't know about you, but here in the USA many people are unemployed or having to keep an eye on their expenses, so I'm going to brainstorm a few ideas that are "not so expensive" okay?

*Bring the outdoors...indoors! Bring some flowers or leaves in!
*Fill your home with soothing music or christmas carols
*Have herbal teas that are soothing and taste YUMMY
*Okay don't laugh at me--I have a teddy bear and he's about 1/2 as big as I am! He is very comforting when I need a hug but also don't want people "on top of me."
*Make a spot, in your house, that is "Jo's safe spot" and make it as pretty as you can.
*Make yourself a journal, and once again make it pretty--a place where you can write down exactly what you think and feel and it's for your eyes only.
*Find one favorite crocheted blanket or quilt, wash it in super cuddly fabric softener, and wrap yourself up in it when you're home.
*Okay again, don't laugh at me. I took a package of Post-it notes and wrote notes for myself and posted them all over the house: "You are loved" "You are capable" "You are smart" "You are beautiful inside and out" and when ever I looked somewhere I had a note to myself!

Okay--just a couple ideas off the top of my head to help at home maybe. Have a good Sunday lovely!

Thankyou faithful wife I like teddy bears I have quite a few of them though dave is not so impressed.

Jo1 · Dec 7, 2008

Hi everyonewell I havent slept very well last couple of nights
Woke up at quarter to 5 yesterday morning and didnt get to sleep till early hours last night. So that didnt help. So im feeling down and tired today. We didnt go church, didnt think we wod I just havent got that desire to go at the moment I love God and everything but its all so, so difficult. we havent been regular all year really. Though I know its where God wants us to be. Im just so out of touch with it all.
I did manage to do some finishing touches with my cards I made, which was good.

DoubtingThomas29 · Dec 7, 2008

Hey there Faitfulwife that sounds like a good idea to have a teddy bear, I think I'll get one don't laugh at me though, I think that could cheer me up at times for sure, like if I need a hug. I can't have even a cat because my parents cannot stand animals, I am sure they wouldn't mind if I had a teddy bear though.

There is nothing wrong with me, my medications work fine, psychiatric care is working, I tell myself that everyday. There is nothing wrong with me. You guys hang in there!

FaithfulWife · Dec 7, 2008

Jo1 said:
Hi everyonewell I havent slept very well last couple of nights
Woke up at quarter to 5 yesterday morning and didnt get to sleep till early hours last night. So that didnt help. So im feeling down and tired today. We didnt go church, didnt think we wod I just havent got that desire to go at the moment

Oh lovely Miss Jo, I hear what you're saying. I haven't slept with recently either--although for other reasons. And I didn't make it to church either. I know this may sound like a bit of a cop out, but I didn't have it in me to go and face a bunch of people today. * sigh * I get so tired of the struggle and being judged because I'm not perfect, so I took a day away and I don't know if that's a good thing or not. Do you think you feel better because you didn't go? Maybe in a way because you didn't have to face the fakeness...but maybe not because worshipping G-d helps get the focus off of us and onto Him, huh? Well, I suggest that we go to bed early tonight with a nice cup of warm herbal tea to make us sleepy.

I did manage to do some finishing touches with my cards I made, which was good.

Oh I wanted to make card this year! Of course I'm so busy I haven't BUT! I did put up the family Christmas lights today and dear hubby and I are singing Handel's Messiah... do that's Tell me about your cards!! What color are they? Are you drawing them or what little cool artistic thing are you doing? I can not WAIT to hear!

Well I have a newsflash for you Jo...we are not perfect. Yeah that's right but praise G-d He loves us in our imperfection and I love ya too. It's been fun talking to you today!

FaithfulWife · Dec 7, 2008

DoubtingThomas29 said:
Hey there Faitfulwife that sounds like a good idea to have a teddy bear, I think I'll get one don't laugh at me though, I think that could cheer me up at times for sure, like if I need a hug. I can't have even a cat because my parents cannot stand animals, I am sure they wouldn't mind if I had a teddy bear though.

