A question for the guys

[Newchopmarty]

I try not to think of it as age. Generally I think guys prefer someone slightly younger than them, maybe 2-3 years. But not always. I usually think anymore than 10 years if both partners are under 40 years is odd and is probably some kind of parental role romance which is weird and, ungodly.

Over the years I have found that some of my most intense connections were closest to my age and from a similar cultural background. I am 38 by the way, single, never married. Being under 35 and single never married seems OK in general but it seems like every year past that with no marriage gets weirder and stranger. And I've noticed a declined sense of desire...which isn't exactly "romantic" sounding, but it makes me think of how much more life has to offer.

 

[Ubuntu]

This is an old thread, but I'll chime in.

I'm not necessarily saying that it's completely out of the question to marry someone 7-8 years older than myself. However, for a woman aged 42-43 the menopause will be just around the corner. I'll readily admit that I think the menopause is a little scary, for many reasons.

That's why I would prefer a woman around my same age. However, if God clearly showed me that he wanted me to marry someone 8 years older than myself, I wouldn't object. I trust that God knows what's best for me.

 

[miss-a]

Here's the truth about menopause. It is a difficult time for many women, but that is not what God or our bodies intended. It is the stress we live under and lack of good self-care that causes the imbalances that cause the horrific symptoms. So the secret, guys, is to do all you can to relieve your wife's stress prior to the meno years. And also support her in taking care of herself. A great way to do this is for both of you and/or the whole family choose a lifestyle that puts health as a high priority, eating healthily, exercising and also treating emotional and spiritual health as high priorities. Then when those years roll around her body is ready and adjusts more easily.

Additionally, all the stuff you hear about menopause adversely effecting marital relations is also caused by imbalances due to stressors such as poor diet, inadequate exercise and too much stress in general. You see the world has forgotten that the current world system was designed by men. As women, we try our darnedest to fit into it, but it is not natural for us to do things the way this world does them. this cause huge stress. I realize our men cannot change the entire world for us, but within the household they can do a lot. The Bible says to live with us "with understanding." It would go a long way if men can realize this world is hard on us and we need our mates not to be. God does not tell men to be good to their wives just for the wives. It comes back around on the husbands. If he is good to his wife, she has less stress and he has a better wife. If a man does what he can to relieve her stress it will benefit everyone.

It really can be a win/win. Our loving Dad designed it that way. So don't let the fear menopause turn you away from that gorgeous women who's no longer thirty. If you are welcomed into her life you can have a great deal to do with how she will experience menopause and therefore how you will. How cool is that!?!

 

[OGM]

Age does not matter too much with me... Besides if I were to get married I would probably have a vasectomy. There are certain genetic irregularities I would not to have passed on.