hilarious!
that is exactly what I meant
with the one small difference that "the box" I propose exists in relation to God in some way
There were people who assumed the box was related to God in some way as well.
is it limiting someone's freedom to suggest that a relationship should be there, if I do not force that person to adopt a particular relationship?
You are missing something more simple. It's not limiting freedom to suggest while not forcing ... but you are disrespecting someone's personal space if they didn't invite it in the first place. And secondarily, you may be cheapening the very thing you are suggesting depending on how you suggest it.
Let's say I have a picture of a hot girl that I once dated whom I claim I really did care about, who is now free to date and I have no qualms about "offering her" to others to suggest they date her. So I go around taking pics of her, telling everyone about her, suggesting they date her. Some would liken me to a pimp. Some would think I was completely disrespecting the girl. Some would be made very uncomfortable by what I was doing. Some might be fine with it for any number of reasons: they like pics of hot girls, they want a shot at her because they think she might be easy, whatever. But is this typically how a real, lasting, trust building and forming, significant relationship is formed with someone ? By someone pimping out another ? And also ... what does that say about me and the way I value the relationship I had with her, and the way I value women in general ? What does that suggest about her that she may have chosen to date me at some point ? See all the potential ramifications ?
However let's say I am actually the most generous and genuine and innocent person you could imagine, and this girl is sincere, caring, genuine too, etc. She really is a catch of a lifetime, and even though it looks like I'm completely devaluing and trivializing humanity and serious relationships by my actions ... for each person who passes the opportunity they are truly passing up an opportunity. Let's say someone figures this out, and decides to go for it. "Give me her number, I'll call her ..."
What happens if that person never gets her to answer her phone, call him back, return the texts, etc ? IOW ... for all intent and purposes, that person never sees one shred the girl even existed ? Should I keep telling him not to give up, she really is great ? Let's say this person begins to do some research ... and come to find out, there are a LOT of people who claim to have dated her. But also a lot of people who claim to have tried and never saw proof she was even real either. They are disappointed, angry, disillusioned ... they were lead on, only to be disappointed. Let's say some people even gave all they had in a leap of chance to make this girl their one in a million ... and they got nothing but broken hopes.
See some of the issues with playing matchmaker uninvited ? Are you limiting their freedom ? Not necessarily, they still have choices to respond to your marketing strategies. But will YOU take any responsibility when things fall through, or are you going to blame them or this girl who never seems to show her face to them ?
Now ... think back to someone you actually loved in your life. Someone you actually treasured, valued, cared for deeply and they you. I'm guessing you had intimacy on some level ... even if it wasn't physical, it could have been deeply personal and emotional. You connected in a way that the two of you shared things with each other because you trusted each other in certain ways. Through experience and time, you built a relationship, earning trust, finding common ground, exploring what it means to love and be loved. Now ... did you EVER treat this person like I described above ? Did you go around telling everyone their secrets, trying to force others to have relationships with them ? Did you run around showing pics of her naked, etc ? People that do that kinda thing, are typically more about bragging rights. Not someone they love, may be jealous over, etc. Typically. What it would say if you were casting those pearls like that ?