Well...you didn't laugh at me for being a fully grown mom of seven and wife of one--so I won't laugh at you either. It's actually pretty comforting and I will confess (shhhh!) I sleep with my teddy bear at night. Hey--somehow I feel better.

There is nothing wrong with me, my medications work fine, psychiatric care is working, I tell myself that everyday. There is nothing wrong with me. You guys hang in there!

"I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!" that's what I tell myself (thank you Stuart Smalley ). You know you bring up a good point though. Every single day I wonder if I'm helping anyone, if I'm doing any good, if I'm capable of doing this, if anyone likes me or just wishes I would go away. And you know I consider myself to be doing fairly well and pretty recovered...so if I feel that way and you feel that way, I bet a lot of people feel that way and we just never say it!

DoubtingThomas29 · Dec 8, 2008

FaithfulWife said:
Well...you didn't laugh at me for being a fully grown mom of seven and wife of one--so I won't laugh at you either. It's actually pretty comforting and I will confess (shhhh!) I sleep with my teddy bear at night. Hey--somehow I feel better.

Thanks for not laughing at me, I reckon there is nothing wrong with a grown man of thirty one, having a teddy bear and living with his parents. If that is crazy I don't want to get better!

"I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!" that's what I tell myself (thank you Stuart Smalley ). You know you bring up a good point though. Every single day I wonder if I'm helping anyone, if I'm doing any good, if I'm capable of doing this, if anyone likes me or just wishes I would go away. And you know I consider myself to be doing fairly well and pretty recovered...so if I feel that way and you feel that way, I bet a lot of people feel that way and we just never say it!

I think that is a good point, especially with the mentally ill, it is easy for us to start thinking that we are doing a bad job, but you got to psych yourself out of that, and keep plugging along for sure. You ever here that heavy metal soung on the radio? that goes, "One nothing wrong with me, two nothing wrong with me, three nothing wrong with me, four nothing wrong with me!!!!" That is my song for sure, when I am not listening to christmas music that is the song I think of for sure.

Jo1 · Dec 8, 2008

hi everyone I dreamt about my nan who died at the end of August last night. I dont know if im still grieving. She appeared in my room. We hugged each other. I asked her if she was ok, she said yes, though it wasnt a brilliant ok if u see wot i mean. I miss her a lot Christmas wont be the same without her. We will b staying with her daughter and her husband where she used to live, so thats bound to be really wierd. I just cant seem to get in the festive mood really
I made a couple of Christmas cards, with a design that I had done from my suncatchers from a friend. Also Ive made elephant cards these are on different color papers.

Jo1 · Dec 8, 2008

FaithfulWife said:
Oh lovely Miss Jo, I hear what you're saying. I haven't slept with recently either--although for other reasons. And I didn't make it to church either. I know this may sound like a bit of a cop out, but I didn't have it in me to go and face a bunch of people today. * sigh * I get so tired of the struggle and being judged because I'm not perfect, so I took a day away and I don't know if that's a good thing or not. Do you think you feel better because you didn't go? Maybe in a way because you didn't have to face the fakeness...but maybe not because worshipping G-d helps get the focus off of us and onto Him, huh? Well, I suggest that we go to bed early tonight with a nice cup of warm herbal tea to make us sleepy.

Oh I wanted to make card this year! Of course I'm so busy I haven't BUT! I did put up the family Christmas lights today and dear hubby and I are singing Handel's Messiah... do that's Tell me about your cards!! What color are they? Are you drawing them or what little cool artistic thing are you doing? I can not WAIT to hear!

Well I have a newsflash for you Jo...we are not perfect. Yeah that's right but praise G-d He loves us in our imperfection and I love ya too. It's been fun talking to you today!

(((hugs)))) i understand that. Ive learnt a new song on my guitar at the moment, so I ended up worshipping God anyway. I know its not quite the same. I just have no desire to go at the moment. Guess ive been going through so much. Thats why I come on here so much because I dont get support there. Though its no-ones fault.
Hey no we r not perfect. Im sorry you struggle also. Bless u.

Hope you sleep better too.

