shinbits
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While I agree that sex should be reserved for marriage, I don't think this is a good reason why. Most recreational activities are self-gratifying. I play video games not because I want to help the human race, become closer to someone, or anything like that. It's purely about me, and having fun. Doesn't mean those things are wrong. And if I play a game or video game with someone else, the motivation is still that I want to have fun. I may be "using" that person to have fun, but it's still not wrong.it's interesting to note that in the above responses no one has yet figured out exactly why sex is reserved for marriage, but there is a lot of talk about 'i've got it, why can't i use it?"
one of the reasons to keep sex confined to marriage is because sex (when well done) is a gift of oneself to their partner. it's also the most vulnerable and open you'll ever be, whether you are a man or a woman.
sex outside of marriage is all about self, and is driven by thoughts of one's own pleasure and needs. it's basically using someone else to relieve hormone-driven thoughts and urges.
there's no respect or caring or committment or sharing or love involved. it de-personalizes what should be a very personal act between two people.
Honestly, outside of religious reasons, there no real reason why pre-marital sex is wrong. Premarital sex certainly isn't as safe as abstinence till marriage, and certainl puts one at a disadvantage if kids result from a pre-marital fling. But as far as "wrong", there's no real reason that can be given, except that this is what God intended, and we should follow it---but that's purely a subjective reason, and depends on one to believe in God, and also agree with God.
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