A Re-Introduction

[eawilli23]

Hello! It's been so long since I've been on this website that I felt a re-introduction may be helpful, if not necessary. My name is Elizabeth and I am 27. I have been married for just under a year, and my husband and I have 4 furbabies--2 cats, a puppy, and a guinea pig. I am doubting and questioning my faith at the moment, which is why I've returned to the forum. I am also struggling to save a marriage that at times feels unsaveable. I am the one that wants out, not my husband, but I am willing to try to work things out, because I want to be happy with him. I'm also looking for inspiration and Bible studies to do on my own, as I've never read through the Bible completely. I am hoping that the friendship and encouragement found here will help me get my life back on track because at the moment I feel like it's been derailed completely.

 

[Southernscotty]

Hello and welcome to CF friend

 

[Kevin Snow]

I pray that you rely on God in this time, just put your trust in him. You need to be strong, not for him but for God.

Do you read your bible both day and night? As it says here, I encourage you to begin this practice according to the word of the Lord,

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. ~Joshua 1:8

Your husband also needs to read the word both day and night. If we are not surrounding our day with the word then we are leaking strength and not relying on him to get us through but we rely on our own strengths.

I know its personal but knowing more about why you want to get out would help in being able to counsel you in the Lord. As it is:

For we all stumble in many ways. ~James 3:2

I'm encouraged that you are seeking for help. Counseling at church can go a long way as well.

 

[eawilli23]

I pray that you rely on God in this time, just put your trust in him. You need to be strong, not for him but for God.

Do you read your bible both day and night? As it says here, I encourage you to begin this practice according to the word of the Lord,

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. ~Joshua 1:8

Your husband also needs to read the word both day and night. If we are not surrounding our day with the word then we are leaking strength and not relying on him to get us through but we rely on our own strengths.

I know its personal but knowing more about why you want to get out would help in being able to counsel you in the Lord. As it is:

For we all stumble in many ways. ~James 3:2

I'm encouraged that you are seeking for help. Counseling at church can go a long way as well.

I am reading day and night. I think it's mainly that we've been fighting nonstop for months and I feel so distant from God, like my marital concerns are the least of His worries. Which logically I know to be false, but it can be hard to convince yourself of all the same.

 

[St_Worm2]

Hello! It's been so long since I've been on this website that I felt a re-introduction may be helpful, if not necessary. My name is Elizabeth and I am 27. I have been married for just under a year, and my husband and I have 4 furbabies--2 cats, a puppy, and a guinea pig. I am doubting and questioning my faith at the moment, which is why I've returned to the forum. I am also struggling to save a marriage that at times feels unsaveable. I am the one that wants out, not my husband, but I am willing to try to work things out, because I want to be happy with him. I'm also looking for inspiration and Bible studies to do on my own, as I've never read through the Bible completely. I am hoping that the friendship and encouragement found here will help me get my life back on track because at the moment I feel like it's been derailed completely.

Hi Elizabeth, and WELCOME BACK

The first year of marriage is often the toughest, but our "tough" times are often the ones the Lord uses to get us where we need to be, IOW, closer to Him So go to Him and ask Him for His help in this as He is definitely pro-marriage (and if you haven't done so already, go see your pastor as well, both for his counsel, and so he can be praying for you, your husband and your marriage too).

God bless you! (Numbers 6:24-26) (praying for you too!)

--David
p.s. - have you two ever given one of Cru's (Family Life Ministry's) "A Weekend to Remember" a try? If not, I would HIGHLY recommend it. You will not only get some great tools to help get your marriage through the rough patches, it will be one of the most memorable and FUN weekends you've ever had!!

 

[eawilli23]

Hi Elizabeth, and WELCOME BACK

The first year of marriage is often the toughest, but our "tough" times are often the ones the Lord uses to get us where we need to be, IOW, closer to Him So go to Him and ask Him for His help in this as He is definitely pro-marriage (and if you haven't done so already, go see your pastor as well, both for his counsel, and so he can be praying for you, your husband and your marriage too).

God bless you! (Numbers 6:24-26) (praying for you too!)

--David
p.s. - have you two ever given one of Cru's (Family Life Ministry's) "A Weekend to Remember" a try? If not, I would HIGHLY recommend it. You will not only get some great tools to help get your marriage through the rough patches, it will be one of the most memorable and FUN weekends you've ever had!!

Thank you for the warm welcome back, David! I actually have an appointment with our pastor this week, so hopefully that will help put things in perspective. We have not tried A Weekend to Remember, but will definitely look into it!

 

[Kevin Snow]

I am reading day and night. I think it's mainly that we've been fighting nonstop for months and I feel so distant from God, like my marital concerns are the least of His worries. Which logically I know to be false, but it can be hard to convince yourself of all the same.

Let me ask you, do you understand that your man is your head and that you are there to help him? First and foremost is this a struggle for you? Is he your leader in this walk of life?

 

[St_Worm2]

Thank you for the warm welcome back, David! I actually have an appointment with our pastor this week, so hopefully that will help put things in perspective. We have not tried A Weekend to Remember, but will definitely look into it!

That's great, and seeing your pastor is definitely the place to start Whenever I have big problem, he's the one I call first!

Yours and His,
David

 

[eawilli23]

Let me ask you, do you understand that your man is your head and that you are there to help him? First and foremost is this a struggle for you? Is he your leader in this walk of life?

I do understand that my husband is the head, but it's not a struggle for me. However, I do not feel like he is my leader in this walk of life. I almost feel as if it's the blind leading the blind, so to speak.

 

[4x4toy]

Hello Sis ..

 

[Kevin Snow]

I do understand that my husband is the head, but it's not a struggle for me. However, I do not feel like he is my leader in this walk of life. I almost feel as if it's the blind leading the blind, so to speak.

Ok that is something to work with. Hmm...are you fighting about petty things then? It always takes time to get a ship turned round. Remember that

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, ~1 Peter 3:1

I would take a long term perspective with this word and just start doing this:

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. ~Philippians 2:3

If words make fights for you guys, cut them out and start winning him with your conduct. Try that.

 

[God bless Joshua]

I have 4 furbabies--2 cats, a puppy, and a guinea pig.

Those pets make dirt when they poop, better keep some fish in the aquarium.
Just sayin.

 

[EmmaCat]

Perhaps the Chaplains here can help with advice?

I am praying for you.

All good things
Emmy

 

[dogs4thewin]

Welcome to CF. I love furbabi. es

 

[dreadnought]

Hello! It's been so long since I've been on this website that I felt a re-introduction may be helpful, if not necessary. My name is Elizabeth and I am 27. I have been married for just under a year, and my husband and I have 4 furbabies--2 cats, a puppy, and a guinea pig. I am doubting and questioning my faith at the moment, which is why I've returned to the forum. I am also struggling to save a marriage that at times feels unsaveable. I am the one that wants out, not my husband, but I am willing to try to work things out, because I want to be happy with him. I'm also looking for inspiration and Bible studies to do on my own, as I've never read through the Bible completely. I am hoping that the friendship and encouragement found here will help me get my life back on track because at the moment I feel like it's been derailed completely.

Welcome back, Elizabeth. Maybe it's time now to read the entire Bible. Just start at the beginning and start reading. You could skip the parts you've already read, perhaps.