Jo1 · Dec 8, 2008

Im not feeling good

Ariel · Dec 8, 2008

(((Jo))) Praying for you!

FaithfulWife · Dec 8, 2008

Jo1 said:
Im not feeling good

Oh what's the matter Jo? Is it feelings that don't feel good, or physically not feeling well?

Today I go to sleep in a little (yay for me) and physically I feel medium, which is not great but not sick. I need to take better care of myself! And today my feelings feel raw and vulnerable, but also really glad to have my kids and my dear hubby. We stayed up a little late last night writing Christmas lists for each other and laughing...so that was

So will you tell me what's going on with you?

Jo1 · Dec 9, 2008

FaithfulWife said:
Oh what's the matter Jo? Is it feelings that don't feel good, or physically not feeling well?

Today I go to sleep in a little (yay for me) and physically I feel medium, which is not great but not sick. I need to take better care of myself! And today my feelings feel raw and vulnerable, but also really glad to have my kids and my dear hubby. We stayed up a little late last night writing Christmas lists for each other and laughing...so that was

So will you tell me what's going on with you?

hi faithfulwifehope your ok. Thanks for your message.
I was really struggling again yesterday so posting again in this forum
I should think everyones sick of me by now Felt very depressed. So using my non-coping technique. Just like everything gettin on top of me.
Still been like this all year, just been awful I shall b glad to see the back end of it. Thanx for caring.

Jo1 · Dec 9, 2008

Hi everyone My day has been better than yesterday. Though I feel quite tired and a bit low to b honest. Which I dont want to mention why on here, might trigger someone. I woke up early hours in morning Dave had set alarm for 5.00am I struggled to get back sleep but finally I did to the ring of my father wanting me to come round and make breakfast!
Went for walk in afternoon, and made couple more Christmas cards.

FaithfulWife · Dec 9, 2008

Hi Jo! If you want to, you can PM me about why your feeling a bit low...but if not that would be okay too. Getting to sleep in a little is always nice, but don't you hate it when you JUST DRIFT OFF and something disrupts your slumber? UGH!

Taking a walk sounds great! Where did you go? You inspire me to take a walk myself, so when I'm done I'll write and tell you where I went! Oh, I need to take the time for a walk, life is ... life right now (haha).

Oh please tell me about your cards! I'm literally excited to hear!

Jo1 · Dec 12, 2008

Hi everyoneIve not been on here for 2 days. I needed a break. Unfortunately I have been headachy and not been up to being around anyway. I had to switch my living room light off and take paracetmol last night for it. Anyway thankfully, praise God its better today.
Ive finally got my referral through at a mental health place called Clareden House. Ive been waiting 6 weeks for it. Its basicaly a half an hour assesment how they can help me, in terms of getting more counselling etc. Im pretty scared There cod be two people there interviewing me, as such. Its hard telling a complete stranger that youve not been coping with things Its next Wednesday at 2.15pm BST. I shall be glad when its over. Hopefuly I wont have to wait long to get more help

FaithfulWife · Dec 12, 2008

Oh I am so thankful to hear that Jo! YAY! First I'm glad you decided to take some time for yourself and let your headache go away. I have had those headaches too, and sometimes quietness and no computer glare is helpful.

Second, I glad to hear there is an option for you to get some more help. Is Clarenden House nice? Do you know anything about it? I know it's hard to open up to strangers, but you can pretend it's me sitting right there and you're just talking to me, knowing that I love and care about you.

Right now I'm looking forward to the weekend. Our holidays are moving forward, and as a family we've gotten our tree, put up lights, and done some decorating. But I'm just tired this week! I think it's been all the stress don't you?

I think you and I need a candlelit bubble bath!! Want to take one? I do!

Jo1 · Dec 13, 2008

Thanks faithfulwifeI dont know much about it. One of my friends went there once. Apparently this is going to be an interview where they will be asking questions on various aspects of my life. Im so scared and worried about the whole thing

U can take someone with you, i wodnt know who to ask. My husband will be busy working, and my other friend will b too. Im going to have to be brave.

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