a question

[andrea_andrea]

a few years ago  i lost a very close uncle.... ever since then everything changed... for example  my family never got together  anymore... if they did i want informed of it and i always felt like it was my fault . i know its not my fauly but i have one question? why are they like this? and why wont they let go? if anyone can answer  my mind will be put st eased... i heard many answers but they dont make sence. thanks you for you time

-Andrea

 

[kimmee]

Andrea hun...I know what you are going through sence Iam always around you...things were tight after my cousin died...no one talked and when we did it was fighting...im praying for you!hopfull things will blow over and everything will be cool!
God Bless
luv ya
-kim

 

[psycmajor]

Perhaps you could all get together one day and just sit and talk about that uncle and what he meant to each of you.

 

[fieldmouse3]

I agree with psycmajor!

 

[andrea_andrea]

ya u see that cant happen my cusion just got baptised ( she ouwld have been his 1st grandchild) and her grandmother cried and cried... it cant happen it snext to the imposible ( right now that wut i think) but hopefully before ig ot to collage ( they all know that i want to go away and if i do they all know thati might not come back) because i miss them a lot.... but im jumping into the future im going to constrate on today.... when tomarrow comes ill constrate on it then.

 

[andrea_andrea]

all i want is the best reason to stay ( and as much as i luv ya kim) i dont think friends are going to make me stay...... ( dont get m,e rong i still luv all of ya!) but its soooo fusturating.. thats all

 

[Blessed-one]

some hurt needs time to heal..
and nothing is impossible with God who has His own timing in all things.
*praying*

 

[simplicity]

It's actually a very complicated question, Andrea.

Things might sort out and make sense later. My suggestion is, don't spend too much time thinking about it. Focus on graduating from highschool and going to college. Isn't that plenty to think about? Confusing family problems tend to untangle and make sense as a person gets older.

I think I'm 35 years old now. Speaking as an older person, me worrying about why people are thinking certain thoughts or doing certain things didn't do me much good at all. The conflicts didn't get resolved any faster. But certainly do remember what your uncle means to you.

My feeling is, a young person should primarily be thinking about life and the future. So think about, but don't dwell on death and the past.

 

[simplicity]

Oh, I forgot to say, Andrea, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[andrea_andrea]

thanks!!! im going to see a shrink tho i cant do this on my own

 

[Aussie_Tash]

you know life can suck (can i say that here)sometimes, i feel for you mate, take it to HIM, sometimes ppl just don't want to let go of somebody they loved, maybe they are so hurt, i don't know, but it isn't your fault, i am praying for u